Why do we find it difficult to forgive ourselves?

Its because sometimes we get a chance to make a difference, alter the course of an event when it is in its initial stages but we dont realize it and knowingly or unknowingly let that chance go. So when the mistake grows big, facing like a giant we only have ourselves to blame; "why didn't I do it when I had the time". Its then we realize how ignorant we were and how we chopped our foot with our own axe .

Hi Pose: I understand what you mean. In my own experience, I think it's more difficult to forgive ourselves for our mistakes because we have an ego and a self perception that is broken when we must admit that we commit a mistake. People who has discipline in their lives, sometimes make the mistake of trying to be perfect when we are humans. We can improve but we should be prepared to fail sometimes. ALVARO

You hit the nail on the head with this one. One thing I have found that helps is when I revisit a situation that I feel guilty about I try to review it with the knowledge I had at the time, not with hind sight. Most of the time if I do this I realize that I would do the same again if I only knew what I knew then. Usually this gets it off my lists of if only. I have a very long one of those. Blessings

I think that there are going to be a lot of times where we do have to live with ourselves and our mistakes. Given that we are going to really be doing something that we're going to live with at every single moment of our life, we are going to really find it harder to find forgiveness for our mistakes, then we are going to find the mistakes of others. Then again, there are just going to be a lot of times where that is going to live a rather disturbed existence. Therefore, we need to find it within ourselves for forgiveness. It is something that is not the easiest thing in the world to do but it is something that we are going to really feel like we need to do it. If nothing else, if we cannot be at peace with ourselves, then who can we be at peace with? Naturally it is hard to do however for many reasons.

I sure know I am my worst enemy. If I forget or get to where I forgive myself, my brother is sure to tell me how I have not done enough for him. I can honestly say he is selfish and has been babied for all his 50+ years. Well tomorrow is another day and I'll do better then. Ha

Yes, I definitely agree with you. I experienced this recently. I keep on cheering up my teammate and friend about her errors in our game (the Ultimate Frisbee) and the day after that, we had our drills as a team as our preparation for the upcoming National Tournament and I kept on making mistakes on my throwings. I never did well on my backhand and did nothing right. Luckily, after the drills, we had this PRACTICE GAME and I contributed a lot there as their scorer since I am good in my catching skills. I already like my catching skills but feel so depressed about my backhand throws. :( I did not sleep well after that night though

this was my main problem about forgiving others because I couldn't forgive myself It took me years to accept that I am not perfect, I make mistakes too in my younger days I trusted people I just met too fast too easy and so I got burned I'm glad that finally I am making progress starting from forgiving small things people did and said well I also talked back at them but with a laugh, not anger :)

I don't know why we do this...I am very hard on myself. And when it comes to rewards its easier for me to spend money on others then myself. I think this goes back to the being hard on one's self. I have to justify everything I do for myself...where as when it comes to others I am very quick to gift. I wish sometimes I could be less hard on who I am or what I have done....and maybe you are right...maybe just maybe we do think we are being selfish!

nobody's perfect, and one's individuality aspire for perfection and when things go wrong, it is more likely that we tend to blame ourselves for not being able to do what is right. Life goes on right or wrong, the best part would be to learn and experience life as it is. Love thyself to learn to love others, make mistakes and learn.

Hi Pose, I think it is a self esteem issue. We are always lifting others up and putting ourselves down. I’m one of the worst people to self-deprecate. I’ve been told to stop putting myself down, and I don’t even know I’m doing it really. I think I have gotten better at it though to some extent. It’s the way I was raised. You never talked about yourself, or was proud of yourself.. you let others praise you instead. I guess that is why I don’t give myself enough credit sometimes.

I think it could sometimes be memories that haunts us, making us feel guilty for the things weve done, and then find it difficult to forgive myself. I suppose a person has to think before doing or saying something.

no i dont because we always think of others and their well being and most of the time we dont think of our selves. we think of helping others and we forget ourselves. some times we put to high of standards on ourselves and we dont think of ourselves and that people look at us as saveres but we never think that way. standards are what we live by and sometimes we have to stop think and do things for our selves.