Do you frequently quarrel with you wife ?
By Henryhoney
@Henryhoney (82)
China
January 8, 2012 1:12am CST
Greeting all! Happy New Year! I want to ask how to deal with frequently quarrels with your wife/spouse? Recently, many quarrels often happened between my wife and me just since some little things, it's awfully bothering to me. But in most situations, I can bear her unreasonable argues but sometimes I can't, so a few serious quarrels occured sometimes, say a word in heart, I love her in spite of her sometimes stubborn attitudes, I also know quarrels happened between husband and wife is very normal, but her unreasonable requirements or overweening attitude often drive me crazy. Hi mylotters, would you like to share your some good methods how to deal with the relationship betwen a couple ?
11 responses
@parascevi (313)
• Greece
8 Jan 12
Hi
In my opinion quarrels between couples might hide other reasons than the obvious ones. For ex. a bad day at work can lead easily to a little quarrel for a reason that has no significance.
I think that couples should discuss their problems, even the little ones,because discussion and listening to others problems and thoughts leading to a more relaxing atmosphere and connection to each other. Sometimes also we can just leave the other to say what he/she has to say and try not to continue the issue of arguing.
@sadiejane (6)
• United States
8 Jan 12
I agree that quarreling is probably for other reasons.
Maybe one or both feel unappreciated, or their opinion is undervalued,
or they need to display personal power, etc. , but something deeper is going on.
My FIRST husband was never happy, constantly edging for a fight, on anything at all.
My SECOND husband and I very seldom have harsh words, and the disagreement lasts for few seconds only.
I am much happier with my SECOND HUSBAND.
@simsim11 (106)
•
8 Jan 12
It is quite natural to have some quarrels with the spouse. As you said it is all for some silly reasons. When there is sincere love there is chances of quarrels also. But dont keep it for long time. Forget it then and there. Be frank. It is a long relationship and dont take it very deeply. Tell some good words and appreciate often.
@Henryhoney (82)
• China
10 Jan 12
Thank you! As a man, I should pay appropriate tolerance to my wife, Give and take is very important withe a couple, I understand jjust some quarrels that maybe precisely mean my wife love me deeply and she want me to be better. As you said, it is really normal, thank you again, after all, there is still a long way for us to live.
@yanzalong (18988)
• Indonesia
8 Jan 12
My wife and I have been together for over 15 years and had serious quarrels less than 5 times so far. When we fell out, I was able to control my emotion and very often I gave in to her. Many couples split up because they both didn't want to give in to one another. What happened was a marriage breakdown. So, I suggest you control your anger no matter how wrong she is.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
9 Jan 12
Quarrels are but natural for married couples. But if they seem to become so often, or even small things would ignite a quarrel, then it's time for the both of you to have a loving talk about it.
Try to ask her what really pisses her over you so you could compromise on how to go about it. 
@02Alexander (25)
• United States
9 Jan 12
Frequent quarrels are never easy to digest. You need to both communicate with one another and learn to listen to each other's gripes. Quarreling only leads to more problems and more exchanged hurtful words that leaves us feeling recentful.
Arguing is healthy, but to a point when we know our limits. If it gets more serious to the point of losing your temper than you need to time out from each other. Take a breather or walk away before it get's worse.
Good luck!
@kathybrown (33)
• Philippines
9 Jan 12
It is normal from a couple to have some quarrels. For me as wife also maybe there is a problem with you or she wants your attention.Don't let the day pass without solving your problem.It is better to talk to each other so that you would know what is really the problem, because that small petty things could turn into a BIG BIG PROBLEM.And let GOD be the center of your relationship:))
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
8 Jan 12
arguments are really inevitable especially amongst couples. dealing with it creates a lot of stress to the point of reaching your maximum tolerable behavior towards aggression, LOL! if you love your wife, then just be man enough to take it, and hopefully maintain your composure and really try to "fully understand" her craziness. Let her talk, and just try to listen, if you don't seem to agree, then pretend you understand, lol!
@tiina05 (2317)
• Philippines
8 Jan 12
Hello,
I think quarrel is normal in every couple. Me and my boyfriend used to quarrel in little things but we still both love each other so much maybe that is why we fight. And there are times that i want to break up with him but still everything get good. Honestly, i was the one who open whAt we quarrel about but since he is nice and patience he understands me. Haha so, i think you just have to be patient to her and open to her what was her bad attitude she need to change. Well, thats what my boyfriend did to me.
@befrindwithme26 (5805)
• Philippines
8 Jan 12
Well,that is normal for both people in relationship because it is nature of us to feel like that and because we are not perfect and there is some things that we do misunderstand,disagreeing and others.
Yes me even i am not yet married but i do have quarrel to someone.but will not last it long .
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
8 Jan 12
I would say it's normal. You must have knew that it's her attitude before you marry her. If it's just petty things you don't need to worry. But it's better to have a sit with her and talk to her about what you feel.
@macanan (153)
• Indonesia
8 Jan 12
i am married few moneths ago i think ia m too shallow to give any opinion about life, esp marriage, but it is ok for give my own opinion.lol. i ofetn have wuarrle and argument with my wife, especially when we have different perception about something, even gt worse ans she cried. but we know it is life that we have to pass and many test for us. just enjoy our life and understand each other
