Long Distance Relationship

Distance in relationships can cause you to miss someone so much that it helps you to realize how much that person means to you. It can sometimes help your love grow on a deeper level for someone opposed to if they were just down the road.It shouldn't be a factor in a relationship but communication, trust and commitment should be.

I've had many LDR but never 4 yrs the longest I had is 1 yr and then he came to marry me we were married 11 yrs I find that most people underestimate how important communication is without communication it's impossible to build trust and maintain LDR this is why anyone that doesn't communicate I always drop them it's still important in local relationship too

Hi there and welcome to myLot. You sound very intelligent and you are going about your relationship in a very positive way. It's very refreshing to hear from someone with such a healthy attitude. Of course, this relationship can only work if you and the other person have the same attitude and if both of you are actively working to be together. That has to be a shared goal...otherwise, what's the point of it all?

For me long distant relationship is not a big deal because if both partner have constant communication and have trust each other. No problem will be arise in the future and this is not lessen the love that they have each other if they want the relationship is going strong...

i had ever felt like your now imbecile..sometimes with a long distance relationship, we are really missing someone in the far away..it really suck for us, but it`s our sacrifice.. if we are patient and maybe she or he is our destiny, so God maybe will hear all of your answer

Long distance relationship is really hard! But you can go on as long as you believe and have faith with your someone with a distant miles away from you! The love is there to share through technology and other means! But The real situational problem comes when you live together. Lot of things will change and you will deal with great adjustments. Just be prepared to understand and handle the consequences.

Hi! It appears to me that you yourself are not very sure about the success of your relationship and you want an assurance from mylotters that it could succeed. Anything is possible, it could work in the long run or it may not as could happen in a real life relationship. So think positive and strengthen it further to succeed. Our best wishes are with you.

I think that everybody is different. Some people can make it work and wait for their loved one to return. But I once had a long-term relationship and for about a year, it was not really working. We both missed each other, and to be honest, I should never have got involved in the first place. I knew that she was going to be going away, yet I still went into the relationship and my feelings went deeper. I got tired of feeling miserable - I was only a teenager at the time. I started going out again and getting involved with friends and met somebody else. I think she did the same thing, because slowly her letters stopped coming, even though I always replied to them. I didn't want to say that I was seeing somebody else, but I think that was too as the letters stopped coming completely. I guess it depends on how long the relationship is going to stay long-distance, and how long it is that you are prepared to wait. We are all different, and I wouldn't do it again, and have never done it since.. _Derek

Hm... four years is too long. I would encourage you to make a plan to end this situation.

I am in a deep distant relationship now. I believe that long distance relationship make sense. I also believe if our relationship is done with honesty and faithful, long distance will work out for both of us. The most important thing, we as a doer have to be able to keep honesty and faithful even if we are not together. There must be trusty between long distance relationship.

More power to you! Honestly, only you can ease your mind and heart by asking yourself if this relationshp is worth the wait? Life and love is so unpredictable sometimes we don't realize it, but if it were something else besides love that we want so bad we would climb high and low just to get what we want. So what's the difference in love? What is preventing you from joining your man? Also, if you really truly love this man you would wait. Have faith and continue praying. Prayer works miracles. Good luck!

Having a long distance love affair is never easy. However, it is not impossible. Usually, distance can make love so much more exciting and interesting. I guess this requires trust from both parties. It can actually turn out to be good. I always believe, that if a person is meant for you, then no matter how far, distance would never keep the both parties from each other.

I'm in the same position, and trust me it sucks sometimes even if i love my partner i really do. all up to go to determinate our destination, and ourselves to know not to cheat, lie to each other, i really thank that like that we will be fine.

Oh this discussion again. Well, we're on the same boat. It's hard. One day I am optimistic about my relationship with him. The next day I feel like giving up. I never knew how hard having such relationship. We're going on 6 years in our relationship. We've been living near to each other for 3 years. But when he had to work real far after that 3 years. We are still well, don't know where our relationship is leading us.

Having long distance relationship with somebody is really quite hard.. A person need someone to be there by her side.. touching him and feeling his presence is enough for a day.. I know what it means to have a relationship like this.. You're absolutely right, tryst, understanding, love and optimism is key for a successful relationship.. I know you can survive this, and I wish that your partner will also strive to communicate with you..

4 years is too long. You do not try to meet in person? i dont know.. i'm a bit skeptical about distant relationships in the internet. You never know what the others says is the true. Continue praying BUT you remember:- dont be afraid to end a relationship that is not satisfying you. I think it is weird spending so much time and You're not going neither forward NOR backward.

Hi there imbecile! Well, ya i got on the same page as you are.. As you said, it's hard especially if you can't see your partner in person. I'm also in a long distance relationship like yours, and been with my partner for 2 years too... Patience, trust, motivation are the most important things to make this kind of relationship last. Sometimes we just talk about our future plans when we get to meet each other just to make sure that loneliness can be avoided.. because sometimes when it comes... i lead to doubts.. But ya, I hope everything goes well, and hopefully we get to meet. Have a nice day!

I've had long distance relationships and they tend not to work out for me. It gets dry and boring and there's nothing physical to it so I'm not one for them

oh,its been four years,that's pretty tough huh.. me and my boyfriend is in a long distance relationship for almost 2 years now...we're on our 5th year today as a lovers and we're working things out by praying so hard.we trust everything to God and we'll see each other so soon.. you guys have plans to meet soon right? :)

I had a long distance relationship too... yes its hard... and sometime i think its totally suck... :(