my papa is finding a perfect guy for me for my marriage .
By Raashi
@Raashi (92)
India
January 8, 2012 4:56am CST
in Indian culture girls have to face this day in their life when they complete 20-22 . i am also facing this too. my papa is finding a good guy for me in my community . but i am not ready for marriage this time. i haven't planned about my marriage. this is really very difficult situation for me. how can i say to my dad that i don't want to get marry this time.
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4 responses
@bewitched13 (792)
• India
8 Jan 12
It is true that parents start looking for a good match when their daughter turns 20-21. But the girl can have an open talk with her parents telling them her preferences, when she will be ready for marriage or if she has someone in her mind. Parents do understand when their children are clear and never force things upon them. You can start the topic either with your mother or your father, with whom you are very close and open. Happy mylotting and welcome to mylot.
@bewitched13 (792)
• India
9 Jan 12
A girl's best friend is her mother. You can confide in her and she can talk to your father.
@tiina05 (2317)
• Philippines
8 Jan 12
hello,
Is this a fix marriage? Why does he push you through. Maybe you can try to talk to your dad seriously because in this age this is the time when we want to enjoy our self for being an adult. right? This is not the right time. Does it has a meaning when you did not married in this age. If ever that it is your tradition you must follow it but if it is your dad only. Maybe you can talk him about what your feelings. 
I know he will understand you if you just be open.
I know he will understand you if you just be open. 
@shaieen (257)
• Philippines
8 Jan 12
Oh, it must have been very tough for you to face a challenge like this. I'm so lucky we have no like that in our family. Anyway, my suggestion for you is talk to your father about what you feel. Its your life, you should be brave to fight for what makes you happy. Maybe your father will understand it.
@jkct02 (2874)
• Kota Kinabalu, Malaysia
8 Jan 12
Have you ever talked to your father about this topic? What about the views of your other family members? I believe this is a very strong tradition in your culture and I feel it is not easy to go against it by force. The best way is to talk to your father. Discuss with him how you feel and what do you have in mind. Try to discuss it in a soft and accommodating manner. Don't make things ugly as it will be hard to change when thins got out of hand.
