Love and family
By labea17
@labea17 (443)
Philippines
January 8, 2012 9:46am CST
I'm in a committed relationship with a man. He lives in the United States, and I am here in the Philippines. I want to be with him and spend the rest of my life with him. However, I am not sure how I should tell my parents that I plan to go there next month so that we can be together. I am not asking permission from them because I am already in legal age to do anything that I want. I will turn 23 on April. I just don't know how I should tell them that I'm moving to a foreign land.
Any advice? Help! Thanks.
5 responses
@tamirs (1807)
• Philippines
8 Jan 12
Surely your parents and other family member will approved of it if you will tell them earlier and tell them your reasons in going there.Do not take them in surprised,that will hurt them.Make sure you tell them as early as possible.
Do they know your boyfriend?even thru internet?
@oindy54 (3445)
• India
11 Jan 12
Hi,
Don't get me wrong but you should have met him at least once in your lifetime before deciding to move to the United States forever.I understand that you love him deeply but at the same time your parents love you too.So they would obviously want to meet their daughter's lover before giving you the blessings.I think you could ask your boyfriend to come into a video chat with your parents.It will be a nice option to introduce both in this manner.They can ask your boyfriend any questions they might have.After all you are their child and they would obviously want your happiness.So it is wise to tell them the truth and make them agree to have a conversation with your lover.Then may be you could take the final decision.
@arnouardian (286)
• United States
8 Jan 12
hi labea,
I am sure you should tell your parents about your plan, simply because you should respect them as your parents. they help you grow up since you were kid until you meet this man from United States.
moreover, wedding is a very big event in anyone's life and in your case, there's a big possibility you will move abroad and be separated from your parents.
so, your parents have the right to know (and to approve) your wedding plan. usually people are worried if parents dont approve their wedding. but it rarely happens. if you can convince them about the man of your choice, I'm sure no parents will reject the choice of their daughter.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
8 Jan 12
Have you told them about him? If you did, I am sure no one will disapprove of your decision. And as you said, you're not asking for their permission. You just have to tell them that you have to be with your boyfriend.
@ivonne2011 (22)
• United States
9 Jan 12
well honesty works. Sometimes parents can be surprising. Although listen when they say things to u. They are often right so try to take everything in before u make any drastic decisions.
