from 1 to 2 children.. difficult?
By senna9
@senna9 (1666)
Netherlands
January 8, 2012 12:51pm CST
Hello,
I have a 9 month old daughter and my husband and i are thinking about another baby.
But maybe i whant to wait untill my daughter can walk.
Is it difficult if you have 2 children short at eachother? Or do you think that it will go just fine, because you already are used to the broken nights and diaper changes?
What do you feel is the most good time between 2 children.
Ofcourse i know that you can not plan it. We did 2 years over the first pregnancy.
But what will be ideal?
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7 responses
@deebomb (15304)
• United States
10 Jul 12
Hello senna. I don't think there is any ideal age difference for having babies. I think it all depends on you. I don't think it is any harder to have two babies than it is to have one. I had 4 kids with in five years.The oldest two were 22 months apart then exactly one year to number three and number four was twenty two months after that. It wasn't any harder to have the four than it was to have the two. It all depends on whether or not you mind a bit of clutter or messy house. Yes there was more washing and I used cloth diapers but a load of wash was a load of wash. The thing is it sounds harder than it actually is. You adjust with out really thinking about it. You do have to relaxed and take things in stride and not get excited about every little thing. So id you have decided to have the second baby now enjoy the two kids.
@moakamsg (114)
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9 Jan 12
Hello senna9.
I have two kids and they are 23 months apart and it was challenging in the beginning but with some help I was able to maintain. It was mainly difficult because I had a c-section with my daughter and wasn't able to really get around like I wanted to. In my opinion, a 2-3 year age gap is better because even when you don't have friends or family to help at least the little one can, my son was a big help on the days I was home alone with both kids. You don't want it to be too much of an age gap though...
@youless (112496)
• Guangzhou, China
9 Jan 12
Two children will be perfect for a family. However, I think it is difficult to have two children in a short time. And I tend to agree with you to have another baby after the first child can walk. Since sometimes you also need to take a break. Taking care of two children is not an easy job.
I love China
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
9 Jan 12
Well its going o be both hard and easy. It just depends on the child and your comfort. My daughter is almost one and I lost a pregnancy recentlly and that was hard. If you have one now your daughter will be over a year which is good because shell be walking and stuff by the time the baby comes. I'm trying to get pregnant this month so I can have two little ones to love. I think it'll be hard to take care of two small children but my daughter will have a sibling to play with and to share things with. I know she won't understand but shell grow to love over time. Good luck with what ever you do. Either way it's goof to be hard now or later.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
9 Jan 12
SOme have their kids a year apart only. I find it a little hard but then some can still take care of both the kids. It is up to you and your husband whether you can bear the expenses of two toddlers.
@jsmalong (109)
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9 Jan 12
The ideal gap, according to my wife's pediatrician, should be at least 2 years. This will give time for the mother to rest and take good care of herself. But my 2 sons were born 17 months apart. When they were growing up together, there was never a dull moment between them because they play together. They also share things together from baby milk, clothes and toys. The only downside I knew is when they get sick at the same time which means double the worry. If you are healthy then go ahead and have another angel even with the closest of gaps.
