What is wrong with some parents?
By AidaLily
@AidaLily (1450)
United States
January 8, 2012 3:37pm CST
Now I know I am not the most lenient parent even with my three year old. If he doesn't clean up his toys he doesn't get dessert after dinner. He understands how to clean them up and if I tell him to put his toys in the toy box then he will.
Now I was on yahoo and I came across this article.
http://gma.yahoo.com/blogs/abc-blogs/colorado-student-banned-yearbook-over-racy-photo-201606793--abc-news.html
(Hopefully I copied the article link correctly since I can't copy/paste yet.)
This young girl is upset that she couldn't put the photo in that article in her school's yearbook and her mother is also fighting for her to be able to. The girl says it violates her freedom of expression and she should be allowed to have it in the yearbook. Her mother agrees.
Now if this was my daughter, I would want to smack her. I wouldn't let her leave the house to take a picture like that and especially not put it in the yearbook like some sort of adult magazine ad. I graduated highschool in 2005 and even though I am married and have children, I know for a fact that I didn't like a playmate or stripper and my mother while having a lot of faults wouldn't have let me take a picture like that for my school yearbook.
Yet this mother is saying her daughter should be allowed to do this. What happened to parenting? You aren't allowed to abuse your children, but you can still try to encourage some common sense for them to use.
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8 responses
@maxilimian (3099)
• Indonesia
9 Jan 12
Hi AidaLily,
I'm not yet become a parent, so i'm maybe command your discussion very well, but i'm only trying to share my opinion, i think as a parent, we should know which is better for our own children, since we're kids long time ago, try to understand what kids thing, and we lead and guide them to do the right things, maybe the children on the article is right, but as a parent we know what might be the best for the children, so right things may not also bring the good things, this is what i'm trying to share with you 
hopes help
hopes help@AidaLily (1450)
• United States
9 Jan 12
Maybe she is right that is goes against her freedom of expression, but as a parent or a non-parent who has lived life a little bit, they should have some inkling as to how things work. What would be best for her, in my opinion, is to tell her daughter that while she understands her self express school is not an appropriate place for it. That she has her whole life ahead of her so there is not reason to rush growing up or trying to be overly sexy. I mean I am only 24 years old. I am still at an age where some would consider most people to be in college and perhaps being a little wild and crazy. My friends would expect something like that to wear to a club and drink and dance but never in high school.
@asyria51 (2861)
• United States
8 Jan 12
I graduated high school in 1999. I went and got senior class photos taken. It was a full photo shoot with several outfit changes. However, the photo that went in for the senior class section of the yearbook at very specific criteria that had to be met. It had to have one of 7 solid colored backgrounds. It could only have one of 2 filters and was only a head shot. I think that if the editors of the year book have a criteria like this then she is obviously violating the requirements.
As for freedom of speech, until you are a legal adult you really do not have many rights in my mind. As for a child of mine, I would not go to bat for her over that picture. In fact I would probably take all copies of it and destroy them.
@AidaLily (1450)
• United States
8 Jan 12
I agree. Parents are in such a hurry for their children to grow up, but unless her life's ambition is to be a call girl or even a model then I could possibly understand waiting until she is a legal adult to take those sorts of pictures. My highschool, we had to do pretty much what yours did and take a picture like that turning in only a head shot.
I would not be going to bat for my daughter to have that picture in the year book either. I would do as you said and destroy it. You graduated six years before me and they still had the same year book rules. So I really doubt they changed them now.
@carolscash (9492)
• United States
11 Jan 12
I agree with you that this photo that the girl wants in the yearbook is not the most appropriate photo for her. I think that her mom sees the beauty in it as I do as well, but I also see what the world can see wrong with it. The photo does look like a super model cover for a car magazine or something. This girl may be proud of how she looks, but she needs to understand that there are people out there who do not want those type of photos in the yearbook.
@CRIVAS (1815)
• Canada
9 Jan 12
I agree with you. I wouldn't let my daughter's leave the house if they were not dressed properly. I think that there are a lot of parents out there who might say that letting their child dress the way that they want, is just a way for them to express their own style. I get that, but when the style puts out the vibe that your child is loose or is Easy, I don't believe that is a message you should let your child express. I personally have made sure that both my daughters (who are 5 and 6) know that in order for others to respect them, they must first respect themselves. I have told them this means that they have to take pride in the way that they present themselves in public which means dressing their age, and being polite in every situation. I can't change the way that other parents raise thier children but I can make sure that I do everything in my power to make certain that my children are respected and respectful and that includes dressing properly. I would never allow my child to go to school dressed that way, nor would I let my daughter have her picture taken like that. Great conversation, it was a pleasure to read.
@sijabatnaburjut (2171)
• Indonesia
9 Jan 12
Parents of nowadays tend to make their kid as happy as they would work last long without seeing or knowing if the child would be pleasure to welcome the order from parents. Seeing or reading this discussion remain a child who was under pressured because their parent don't pay attention and not seldom there are a lot people experiencing the failure, because they too much listening their parents. It is good to follow the instruction of our parents, but we have the right to decide what the best for ourselves.
@ivonne2011 (22)
• United States
9 Jan 12
I think now a days people are worried about being their child's friend and not worried enough about being their parent unfortunately that is a big problem now a days. Hopefully people will start to figure out that in order for kids to grow up and follow adult rules and regulations they need to start following rules at home as kids.
@4mymak (1793)
• Malaysia
9 Jan 12
i guess this is what you get when you practice (almost) 100% freedom of everything, especially freedom of expression.. makes me kinda happy + relieved we live in a country where we dont allow 100% freedom of speech / expression and we have a cencorship board for 'public' publications - we may be labelled as 'small-minded' or 'close-minded'... but i know every girl in our community would automatically know + acknowledge that photo as inappropriate for a school-magazine.. especially when we also WEAR UNIFORMS to school.. no free-expressions there in the first place.. all photos for the school magazine will be in school uniforms, their sport jerseys, club jerseys... all fully clothed.. NO WORRIES, THERE..
As for the mom... i have a feeling that she is just worried - if shes 'unsupportive' of her daughter's action - she'll lose her daughter's approval ????... (my personal opinion)...
@sumanadep (1228)
• India
9 Jan 12
Obviously no one has agreed to have such a picture in a school year book.. it is definitely a parenting failure for her parent to let her take such pictures and demanding it to be included in the school year book.. I can only wonder what her parents do..
