My fear of growing old

United States
January 8, 2012 9:21pm CST
A lot of people are scared of dying but me not so much. My fear is of getting old. My biggest fear about getting old is not having money to support myself and noone to take care of me in my old age especially since I dont have kids. I worry about being to old to drive but not having anyone to take me to the store or doctor. I also am scared that if I need to be placed in a nursing home that I'll be too broke to afford a decent one and will end up in one with staff that abuses or neglect the elderly. Do you have similar fears?
7 responses
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
10 Jan 12
We all have futuristic fears. In fact, I fear what will happen to me the next couple of minutes. However, I believe that it is never too early to make preparations. Some people at a young age already investing for future financial security when they get old. Insurance companies are all over the place, That is one way to prepare. But the best way to prepare is spiritually. God tells us not to worry because he will never forsake us. I'm sure there will always be people who will take care of us when we grow old. Practically though, it doesn't hurt to make preparations. Invest while you're young and able not only in money but in love for people. Goodness will always come back to you. If you are a good mother, your children will take care of you.
• United States
14 Jan 12
Theresaaiza, great advice. I also believe it is never too early to prepare for the future. I'm just having a hard time saving money right now. I think once I'm able to save and invest again then a lot of my fears will be alleviated. I really like that you believe we should prepare spiritually and invest in people not just money. It is so easy to lose sight of that but it so true.
@parascevi (313)
• Greece
9 Jan 12
I know how you feel.I felt this too.Especially the money problem.In my country the old people have pension but with all the economical crisis i am afraid that the next generation will have nothing at all.
• United States
14 Jan 12
This is the same problem that I'll be facing in the future in the U.S. as social security will be gone for my generaton.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
9 Jan 12
You need not worry about that at this early my friend. Make the necessary preparations of your future by trying to save on your retirement. And if you are working in the private sector, i think like us here in the Philippines, we are being deducted for our SSS. So when we reach our retirement age, we will have pension. But in addition, try to save some more. if you have niece and nephews cultivate your relationships with them. In one way or another, when your retirement comes, they will be there to look after you.
• United States
14 Jan 12
I'm told that it's never too early to start preparing. I think I'm just worried about the things that I think I cant control like not being able to physically or financially take care of myself. But I suppose I can control those things to an extent by living healthier now and saving for retirement. I live in the U.S and I'm in my mid 30s. Social Security is deducted from my pay but it isnt likely to be around when it's time for me to retire. My nieces and nephews have their own life and family and I dont know how much they'll be willing to help out an aunt...I'm hoping a lot lol.
@eljayo (1105)
• Philippines
9 Jan 12
Hi! Some people really have fear of growing old. Growing old is inevitable. Although we may do a lot of things to make us look younger still there will come a time that we have to accept the fact that youth in us is gone. I suggest do the things you want to do while you are still young so you won't regret it when your old. I myself do not fear of getting old. Its a blessing that more years have been added to us by God to cherish the time we have and love the people around us.
• United States
14 Jan 12
Hi eljayo. My fear is more about the health and financial woes that are often associated with growing old. I dont care about losing youth or looks as those things dont matter to me and I feel age is just a number. I'm just scared of not being able to take care of myself. You're right that every year is a blessing as it isn't a given. I do need to focus on living my life to the fullest and loving those around me better. I've been trying to do that...it is a work in progress.
@Mayuko (1268)
• United States
9 Jan 12
I share your uneasiness. Getting older worries me because I'm concerned that I may become feeble and develop medical conditions that would lower my quality of life. I'm not too concerned about not having enough money to support myself, but maybe I should be. But even if I were a billionaire, I still wouldn't want to be in a nursing or retirement home, nor would I want a home care nurse. I really want to be able to take care of myself.
• United States
9 Jan 12
I'm also scared of being feeble and having bad health. I think most of the things I'm scared of can be avoided by proper planning on my part but it's hard to get over fears that I've had most of my life and being feeble is something that I cant control.
@jeslin (147)
9 Jan 12
AWW haha. I thought of that before. Well, are you married or anything? Me and my friends thought up this idea that if we were to all not get married, we will stay in a house together and help take care of one another, maybe even travel arnd. But then i would definitely plan and save my money carefully first while i am still able to work. Every month when you get your pay, split it in half, and keep it in the bank. Try to survive with only that half. This is so that when you are old, you can still live on what you have save normally every month, without having to budget and cut down here and there.
• United States
14 Jan 12
Jeslin, good suggestions. I'm married but we dont have children. I need to talk to my fellow childless friends because I really like the housing together idea. Thanks.
@peavey (16936)
• United States
9 Jan 12
I've managed to save up a little money to help me get through these retirement years. Not much, but a little and that will help. Do you have a retirement account of some kind? If not, get one started. Even if you can only save a tiny bit at a time, it will add up. As to getting to the store or doctor, most towns have a Senior Center that will give you a ride. There are other charities and groups that will help you get around. Where I used to live, the Senior Center sent a bus around every day to pick up those who needed to go somewhere. There's a lot of support for older people, so no need to be afraid. Just look into what's available before you need it.
• United States
9 Jan 12
Peavey thanks for the advice/info. It's good to know there are resources out there for the elderly. I have a retirement savings fund through my job which is one of the reasons I'm still at the job although I'm unhappy there. However, I dont think it will be enough and I do need to save more for my retirement.