why guys always apologize in an argument with his girl?

@bjcelyn (108)
Philippines
January 8, 2012 9:24pm CST
I had a discussion with my student about apology and we come across this question: why do guys always apologize in a relationship everytime they and their girl get into an argument regardless of if it's their fault or not? I can't help but smile on this question since personally, my boyfriend always apologize to me everytime we have an argument. I don't know why it's like that. How about you? do you experience the same? If you are a guy, do you also do this? why do you tend to do this? for girls, do you think it is a good thing for your guy to say sorry first during an argument? I hope we'll have an interesting discussion here. please let me know your opinions. :)
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@Bamboee (645)
• United Arab Emirates
9 Jan 12
Well... That is not true, I think it depends on the relationship. Who is more dominating.. Sometimes there is one person who is more domination in the relationship.. Its very hard to find a balance chemistry between a boy and a girl. If there is one then its great because they equally accept their mistakes, when they are at fault. But sometimes in a relationship one's balance is more little at the down side because they are afraid to spoil the relationship, or hurt their loved one, or end up on a bad note as a breakup also the key factor of loosing your loved on over a fight so you bend towards them and ask for forgiveness. Me being a girl, my husband and I dated for 2 years. In those 2 years he never apologized to me, i was the only one asking for forgiveness even though it was not my mistake because I was afraid to loose him!! well when that happens the person tends to take advantage, and you end up showing your weakness to them, which will hurt you in long run.. So stand up when you know you have not done anything wrong.. Otherwise you will regret later!
@Bamboee (645)
• United Arab Emirates
10 Jan 12
Yup the little little things count alot in a relationship. My husband was like that too, if I use to not answer his phone on a single bell, he use to get upset and then I would go round the world to make him feel better. But in my case he use to not answer several times, but I use to never show my anger because I really loved him alot and didnt want to hurt his feelings. I am sure he didnt want to either, but that was his way of dominating the relationship!! But give some break to your boyfriend, hehe dont be so tough on him.. its difficult to find a person who loves you so much, because this shows he is afraid to loose you!!
@bjcelyn (108)
• Philippines
10 Jan 12
yes. thank you so much for that. you actually have a very good point. we are just afraid to loose the person so we prefer to fix the argument as soon as possible. I also agree that it also depends on who is dominating in the relationship. and honestly, in our relationship I tend to be that person. That's why my boyfriend also tries his best not to disappoint me. however, I also make a lot of things just to have an argument (example: I get angry if he can't call me in a particular day). haha.
• India
9 Jan 12
ha ha ha That's really an interesting one. I don't know why it happens but it usually is the case. Its the same with me as well. I apologize first even if its her fault. The main reason for me doing it is I hate having a scene with her over small issues. I feel that why can't I let this go instead of arguing about it and making the situation more worse and moreover I cant be happy if I see a disappointed look on her face. These are the main reasons why I apologize her every time we have an argument. Ofcourse different people might have different reasons. The main reason is Guys don't like having a scene with their gals. Simple :)
@bjcelyn (108)
• Philippines
10 Jan 12
thank you for your response. when I asked my boyfriend about this, he also said that he doesn't want me to get upset. and he doesn't like to argue with me about simple things. saying sorry is easier than making things worse and fixing it later.
• India
10 Jan 12
Exactly my point also. If I keep on arguing with her about the same thing then the time and effort that I have to spend to fix it and make her smile again is very much. Its better to end that with a simple sorry rather than extending it and making things more worse
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
10 Jan 12
I honestly HATE that. I've argued with two men (relationship wise) in my entire life and one neither of us apologized because he didn't care enough. The other I was much younger than him and immature so I ended up being the one to say sorry because it was me who was wrong. I grew up with a man who was this way. Never standing up for himself or us his children and because of that we were allowed to be treated any which way by our step mother. Its hard to respect someone like that.
@bjcelyn (108)
• Philippines
10 Jan 12
oh. that's sad. well, this is not in general terms though, so i think there are also some guys who do not really lower their pride. in case of arguments, maybe at least you should be calm and if possible just apologize (especially if it's your fault). don't wait to make things worse. :)
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
10 Jan 12
A guy usually gives inb and ends up apologizing with his girl whether or not he was right or wrong. it is just inevitable. There are just some sacrifices a guy will have to make to keep the relationship going. winning an argument is often not worth the battle it brings. Conceding defeat allows you to start over and begin again.
@bjcelyn (108)
• Philippines
10 Jan 12
that's right. making things work and continue the relationship after an argument is very fulfilling. I like it everytime an argument is fixed, my boyfriend is very sweet and tries to do something special. haha. maybe that's why I also like making simple arguments. LOL
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
9 Jan 12
Well I guess you're right. 'THough I can say that I have apologized to him too. But he had apologized many times more than I did, and most of it are arguments that I have started I don't know the reason. Maybe some guys are just a gentleman to even accept a fault that isn't his own just to pacify his GF/wife.
@bjcelyn (108)
• Philippines
10 Jan 12
exactly. girls usually like to start an argument. Even simple stuffs! Most of the time I also start the argument but later on it ended him apologizing to me. LOL
@myzhian (584)
• Philippines
10 Jan 12
In every relationship it is necessary to to ask for an apology or forgiveness to develop mutual understanding, or simple give and take relationship! this is for showing love, concern, understanding, humbleness and respect to partners. For a man to do the honor of apology in exchange for pride, power and domination in a relationship is very much admirable and adorable! He is such a great man!
@bjcelyn (108)
• Philippines
10 Jan 12
that's definitely right. he is such a humble guy. i don't like guys who protects his own pride and not apologize.
• India
12 Jan 12
In relation I always felt that girls are more demanding . Girls are very much fragile to handle and as all says , it should handled with care. They become sad very soon. So to cheer up his girl a boy has be in his back-foot and end up apologizing for most of the faults. What i feel is boys also enjoy this scenario very much , even though they show that they cant do this anymore.