Am I Missing Being In A Relationship?
By xien2xien
@xien2xien (1382)
Philippines
January 10, 2012 6:48am CST
it's exactly 5 months and 3 days since i've been single and leave the IN A RELATIONSHIP status, but i think i'm just perfectly fine and i don't have any worries about it, but last night while i'm having a text communication with a friend of mine, she ask me 1 question "Aren't you missing having aa boyfriend, it's been 5 months since your last relationship?" Now what should i say about this....
Like i've said i'm perfectly fine, i'm still enjoying being single again having the best times of my life and my best answer was, i'm not yet ready to be in a relationship again with anybody who'll just court court me flirt with me make me believe and then leave me when i'm on the edge of falling in love with them
How about you when you were single do you miss having a relationship with someone? what was the longest time that you stayed single after a heartbreaks? Thanks in advance for responding to this discussion happy mylotting to all
8 responses
@whengcat (1457)
• Philippines
12 Jan 12
I only had 3 boyfriends in my lifetime, the second was the serious one which lasted for almost 5 years. I was so devastated and heart broken so I changed my environment and joined my sister in a boarding house. I eventually stopped studying because my sister cannot support me anymore so I landed a job. That's the time I met my 3rd and we've been married for almost 12 years now
I think it took me a year after I recovered from my 2nd....
I think it took me a year after I recovered from my 2nd....@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
26 Jan 12
you are very lucky that you have found your true love already. I'd wish i could see my soul mate soon. Still, i am enjoying being a single.
you are right, it is hard to move on if you have loved someone truly and ended up sadly.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
11 Jan 12
Don't get me wrong, I'm not bragging but I have never experienced any heartbreak blues because of a split up. I'm only single now because he is out of the country on a two-year contract in the Middle East. LDR is hard but probably not as painful as a breakup.
As for you, it's good that you're fine on your own, but don't let the trauma of your past relationship stop you from opening your doors again.
Being in a relationship especially one that is beautiful and true, is one of the most wonderful things in the world.
@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
11 Jan 12
first of all i knew that being in love is the best feeling everyone would ever wish for i remember the feeling and i experienced it.
second, i knew also for a fact that being heartbroken should not closed my doors to the new love but i'm just saying that it's much better to completely heal yourself first before entering into a new relationship in order to start a fresh one and wihout bitterness..
anyways thanks for the comment
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
10 Jan 12
Dear friend, I know what I'm about to tell you, it might sound strange, but I at the age of 37 years, I never had the relationship. Many people ask me if I'm gay ... but it could also be true!
However, in all the ways I do not make a problem, I'll be single forever!
@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
10 Jan 12
I really don't get it when you said that you could also be gay, i'm just wondering don't you know if you're gay or not in yourself? Aside from this i believe that there's nothing wrong being a gay or being single all these years, but aren't you interested in looking for a partner that you ca grow old with someday? anyways thanks for the comment
@cearn25 (3456)
• Philippines
10 Jan 12
When I was single, I also miss being in a relationship. It feels like there is lacking in my life. But before that, I have been heart broken and it took me a year before I finally realized I have moved on. I waited for the right guy and look at me now, happy and stable with the man I love.
@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
11 Jan 12
that's good at least you've finally found the right one for you, this was the hardest thing to find, cause there's a million choices and you'll need a fortune to finally find your partner
@szm990529 (62)
• China
10 Jan 12
hi,xien2xien
i am single now,and i enjoy this state.i think although i do not have a boyfriend,i could live happiness in the past time,i could play with many friends,and go to wherever i would love to go,eat whatever i would love to eat,just take care of myself,it is freedom.i think i will be single for a long time.heartbreak is not easy to forget,although we want to forget it as fast as we can.
@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
11 Jan 12
yeah i agree being single means freedom and care for yourself alone sometimes it feels good to just think about yourself alone. And i agree that it's really hard to forget things that crushed your heart to pieces... anyways thanks for the comment friend let's enjoy being single
@IrishGal77 (260)
• Ireland
10 Jan 12
Hi xien2xien,
There's no right or wrong way to feel about being single. Some people love it, some people loathe it and others put up with it! It's down to you how you feel about being single and the important thing to realise (which you have done) is whether you are ready for another relationship or not.
The longest I've been single is now (since the breakdown of my marriage)though before my marriage I was mostly single throughout my teenage years. Yes, sometimes I do miss being in a relationship but better to be single than being with someone who doesn't treat you right so if/when the time comes along for me to be with someone, he's going to have to be a great guy. Might sound like I have high standards or that I'm picky - to an extent both would be true but when getting to the nitty gritty of it (a relationship), the kind of things I will look for in a partner are not extraordinary yet some people (both male and female) would see it that way. In any case those are the type of people I'd want to avoid snuggling up with!
So, it's 18 months for me.
IrishGal77 :)
@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
10 Jan 12
agreed! you have a point. It is better to be single if your partner caused or giving you so much pain and insecurities. And i think, there will be a perfect time to enter into a new a relationship. I am having so much fun being single. It is enjoyable to be free for a quite some time, it is less complicated.
you have a point. It is better to be single if your partner caused or giving you so much pain and insecurities. And i think, there will be a perfect time to enter into a new a relationship. I am having so much fun being single. It is enjoyable to be free for a quite some time, it is less complicated. @agent807 (751)
• United States
12 Jan 12
The longest span that I have been single is 31 years and 5 months, which is ironically how old I am. I tried to have a relationship, but nothing has worked for one reason or another. Most of the time, I receive rejections. Lots of rejections. To most people, I guess I am not that guy. Before, I was fine with being single, but I guess, now that I am getting older, and I don't have my friends as much since everyone is in a relationship themselves. Before, I always said that I was too busy working, or when I have a rough patch in my life, there is no way I would want to have a partner. I always thought how on earth would I take care of her because I was never in a good position. Right now, I am not in a good position, but also, there are forces inside of me that are no longer patient. Before, I would choose duty over life, but thanks to the growing forces inside of me, I have to go for love over duty.
Well, I dated here and there but not long and it cannot be counted as really dating, maybe just spending time together... Do I feel fine? I am. Not missing anything...