Forbidden Love

I think you must tell it to your family.Just listen on what will they say and after listening,forget what they said. Show them that your happy in your relationship and after proving it to them someday they will like it. Hiding her to your family will not be for lifetime,someday they will know it,maybe from others that making gossips so its much better that they hear it from you.

Dear emdjay...I have no problem with your orientation. To me what matters are your feelings and how it affects you. You seem to be doing your thing in secret...although your mum knows. You have not come open to your family and it is affecting you.

You're hiding it because you don't want to hurt them. That's perfectly natural but completely unnecessary. Life is pain: that's just the way it is. You're hurting yourself more than you'd hurt them by being who you really are instead of pretending. When it comes to "coming out", you have two choices, really. Either you stop hiding your partner (by the way, "hubby" is short for husband so isn't often used for a female partner, though it's very sweet!) and just let your relatives figure it out for themselves over time or you introduce her as your partner. The first way sounds easier but is often more stressful as you have to put up with their whispering. The second way takes more courage in the moment but, once it's done, they HAVE to live with it and respect it. And you're not immoral. That's just fundamentalist religious nonsense. You're in love.

My advice to you is to tell them the truth, because sooner or later your family would learned about it. It's better to know their reaction sooner, of course with the help of your mom, you could explain to them that it's the life you wanted and the truth will set you free.

I think it would be best that the relatives should know about your relationship with your hubby. Your mom could help you on that, by talking to them first about it. Now, if they don't agree, well it's not their life. if you are both with jobs, you can maybe just leave your mom's house and find your own place. That way, they cannot meddle with how you manage your life.

If were i you,i would tell this thing to my relation.No one can forbid our love.Man,the first thing you should do is to tell the truth to everybody with bravery.Love should be fearless.All of us will support you.

hi emdjay I was thrown by the hubby as here in the US thats used for only males. anyway you have no thing to be ashamed of for loving whom you love so tell all your family and have it over with as its unkind to keep your love hidden. Introduce her to all your' family and be prepared for all sorts of comments. this is 2012 not 1000 so gays and lesbians should be accepted along with us heterosexuals. we are all G ods' children after all.You are not immoral and remember God loves you too.

Sorry to say that I disagree with both gender relationship because in my opinion that is a blatant violation of the laws of man and laws of God. This is also immoral to public opinion and in the eyes of God... Just think many times in such situation, my friend. I respect your rights to choose what you love or what you like. But if you really understand the creation of human being you need to uphold that rule...

actually i dont agree about your se*ual orientation, but it`s your rights.. if you think that tell your family is good than hidden forever, so do it.. you can`t hide your problem forever..sooner, all your family know your situation and maybe angry because you hide from them

Tie her up onto a chair so when your family comes over she doesn't hide. Why does she hides anyways? Can't say how you can introduce your hubby to your family. I haven't even introduce my girlfriend to my family yet and probably never will since they don't like gay people at all. Of course my dad have met my girlfriend and likes her, but I said she was a friend. If only he knew it's actually my girlfriend. I'm kind of afraid on telling him about my girlfriend because I don't want him to act differently with me or my girlfriend. Oh well, I say time will tell if I have to tell him or if I don't.

I think there is a time for everything. Be happy your mother knows and it's fine to her. For now I would say: just enjoy being together. Sooner or later there will be a way to be open or perhaps your family already knows at that moment. Don't give yourself extra stress or make a must out of letting everybody know. It's not worth it and you seldom get the respons you are looking for.

Well, for people it is okay to have relationship with that,and you said you are happy,and that is your choice,but you know,in God it is sin,even you know it is sin or not but its your choice and the consequences of that will face you..I think it is better to tell your family.

I think you should disclose your relationship as soon as possible as it is going to bring a difficult position for all of you if by chnace it suddenly came infront of your family.In that case it is going to ruin even the slightest chance of being accepted easily. secondly your mother knows everything so atleast you are having a support if you are hesitant stand by your mother and ask her to tell everyone..

Dear emdjay,I have no problem with your thinking but as your mom knows everything you should have disclosed the fact to other members in the family which will be affecting you dearly.

I think the best thing you can do is be honest with them it may not be easy but for everyone i know it has been hard hen they first tell everyone but it all smooths out in a matter of time and is easier on everyone

If you cannot go living apart, which you should have already done providing that you are on mating age already, then you should worry about that first. It will become into a nightmare to not only start living with your mate in the same house, but additionally, living with your family ! that's crazy ! i don't know how you even dare to ask about this ! :s