Why are there people you just met has seen the hate?!

Vietnam
January 11, 2012 10:48pm CST
I am very sociable. I can link you immediately with new colleagues and working with them very satisfied. But I do not understand why I can not do that to her. She is a new employee. I notice she does not know anything. But she was very good presentation. She was very good at theory but actually do nothing. I was mad with every ounce of her, from small eyes to the way she up both her hands in her pockets and walking around the room, spoke babble words. It was very uncomfortable. How can I work with her ??in a state like this?
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10 responses
@tatzkie23 (770)
• Philippines
13 Jan 12
Since you are very sociable, Maybe you know how to understand this kind of situation. Since She a very good at theory but not doing anything, why don't you try to approach her in a nice way and say what you feel or try to teach her. I know that there are times, we are just mad, or get annoyed with someone, without knowing the real reason why. Try to ignore her or try to know her first. Well, if she is really that annoying, then you can ignore her. Just do your own thing.
• Vietnam
13 Jan 12
Yes, she's really annoying. I don't know why I don't like her. At the first time, I had this feeling.
• Philippines
14 Jan 12
yeah sometimes when we first met some people, we don't like them at the first time. I feel the same sometimes.
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
12 Jan 12
I think there are really people, who at first meeting would really give you the feeling that you don't like her. Much as you don't like it to be that way, it happens. Well, i think you don't like her because to you she seems an arrogant person, who acts as if she knows it all. And maybe you don't like her because she just keeps on commanding what's on her mind, yet don't do some dirty works herself. If you are not in the same department, then avoid her. If she has something to ask you just do it civilly. Let her feel the animosity. In no time, she will ask you what is it that keeps you acting that way to her. And when that happens say your piece and see if she will change for the better.
• Vietnam
13 Jan 12
I wonder that why you can understand the status like that :) You said right about us. I'm doing right what you said. I avoid her when I can. But I don't know why she always try to talk to me and asking me everything about her work and about company. I hate this!
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
13 Jan 12
Of course i know how this feels, because i also experience this sometimes to a new arrogant employee. Hmm, i think you are threatened by her doing that. Somehow, you feel that she's trying to gain knowledge about the company and add the credit to herself. Don't let her use you for that.
@franne32 (694)
• Philippines
12 Jan 12
You can't please everyone and sometimes you just don't feel at ease with a certain person. Maybe she reminded you of someone or she is a representation of a person you will surely repel. Just don't sweat the small stuff. You don't have to think about her and you don't have to pressure yourself into befriending her. Be happy.
• Vietnam
13 Jan 12
OH, maybe I'm pressure myself. I think I need more time to familiar with her.
@tiina05 (2317)
• Philippines
12 Jan 12
Hello, In this situation you should act like a professional because even how much you dont like her she will be a part of the company you are working. It is either you accept her or ignore her that is the only choice you have. If you feel irritated to her just ignore her because this will start a fight. Alright? Good luck!
• Vietnam
13 Jan 12
Right. I should ignore her. I need much more time to accept her!
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
12 Jan 12
If there are works to be done which was assigned for her to do. You should at least find a way that she has to do those tasks. Both of you must focus on the work. Coz sometimes once you become irritated with someone, you start to notice even the way she walks and talks. Just like how you have described her here.
• Vietnam
13 Jan 12
Maybe this is the best way. Better than if I am given a task without working her in the same room.
• Indonesia
12 Jan 12
hello, maybe you should just tell it to him, explain with good language, not to make him offended by your words, even if you are a leader, you must keep every thing you would do, employees are more pleased with the chairman of a kind, good behavior , and meek.
• Vietnam
13 Jan 12
It's hard to control a relationship. Special it's in workplace. I think I should be more ingenious.
@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
12 Jan 12
There re really some people that e can't get along with no matter how much we try, I have met some people in my past works and even in school that I feel that I just can't get along with then, sometimes I feel like I don't really like them, or maybe they don't like me too, our personalities are just a mismatched... hehe but I learn to live with them around me, sometimes I just ignore them and just mind my own business as long as they are not doing anything wrong to me... In your case, since she is just new in your workplace, maybe you can give her a chance, try to talk to her in a good way of course, but if you can't really get along with her, just ignore her as if she didn't exists. lol! Just be civil with her.
• Vietnam
13 Jan 12
Maybe you're right. I should give her and myself the chance to cooperate together. Maybe her character is not suitable with me. I like your idea that we should learn to live with people around us
• India
12 Jan 12
As she is a colleague of yours, you need to be diplomatic with her in your approach. Just talk to her privately telling her the way you feel about her. Tell her that it would be difficult for you to work with her if she behaves in the same way. Ask her to change her attitude but say it in a pleasing way but not in a harsh way. Wait for some days to see if there is any change in her behavior after your talk. If she is still behaving the same way even after you had a talk with her then go ahead and talk with your boss or the higher authority. You need to have a peaceful environment in your office to work better.
• Vietnam
13 Jan 12
It look easy as you said. However, it's more difficult than you think. I can't say to her directly that I'm not pleasure about her. I understand the problem but I have never found the best way to sold. Thank you for your sharing.
@naseemkum (1803)
• India
13 Jan 12
I better advice u dont break ur relationship with her with ur thinking. As its quiet natural when we are attracted with such womens i too had this experience which makes me sick some more days. But i understand how can i control my mind over it so that everyone can be in a happy state.
@AidaLily (1450)
• United States
13 Jan 12
I would say just in your mind keep telling yourself to remain professional. If she literally does nothing past a few good ideas maybe think about her strengths so that you are able to work with her more. Another thing could be just to talk to her about it if you are able. I mean i am sure everyone whether they admit it or not has that initial dislike that can grow over time. So hopefully you are able to talk with her, or figure out a way you can not think of it as much.