Do you think I have to go out with my buddy?

Friends are there to cheer you up when you are down, to help you go through things especially when you are struggling, to make things a little more fun, and to just hang around when there isn't really anything much to do, so I think that it would be good to go out with one in this situation if you consider this one a true friend and he/she considers you the same.

My dear friend, you must understand how difficult it is to answer this question. I do not know you or all your circumstances and most of all I am not you. I can only imagine and wonder what I would do. Saying lack of pride and dignity I think is seldom written by those that should have none because they simply do not care. I think you care and should not maybe put yourself down too quickly. The education thing is only a gauge to show you something, to help you learn where you are strong and where you are weak, every is in something, right? Maybe, if the time feels right take something easier and get a good result to build up your ego. You can do this. Do not give up. I find that with writing. I can not give up or I will not progress. Go out and have fun I think but if you are like me sometimes I do not if my money is short because I am so independent but have on special occasion accepted a gift from someone that respects me.

Well the first thing I would like to point out, is no, you do not have to go out with your friend if you do not feel like it. Although you also say you have no pride or dignity so it sounds like your in a rut. Maybe going out with them can be something to help you gain these qualities back about yourself. Just my opinion and best of luck in making your decision.

You go out with you buddy. Although you are hesitant, just go for you to forgot all you have bad things about you. Time to change yourself. I am sure they will accept you of who you are.

yes a real friend will love you for you it dose not matter what you have acomplished

Don't feel embarrass about what happened to you. You have to move on, and then try again next time. Keeping yourself away from your friend will not do anything good. After all, Your friend is still interested in you. And if he/she is a real friend. What ever you'd accomplished in life, should not bothered him at all. But as you say, you don't want to go. It's up to you.

You don't HAVE TO do anything you don't want to, but I would think that you 'd want to go. Are you ashamed of your family?

I think you should go out with your friend. He would understand what you have been going through, and can be of great moral support. You won't feel embarrassed. When i am in a embarrassing situations my friends go out of their way to comfort me. I hope everything works out for you. Don't worry, be happy.

I know that looking at things from the point of view that you are looking at them from right now, you will feel like going out with the friend could be something that will humiliate you. However, if this person is a real friend, then they will not do that to you. Go out and you will probably see that you get home and are in a better mood than you've been in for quite some time.

Omg, confidence! And plus maybe it's supposed to be a date.

Hi, Wongchoiyee! I remember one of those books that give advise how to think positive and make your life better. The first advise was to stay in face of a mirror, look at your image and say that you like yourself, you like the person you are today, no matter if you are too fat or too thin etc. I think that you may go out with your buddy and feel like a normal person. And don't think all the time that you have "bad results". If you want to change your life, you should first learn to think positive about you, your present and future. This is not easy but you will succeed. Good luck!

If you're ready, why not? But if you think that you still need more time until you feel you're ready to go out, than it's ok for me. That's my opinion :)

You can do what you want, sit inside for the rest of your life and feel embarrashed and feel pity for yourself and complain. Instead of doing so you also can live your life and stop feeling pity for yourself. Start working! Go out, meet people and make the best of your life. You think you are the only one who once or more frequently failed in his/her life? If this is the way you handle problems or disappointments it's a good thing you did not end up with good results. People without courage, the will to fight for what they want should not end up with good results at all. That would be too easy plus they won't appreciate it anyway.

Hi wongchoiyee, I can feel that you wanted to go out with your friend. What's stopping you only was the situation you are in currently. But if that friend is a good one I don't think your friend is gonna judge you. I felt that before and I swear it doesn't feel really good to stay in hiding, It's sad and boring without good friends to share your life's ups and downs. So you go out and have fun with your friend.

hi wongchoiyee you should n ot have to prove anything to anyone but yourself. If those are friends then I w onder what is the difference with enemies. You girl get your pride back and your dignity and no\ you do not have to go out with your buddy feeling the way you do. You need to get some help to l ike yourself again, you are somebody,you are unique , God made you and he does not make bad stuff at all. So you do not work , and you do not have a family, and so what? That does not make you a bad person.If this buddy was really a buddy you would not be feeling embarrassed so think about that as buddies care about each other.

You don't work and you have a family so I think you should rather concentrate in your role as a housekeeper. Going out with friends is okay provided they are good friends and that you don't do this too often. Your first and foremost goal is to keep your home the best home your whole family will enjoy and nurture your children so that you could mold them into a good child you and God want them to be.

Hello wongchoiyee, Don't worry I have the same problem as you have. even with my mylot friends i tend to decline the offer to go out with them. except for that last year where a buddy of ours in college was leaving and i reluctantly had to go but didn't feel like hanging out with them because of their bragging of their successes. I don't work too just like you, but pride is among many thing, maybe pride doesn't have to be work related all the time. pride is a sin too

Hai ChoiYee, You should go out more often with your friend instead of hiding at your room. You should open your heart to outside world, only then you will be happier. Try not to keep thinking all the bad things and be more positive towards life. Go out with friends will definitely make your life more colorful. I don't think your friends will keep mention about the bad things about you if they are your buddy. So, just go out with them. Enjoy you life in a better way.

Hi Chong yee! It is up to you. I will not going to say whether you should or should not. If you think it is important for you to meet the friend then why not?? My short advice- think positive.(^^)

Well, do it. If said buddy doesn't understand, they're not a real buddy. Plain and simple.