It is unfair to expect more when we ourselves can't give
By zandi458
@zandi458 (28102)
Malaysia
January 13, 2012 6:22am CST
We often form relationships based on unreal expectations of another person. Then when that person shows some kind of weaknesses, we feel they have betrayed us by not being what we expect them to be. Many people hope to find someone with all the answers, someone they can rely on and take strength from, so they endow them with qualities they do not have. And then get angry when they let them down.
We often come into relationships with others because they seem to have the qualities we lack. They have something that might make us more complete - happier. Are you aware that this is a relationship based on taking and not giving because until you have everything you need, you cannot give. You cannot give from an empty bowl. 
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4 responses
@parascevi (313)
• Greece
13 Jan 12
I agree with you but most of the times people are really selfish.They know that they have anything or very little to give but keep asking from their partners,friends and family.I often see people who like to take the upper hand and keep asking from their relationships without giving anything...And i know marriages to be like that, the one is the happy and the one who takes charge and the other is the victim..
The sad is that i see this situation really often.
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@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
13 Jan 12
What we expect from someone has to do with what that person shows us. Most people are fake so they paint us a complete different picuture of who they are at the first place. If they turn out to be different there is a good reason to be disappointed and it will take time to discover the real person.
So my advice would be: be yourself no matter if you are a weak or strong person. Don't pretend you are someone else or better or more willing as you are in reality. Faking will break you sooner or later plus the relationships you have.
Also.. don't count on others. Learn to deal with yourself, make yourself happy and only give to others if it really comes from your heart. Giving while others blackmail or threaten you is not giving from your heart. I agree: you can not give from an empty bowl.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
23 Jan 12
No doubt people are wearing so many masks today which make it difficult to pinpoint genuine cases. Look beyond the mask people wear if one want to know what is in their hearts. First of all, one should remove one's own mask and reveal the self. But I believe each person who enters our life has a unique lesson to teach us. It is only through these lessons that we learn about life, people and relationship.
