Why sometimes I think trying new things is a bad thing

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Aloha, Mylot! Lately I've been feeling a tad disappointed with myself. Don't get me wrong, I'm not depressed, but just sort of bored with life! It feels to me like I'm not really accomplishing anything with each day passing by. Adults would tell me "oh, that's incredibly stupid and nonsensical coming from a 16-year-old boy's mouth". Well, what's the logical thing to do in such a situation? Try new things, right? Sure, sounds like a plan, but a flawed one. For example, let's say I decide to start practising karate, basketball or some other activity that requires a fair amount of my time. At first I enjoy doing it. It's a thrill, it's something interesting and it helps me socialise, too. But what I forgot in the first place is, this activity is also a responsibility for me. After I tell someone that I've started doing something new, their expectations instantly rise. And I HATE that. If I don't feel like going one or two times, I will be bombarded with questions like "Don't you have practice today?" or "Why didn't you go do your extracurricular activity today?". This quite literally annoys the hell out of me. The sad fact is, no matter how hard I try, I still want to meet with people's expectations. Because if I don't, I feel that I'll just be proving to myself that I'm no good and should be spending my entire life behind the computer like a pathetic and stereotypical basement dweller. I do not want to be that. I want to be somebody. But also I want to keep my freedom, I want to be able to choose what I want to do with my life without annoying people judging me... The worse part is, I try not to care, it usually works for a while, but eventually I fail miserably yet again and THIS MAKES ME FEEL BAD. In simple words, it sucks for me. I don't show it on the outside, but that sure doesn't help me a lot. I feel like I'm spending my time carelessly and inside I feel like just letting it all go, but the idea that I'll be disappointing others and the fact that I'll waste my time if I use it otherwise are making me reconsider. That's about as "beta" as a male can get, most likely. I want to develop, but in such circumstances, I simply cannot. It's literally a nightmare for me.