Support or oppose in your point ?
By Henryhoney
@Henryhoney (82)
China
January 13, 2012 11:57am CST
Greeting friends! Happy new year! There is a problem always bothering me these days, a job opportunity with higher salary than now is waiting for me to act, but an undesirable thing is that I have to go another city for this, in addition, another very important thing is that my wife will soon ging to have a baby(awfully exciting). By now, the thing I worry about mostly is I couldn't look after my wife and baby very well if I seize this job offer, and yet, If I stay in the city I live, that means the job opportunity will lose, how to have a determination. Friend, if I go to another city for work, do you support or oppose? Just as a slight clarification, the purpose of I want to choose job bases on this consideration to have our family living get even better. Thanks mylotter !
5 responses
@DayTimeDreamer (36)
• United States
14 Jan 12
I support you going to another city for work. You'll definitely need more money after you have this baby, and the extra income will really help you. Better job opportunities won't always be there, you have to seize it while you can. This might be hard on your family but you have to do what a man has to do, and that is to put bread on the table. In other words, get rich or die trying. Good luck my friend.
@Henryhoney (82)
• China
14 Jan 12
I agree wit you very much! I have realized the duty on my shoulder will be heavier in the future, it will need more much money to raise kid, I have to earn more money through different methods, including enjoy in here :) Thank you !
@fannitia (2167)
• Bulgaria
13 Jan 12
Hi, Henryhoney, welcome to myLot! This is a great news that your wife will have a baby. If this job opportunity is really good it'll help your family because now you will need more money. But this is a tough decision - to leave your home just when your wife will have to care about the baby and she will need support. I don't know other things about your family but I'm thinking - why don't you move to the new city with your wife and the baby? If it's possible, maybe this is the god solution for you. Good luck!
@Henryhoney (82)
• China
14 Jan 12
Thank you fannitia for your advice, I think it maybe not convenient to take my wife and baby to the new city, one reason is that I need to rent a house, another is I cant make sure I take care of my wife and baby very well, more important is my wife has her own business plan. Thank you anyway!
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
13 Jan 12
I wonder how much you are able to care about your pregnant wife at this moment.
Since you already have a job.
You also don't write if you are able to travel up and down.
Many women all over the world are pregnant and they manage great alone, they deliver babies alone and after the birth they have to get back to work too.
I think it's something the two of you have to discus. Is this new job a great opportunity? Do you need a higher income? What kind of real help/support are you giving your wife at this moment? Is it real help or just in your mind?
Is there anyone else who she can turn to in case of need?
Can you all move in time if you take the new job?
@Henryhoney (82)
• China
14 Jan 12
Thanks, Wakeupkitty! Forget to say, I have asked my wife for advice and later discussed deeply this befor I posted this, she supported and agreed me to go to another city for working, so in my thinking, I appreciate my wife anf same time feel sorry for her and baby, even though my parents had decided to get there for looking after my wife and baby. But until now, I have refused several good opportunities because my wife and soon-to-be born baby, and this chance is just that I always seek, I don't want to lose, unfortunately, the city I will work is close to my city, I can go home once a week.
@parascevi (313)
• Greece
13 Jan 12
I think that the best solution is to take this new job and come your wife with you to live here.
@angelako (280)
• Italy
14 Jan 12
It's surely a hard decision for you but in my opinion you have to accept your work.If you will remain in your city you cn provide the needs of your wife and child to be born.you need money in this time.so you have to work there and when you have money already you can bring you family to stay near you where your work is.Sometimes we have to sacrifice for our loveones.I know lot of poeple who do so thats the best thing I can say.
