unmarried vs married

I understand how you feel about how happy you were when you were still unmarried. Everybody feels the same way, I guess, when recalling the youth time we would miss and wish to come back to enjoy the time. When we look back, we are sad and are dying to be transfered back. The mind is filled with " If I were, If I were not...". Since I know that looking back will only make me sad, I have buried the past and look forward to the future. Yes, the future is the only way through which changes can be made.

I love my husband but yes there are days when I miss being single. I always thought that if I missed being unmarried it would be because I wanted to date other people but this is sooo far from the truth. It really is just as you described. Sometimes I just want to rely on myself and not worry about the demands or feelings of another person. Also, I'd feel less frustration and resentment when my hubby doesnt live up to the expectations I place on him. I'd be by myself so I wouldnt have any demands for another person just myself so there wouldnt be anything for me to get upset about.

Haha....Well, they say the grass is greener on the other side. Through all these, I am sure you also learned to appreciate your parents more. Bear it for the moment. Speak to your parents. Ask them how they feel back when you were young compared to now. Maybe it might give you some strength for the day...month...year...years. Persevere...don't lose focus.

i think you may envy my life coz i'm unmarried.just like what you said,i go to work everyday and come back home after work,i can go shopping in dayoff and enjoy my favourite food.....but so what,i'm not happy,in my mind,i feel lost and lonely!Dont look back and you had to go ahead,you'd belive that tomorrow will be better

I'm not married yet, yeah I feel free like a bird, I can go out whenever I want..but sometimes, I feel lonely....when I sleep without partner beside me. I want to get married now, and still looking for good girl and suitable for me.

Hello sumatix... Eh,,, my question is........are you sorry ? :D haha. Well, that is what wives or mothers do. It is their destiny to be a good wife, take care the children and do the house works :D. So did your mother, you need to try to enjoy caring your little angel :). I bet when you get back time when you are not married, you will miss this time, you'll miss your little angel and miss to be tired :D. Just live life easily :)

I miss having less responsibilities :) Don't get me wrong, I love having my own family now and the responsibilities that come with having one. But sometimes when the pressure is great, I do sometimes reminisce about those days when I was single. I mean, I only had to earn money to buy stuff for myself. All my bills were paid for by my parents :)

I know several women that wish they had never been married. It's too bad you only figure this out after you have given up the single life. Thankfully I have not made that mistake.

Really???.I am not married yet.But I so wanted to be married.It looks like married life has so much of love and there is a person for myself and can seek her whenever I want.Now that I am unmarried,I am enjoying all the stuff you are missing as no one can ask what I do and can stay in work as long as I want and all that.But I am eager to be married.I guess it looks greener until I step into it.Hope it goes out well.Anyhow,no one can escape from a relationship or a marriage.Happy mylotting.

After reading some of the responses from "married" princess, it made me wondered if marriage is indeed such a bad idea to make life that miserable. No, I don't think so. It had to be just grousers. It is just a wish to combine only the best of both worlds, while the not so nice ones (work) are hopefully taken away magically. If you were to be asked: "would you make the decision to get married if you can do it all over again?" I think 99 out of 100 the answer is "YES!"

I actually don't miss the days when I was unmarried. I hated the idiots that always asked or bought drinks to get 'some'. I hated when I wanted to go out with friends and they were coupled up. I hated the immaturity of my friends that weren't coupled up. I hated everything about not being married. Sure, I have no breaks now and what not, but I am not sitting at home with nothing to do and wondering if I feel like I want to go out on a friday. I like it. I don't want to go back to the days I wasn't married.

Married for just 9 months and I already feel WHY I DID SO! Missing those days with friends around the corner in Starbucks, drinking coffee, talking our guts out. All the times when mom use to pamper me like a little baby, spoon feed me and give me all the attention. Specially when I use to fall sick she use to sit by my bed side making sure that I fall asleep and that I am doing okay. there was no time to wake up or sleep, I was my own boss!!.. Making friends all around, does not matter if its a guy or a girl because nobody to get jealous or be suspicious. Go for random movies and make fun with friends.. Work and go to college, be like a super model !! :) Now its all about laundry and getting the clothes dried.. Waking up in the morning and preparing breakfast for my husband. Cleaning the toilets and the floors of the kitchen. Setting the bed right and making sure the shoes are in the closet not on the door step. Sleeping on time because there is nothing better to do in night. Listen more and talk less, get tired more and enjoy less! Why does it have to be this way? Seriously seems like we have reached the end of our lives.. I surely feel that way!!

This is the problem that most girls who are already married feel.When we are still single we are very eager to become married .We always want our boyfriend to be in ourside and we stay together.We dont think about he responsibility of a married woman unless we are already on it.When we already have children thats the time when we realized that being a married woman is a hard task.But what can we do its all there already.We only have to enjoy our life and give some time for pleasure.at least once a month.

My life before marriage and kids was a downward spiral. When I found out I was preg, I was headed down hill and fast. After I found out though, everything changed. I knew I had to change my life for my family I had helped to create. My husband can be a real pain sometimes and my girls have their moments when I wish I could lock them in cages, but I would not change it for anything in the world. I have been married for 5yrs now. My husband and I have been through so much and I know we will go through much more, but to me it is all worth it. Everyone feels differently about marriage and kids. I know things may seem like they would be better if you hadn't gotten married and started a family, but once your baby starts really walking and talking, and you get to see all the new things he/she is learning, you will see that it is worth it.

True...marriage is like a self designed prison...you begin to lose most of your erstwhile privileges...you are no more the sole decision maker .It is going to be a self devised dungeon having put everything to the mercy of the agreement of the partner in question.

I am so grateful never getting married and I plan to never be married! I would go crazy if I was! I would turn into my mom and I am not doing that! My mom would try to please my dad and make him happy. He is a jerk by the way! With my mom that way she didn't have enough time for me and my siblings! It sucked! I stay single for other reasons! I have my freedom! My privacy! I can go and come as I please! I don't have to answer to anyone else! No worring about another person! I can do what I want! I love my independence and no way am I going to give that up!

OF COURSE! But being married and sshh years old takes me to new heights in my life. My firstborn is 14 going on 15, the 7 is going on 8 and I make them help out with the housework. I like bossing them around (not often enough though). The best part is I realise that I can steer and influence them (to be better) and this makes me a leader in my own right. I would have never been in a managerial position if I wasnt married. Be patient, your time will come...

it is better to be single and unmarried because being married entails a lot of responsibilities as a mother and a wife...most especially if we already have a kid or kids it becomes even harder...we can't do the things or we find it hard to the things we used to do freely when we are single,,,sometimes i think i don't feel like getting married because of these things..for now, i am alright with being single..

I am yet bachelor now. and i have no ideas to marital life. and i think that a bachelor life is more greater than a marital life.

Hi, I also miss my days when I was unmarried....When i was unmarried iam a free bird.. no responsibilities,no tensions,no stress,and has so many free time and enjoyable moments with friends...also our parents will treat us like a child.After marriage i have to be responsible in every field of my life..and there is no much more time to spend with my friends..commonly i miss all my enjoyment partially...So be enjoy every movement of our life.... All the best