It's hard to work in a place full of negativity

I strongly agree with you that such manager is not in his right place. I do not like this work Circumstances. Manager should have as much as for the management skills, and be Fair for judging about his employees,and his Evaluation depend on Achieving the goal of his company and And not on personal desires.

That's a mature way of dealing with your situation. My workplace is not full of negativity but I sense politics and power play in here though.

Good for you. I think at most places they have that sickness...my boss also does. I don't feel bad though..the one she really plays favorites to also has alot of responsibility with that title...extra jobs sometimes fall on her..and running around sucking up to someone all the time can't be that easy!

I know this, working with a person who is not in good mood and always angry and hard to approach. It is really hard to work and keep calm. Sometimes I'm being affected too. What I do is just always think positive and keep talking with friends and stay happy. I hope your new boss will be OK and understand her/his employees later on. Change is inevitable, we just need to adjust.

I know it must be hard. We can't say anything because she is the big boss and can do anything she likes. Ignore her as you long as you could. But if anything bad happen I hope you can stand for your right.

Hi secretbear, What you're doing is great! It just means you are wiser and mature enough to handle such situation. It does not mean that when someone berate you before from the previous boss would mean you have to show her your rough side. And it's really good that you are just smooth on her, obeyed her and being professional on her. She's the boss, no matter how annoying her personality is. 'Though if she was being too personal on you then there you can start complaining and defending yourself.

Quite true !! It is tough going when you have to exercise your responsibilities in a negative environment.It is simply unthinkable. Any new activity or continued vocation necessarily must have congenial atmosphere of operation. Otherwise things would be in turmoil.

I can understand how negativity can corrupt the workplace, even when you work at home. At the beginning of the year there were several changes made to the company as a whole. We went to a new payroll system that took us from being paid every week, to being paid every two weeks. In transitioning to the new payroll system, there have been many hiccups that have caused people not to be paid for the hours they worked; which is bad for morale no matter where you are. Also, there is a new project which called for entirely new software that I am on. Not only was there new, difficult software to learn, but the group that was chosen had been used to only customer service, but now we are sales reps. The software we use for the new billing system is very buggy. It constantly crashes and makes the call process very difficult. Finally within this group there is one person (isn't there always one?) who is negative about everything. We have a call center chat where we can communicate with everyone in the company who is logged in. There is one rep who continually complains about each and every problem. And when there are no calls or problems to field, he feels obligated to tell us about the headaches he had and personal computer problems. Communicating all these problems does nothing to help our morale, which is kinda low given the other circumstances. Its hard to get excited about work, even though we work from home! Your problem seems a bit more deep, as I'm pretty sure that all the problems we're having will subside eventually with practice...well, except the one guy unless a coach talks to him directly. I'm not sure how your human resources work, but I hope if this new manager takes too much advantage of her position there is some way you can report her to resolve the issue.

Well, I am catching up on old myLot discussions, as now sorry to hear your new boss is such a jerk. I hope by now things have improved. I had a boss like that once and she finally got fired, but by then I had found a better job and decided to move on anyway. Bosses like that end up costing the company a lot in the long run!

It is very difficult to work in an environment where the boss is less than people friendly. Bosses that are insecure like the one you have described can be a nightmare. I have gotten my kids up and grown and do not subject myself to this type of indignity; I refuse to allow others to mistreat me just because they feel they can. Age kinda makes you a bit short for the dumb stuff. I hope all works out well for you; you are the bigger person in this situation. Bravo to you, secretbear.

She really got the post? It must have been hard on u then, secret

i definitely agree. it is better to work if you love what you're doing and you like your work environment. being optimistic will help but it can only help you that much. if your boss is a problem, i suggest to focus your mind to other motivations that you can think of. it is a good thing that you're still focus on doing your job instead of complaining as this might complicate things. hope you will still be able to cope up with this kind of environment setting but if you can't bear it anymore, then it wouldn't hurt to find a job with less negative working environment.

yes it is very hard. I am lucky only got negativism but no one ever get laid off. I often did some work out of working hour because of bad mood build up during the work hour. If bad mood came, I just work regular job. Not any assignment.

I still do not work because I am a law student.What I can say is that it is very difficult to do any activity, whatever it is,in an environment full of negativity. Negativity is counter-productive. I hate negative people.Life was made for people who are positive =).

I feel you my friend. It happens on me on my previous job and it is not a good idea to stay there. You do not want to wait for the chances that this person will berate you in front of your face so I think you should get out of there. I am saddened that it is now happening to you too. I remember during that time of my life I was experiencing that, it was hard to wake up in the morning because I know I will be facing another nightmare. I wonder how can this kind of people treat other people. They are selfish and they let will put you down instead of helping you. I admire your patience of doing your job everyday rather than absorbing the negativity. I am sure if you get influenced by the others, your job will be affected and that monster will use it against you. Just always be careful in everything you do there. I just hope you all get out of there and look for a new job and let that one monster do that job alone so she can feel how it is hard to face different kinds of job there, however, transferring to other job is not easy as it is not easy to find new jobs. I just hope you double your patience.

it sure is hard to work with a boss like that on top of an already negative workplace. but i guess the best way is to always think of the reason why you work there. it wouldn't really help if you guys keep getting annoyed with your boss. in fact, it may just make things worse. remember.. you attract what you think.. if you keep thinking about how annoying your boss is, you'll probably attract more reasons to be annoyed with your boss.

I'm glad that you are just doing your job and not letting it get to you. I know what it feels like to work with someone so difficult. It of course doesn't sound easy to work with someone like that and she sounds very unprofessional. I wish you all the luck with this and maybe something might change the way she is acting. Maybe one day she'll take a hard look at herself and realize that the way she's treating people is just wrong, hopefully. Good luck and just brush it off your shoulders. ^_^

I understand what you mean. It is really hard to work in such an environment. But the thing is that person is still the boss and no matter what, she is in position and should be treated with respect. There are those who will surely make sipsip (socially insecure person seeking instant promotion) but do not let it affect you and don't do the same. Just do your work in best of your ability and treat everyone with respect. I am sure that if you do this, you will certainly be fine and well.

Believe me I know. I have been there. Back when I worked outside the home my company hired a woman to be in charge of pretty much everyone and she was awful. She treated people horribly. At first she was OK to me because like you I obeyed. I then saw my co-workers that I had worked for years start dissapearing around me one by one. Some so angry by how she treated them they left and others she let go. Then she started to pick on me, I could do no right even though I never really actually did anything wrong, one day I did actually make an extremely minor mistake that was fixed within seconds and she called me names. I can tell you it will not get better I am sorry to say and eventually she will turn on you to because that is what women like that do. I finally decided to leave even though I found it hard to make more or the same money else where. I took another job with a very minor pay cut and it was the best decision I could have ever made.

Oh dear I could imagine the kind of environment your office has. I surely can't last working in this kind of environment. Nevertheless, before anything else you should also consider how hard it is to find new job so, although I know it would be very, very hard, if you can manage then just ignore all the negative things around and just concentrate doing your job.