When marriage is being put to test, what shoud I do?

Dnt worry it happens with most married couples.. But the love between each other brings the relation back to force... In such situations, one should compromise...not that always the same person should...it depends on the situation and realization of the compromising person..You have not mentioned the reason for the quarrel and when u got married? Newly married couples generally get into discussions and start quarreling unnecessarily.Misunderstanding as you said occur when their no proper communication between the two.Both need to discuss things before doing them..to build confidence in each other.This is main aspect for a healthy relationship.TRY TO BE PATIENT..Never ever think of ending a relationship...if u get such thoughts...then think of those moments which made u feel happy in his company..All will be well.If ur hurt for any reason then keep quiet(don't unnecessarily discuss)and think over it.i U FEEL IT NEEDS TO BE DISCUSSED THEN DISCUSS IT AT A LATER STATE,AVOID IT AT THAT ANGRY MOMENT.Silence is the key aspect.Control your anger.KEEP COOL....

I'm so sorry to hear that but i do think that you guys should be calm down and thinking about what you gonna say before saying.I know that it's the most uncoolest time when people had a fight.Anyway,cool it and try to be happy.Nothing worth you feel so bad.Have a nice day and everything is gonna be fine.

FACE IT. When your marriage is at test you should face it. Think of it as a way to strengthen your relationship with your husband. No marriage is perfect, but you can make it worth it if you too will try to look back what you've promised in front of God.

Hi aicasalinks, Can understand how you must be feeling..But this is also true that fights in marriage are pretty normal as whenever two persons are their with their own point of view differences in opinion arises..Well i dont know what was the reason of fight but if it was a stupid topic for which sometimes we juct go in the flow to proove ourself right then just let it go...We do have fights in our relations like brothers and sisters, mom ans children but no one keep grudges..The main thing is that you love your hubby and your marriage. Hubby is your partner means partner in everything in a fight too some times on your side sometimes infront of you...its life...in anger everything happens...in the morning or bed time just give him a loving hug and it will be done...trust me...

You should not worry about that.Most couples fight every day for even small things and then realize that it was not worth for it.Maybe you should talk again about what was the really reason for this fight and to ask forgiveness to each other while you promise to not argue again for that or anything else.Sometimes this helps.

Don't worry you are just as normal as any other couples. My husband and I got married when we were not actually ready yet to build a family. We had shouting and cursing and honestly, minor hurting also. I cried a river whenever we fought. He also tried to live apart from me, not to leave me, but to have a space. I am not a religious person but I did pray on those instances for God to keep me strong and to enlighten both of us. I didn't even pray for my husband. I also evaluated myself and realized I had shortcomings also as a wife. I tried to improve myself. If you don't do anything, then, that's it. If you don't care what will happen next and let yourself drown to your own pride thinking you can stand and live alone, you're wrong. Don't even be compulsive and think immediately of ending your relationship. You have to be patient. And ending a relationship undergoes a process. The end is not really the end. You will still go through a lot of things and this will leave stigma to yourself. And if you have children, it extends to them and sometimes they bring it until they get old.

hi aicasalinks I think all couples at one time or another have words about something, the thing is after the fight to pick up the pieces and try to talk calmly and softly to your mate.A soft calm voice turns away wrath. Perhaps once your husband has had time to rethink the misunderstanding he might be feeling bad too. with real love and respect for each other you might be able to talk quietly and solve the problems that you fought about.I remember one fight my hubby and I had and finally he looked at me and I looked at him and he said"What the hell were we even fighting about. he laughed and we shelved that one. but I did remember what the fight was about. I had just told him that I had a cramp, went to the bathroom and had a miscarriage just like that, without even knowing I was pregnant. now he shouted at me that I had not wanted his baby or it would not have happened. I was horribly hurt at that so I called my doctor and told him about this and that my husband thought I had caused that on purpose. the doctor assured him that I could not have caused it, that it was natures way of stopping a pregnancy if the body thought something was wrong with the newly formed fetus. then he apologized to me. it really pays to keep calm, cool and collected then talk things over quietly.

Arguments and misunderstandings do happen in most married couples. It's good that you didn't end up physically hurting each other. But whatever was the cause of that fight, I'd suggest that you talk about it and really find out what's the root cause of it. But I do however suggest that you do this when both of you have simmered down. It's not really a good idea to talk when emotions are still high :)