My daughter has a temper.
By ashleymosq
@ashleymosq (44)
United States
January 14, 2012 10:25am CST
She is 4. But she has a temper like you wouldn't believe. I don't know what is going on with her. Most of the time she is fine, but if something happens that she don't like, she gets so mad. Right now she is in the corner screaming and growling. The reason- She told me she wanted a cookie, I told her no it is too early to be eating something like that. Usually I let her have one sweet thing after lunch and that is all she gets. A few minutes later she told me she wanted a cookie again. Again I told her no. The after I laid the baby down for a nap she came up to me and asked again for a cookie. I told her no, and now since she kept on after I told her no several times, she don't get a cookie at all today. Then she started growling and screaming. I told her to go to the corner. On her way to the corner she was hitting the coffee table.
Most of the time she accepts when I tell her no, but she has days where she gets so mad. Is this normal for 4yr olds?
4 responses
@Craydz (65)
• Philippines
15 Jan 12
We have what we called Temper Tantrums or acting out.As a child this is one way of asserting independence. But usually it rarely occur during age 4. If it persist I suggest you need a help of your health care provider.
When your child has a temper tantrum,it is important that you stay calm. It helps to remeber that tantrums are normal--they are not your fault.You are not a bad parent and your daughter is not a bad child. Hitting/shouting your child will make it worse. A quiet,peaceful response and atmosphere,without "giving in" or breaking the rule that you've just set, will reduce stress and make you both feel better.
@parascevi (313)
• Greece
15 Jan 12
Some kids are really naughty and want to do whatever they like, they disobey and things like that. I have seen this many many times with my friend's kids,nieces etc..
You do not have to worry because this is completely normal. Kids do that all the time but you can always talk with your kid's doctor about that.
I think that you should better not give her notice and let her alone. I am sure that she reacts like this so as to draw your attention.
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
15 Jan 12
I am not sure that this is normal for all 4 years old but I do
know that you need to nip that in the bud before it gets out of
hand,,,and what I mean by that is she need to learn "NO" means
"NO" and 4 is not to young to learn that..
THere are several parents who didn't put their foot down with their
toddlers and truly regret it..You don't want her to get out in
public and embarrass even by merely an unacceptable behavior...
Good luck!!!!!
@jeslin (147)
•
14 Jan 12
you haven't seen the worst. My sister literally pulls the hair out of my head when she doesn't get what she wants. All she does is scream and cry, demanding for something which is so obvious that my mum wouldn't allow it. What my mum does is lock her in the room for 10min. telling her that if she wants to continue on being like that, she can stay into the room and get locked in forever. 10mins is what she gets to calm herself down. If the screaming continues, she gets lock in there for 30 min. She gets more agitated especially when her favorite cartoon is about to play on tv. So its either cartoon or that barbie doll she saw in the mall. She'll figure out which one is easier to get sooner or later. haha. =)
