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Do you feel that people push marriage?
By AidaLily
@AidaLily (1450)
United States
January 14, 2012 5:16pm CST
I started another discussion about why people view marriage as a death sentence and one of my replies made me think about something else...
Do people push marriage?
Now in the US at least with televised marriages and other such things I don't think that people push marriage. I think people push the wedding.
Most couples are pretty happy and may even want to take that step forward into marriage sooner than I would say is best but everyone is different.
What I am asking is do you think people are pushing marriage complete with responsibilities, possibility of children, the joining of two lives, and all that
or...
Do you think people are pushing the wedding complete with the dress, the food, the gifts, the party, and all of that?
I personally think that the reason for rising divorce rates, is in fact that people are pushing the wedding rather than the marriage. They are pushing for the big or small parties, the center of attention on them (both men and women), etc. and so they don't take the time they need to truly build a relationship together which leads them to complain about married life or unexpected happenings with marriage.
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7 responses
@AidaLily (1450)
• United States
15 Jan 12
I can't seem to see the marriage being pushed. Because as a little girl, most parents will call the girl their little princess and they play dress up and more. To me it seems as though they are pushing the wedding because of that. I mean most women will only dress up like that on their wedding day, not during the marriage. The wedding day and honeymoon are like the fun, center of attention, and so on grabbers. I think they hype up the wedding so when people realize the party is over and that they are married, they hate it.
@qinjuan (20)
• China
15 Jan 12
Find the right person of you,I don't think marriage is a stress.
Because a more person go with you together to face the difficulties and
happiness in life.
@beamer88 (4259)
• Philippines
15 Jan 12
Yeah, I guess some people are sort of pushing for it. I feel that they're fixated on the wedding and not the life after that. I mean, they plan out the wedding to the very detail but I don't think they've done the same kind of planning for the life they'll have after that day. This can be a cause of separations or broken families. (We don't have divorce in our country).
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
15 Jan 12
Interesting subject. I am not sure if that happens over here too. Most people in my country don't care if you are married or not. It's not a reason to not get children or live together. Also those who get married seldom have the big weddings, so I don't think they are pushed into the wedding party really. Although perhaps my daughter is somehow by her parents in law? She wants to get married abroad but her mother in law doesn't like that. I don't think we have the bridezilla's overhere, no weddingplanners really so if you are pushed, you are pushed into marriage over here. Still there are parts in our society who push you into that.
@parascevi (313)
• Greece
15 Jan 12
I can not tell what happen in USA because i do not live there. In my country things are different. Women do not get easily married until they are fully independent financially for ex. they get married after they have settled down with a good job or career. The same happens with men too.When a couple decides to get married is because they really want to do that , usually after they have lived together for some years and they know each other really well. They do not care about fancy marriages and all these...
People here in Greece get married after a mature and long thought, usually around 25-28 after their studies usually, and i believe that is the reason for not getting divorced easily. Because they decided to get married after serious thoughts and not by impulse and enthusiasm.
@Sebastion1234 (293)
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15 Jan 12
Some Asian culture normally the parents pushes the son to get marriage they afraid they won't be able to see their grandson or daughter
@universe2o6 (356)
• Brazil
15 Jan 12
marriage is an old thing which people still beleive means something. They say it's holy and that God is the one blessing them but we all know that many famous people get married for the tabloids, just look at that kardashian girl, do you think she really wanted to get married for the whole meaning of marrigie? Crazy right?
