parenting

I'm a dad, but back in high school, I kind of been a bit of a slacker myself. My mom and I had a heart to heart talk about it. I remembered she didn't get mad or anything like that but instead showed real sincerity and concern. For some reason, this approach was effective since I recall feeling very guilty about everything that I really made sure to do better with my schoolwork. Now this is also how I plan to approach my son if ever he slacks off a bit in his studies. Well, he's only in grade school but I don't discount the possibility that he might slacken off in high school since it had happened to me.

is he having trouble with the homework assignments or with the tests?? my son could do all the homework assignments but be failing the tests. he did better doing oral prestests but written, it was like the information got lost. we tried everything, from talking to the teachers to grounding him. it wasn't until he joined the the JR Officer Training Corp that is offered at the high school, that he's finally getting it together. they have given him so much responsibility and to show him how to be proud of himself. if your high school offers such a program, it would be worth looking into.

Hi there Makingitwork, Welcome to Mylot! I hope your going to love this place! Well, you can't get away with raising a teen without having to deal with at least some sort of issues! That just wouldn't be fair to the rest of us! I will say that you are very lucky that you aren't having behavorial issues with him because those are just really hard to deal with. He sounds like a really good kid and I will say that quite often (not always) these good kids get picked on. First, I would sit him down and have a talk and rule out bullying. Where he has always had decent grades and suddenly they have taken a drastic drop just makes me wonder if something isn't really playing on his mind. Another thought and one thing that all of my daughters complained about at one time or another is that it's hard to focus and concentrate in class. Seems there is always at least one kid and often more that is disruptive and distractive and makes it very hard to focus in the classroom. Talk to your son and ask him why he thinks his grades are suddenly so low. Are his courses harder this term? Maybe he needs to stay after and spend time with his teachers. I'd also talk to his individual teachers and tell them your concerns and see if they can offer any insight. Good luck and keep us posted.

Well, I do think that this is a time of his life where he is going through a lot of changes that make it difficult to stick with things and his interests are changing. As far as suggestions that will help him with his studies, I would recommend spending more time with him and also checking to see if there are any tutoring centers near where you live as that might be a big help for him.

There are only a few things that can make a guy go from A to C. Either he is having a existence crysis or he is having girl troubles. You need to talk to him and give him some life tips, it seems like they never listen but psycologically speaking, their sub conscious always listens to what there moms say so talk abouy everything you can and they will always listen

Since he seems to be flactuating with his grades, I would suggest you to sit down with him and try to find out what might be going wrong either at home or in school. Sometimes unfriendly school atmospheres may be a contributing factor to his poor performances. Try to find out like; how does he relate with other children in school and any other important information that may help.

Sounds like he is a good kid that just decided to be lazy. Maybe you can start by having a talk with him to see what is going on. Is there anything else in his personal life that may have happened to change his motivation? It could be something as simple as a girl turned him down for a date or some bullies at school are bothering him. I'd start by trying to get to the cause of his slacking, if he was always a good student before. If he won't answer you, it may be worthwhile to ask some of his teachers if they have noticed anything happening in school. Good luck! I'm sure he is not turning into a full-time slacker. I bet there is just something else on his mind or he isn't feeling motivated. Hope you get to the bottom of it all.

He be patient with him and not give up hope on him