Couples living together

I definitely believe that couples should live together before getting married because everything is so different when you're living with someone 24/7. It's one thing to spend a day with someone, but something completely different to spend a day someone and go home with them every night every day of the year. Plus, you never know about the small habits or quirks that someone has until you live with them and if you can't stand those then a marriage won't work. Plus, I hate to bring it up, but a lot of people get stuck in abusive relationships because they marry before they live with someone. Not always the case, but a lot of the time if you are with someone who is prone to abuse then they will generally not show it until you are "committed" and living with each other and then they will gradually start to show that side. It's a lot easier to get out of an abusive relationship than an abusive marriage. My husband and I lived together for a year or so before we got married. We moved 900 miles away from home to go to college and live near my grandparents and we figured if we could make it through that together we could make it through the rest of our lives and we did. It was a bit of a struggle at first because we grew up in very different houses, but once we both compromised and figured out how our own household would be run then it was easy and has made for a smooth marriage because there was no surprises. :) But each to their own. It's not like one way is "right" and the other is "wrong".

I suggest yes. This is because living together gives you an opportunity to really appreciate the strength and weakness of your partner and as well learn to cope with them. This helps because when you are married, there is no new expectations from your partner.

I think it depends on the people in a relationship. I've seen both work successfully. Personally, my experience speaks loudly of living together first, but still don't expect to know everything about the other person. I've found once a ring of marriage is on your finger, no matter how long you were together, people change. By that, I've found the man's attitude changes and they begin to see the woman as some kind of property that they can control. This is my second marriage and it has proved true with both. I didn't live with the first one for a long time, but I did this one, and both are the same. Since I was married the first time for 34 years, and in this relationship since 2003, I seem to be tolerant of the changes, but they are there. However, when they infringe too much on my independence, they find I balk. Thanks for the discussion!

I would definitely recommend couples live together before marriage to be sure that they are really compatible in everyday life, although that does not ensure that you will have a successful marriage and stay together forever. Still, I believe that it gives you better odds of having a good marriage and being able to make it last for life - most everything in life is a gamble, but I think it is a good idea to give yourself the best odds possible to succeed. One of the main reasons that I think couples should live together before marriage is that people have some habits that you might not notice or have any reason to be aware of until you are living together, such as leaving the cap off the toothpaste or having to have the window open while sleeping, even if it is sub-zero temperatures. The first example may seem quite petty, but when there are a lot of little things that add up to a great annoyance, then you might realize that this person is not really the one that you are meant to spend the rest of your life with. It is better to know these things and make an informed decision than to find out after marriage and either be trapped and unhappy for the rest of your life or have to go through the hassle and expense of trying to get a divorce.

I think that couples should live together before getting married, it would be the ideal situation, because that can prevent a divorce. One thing is be lovers and only see each other one/two time per day, other is have to live with this person all day long. It's not the same thing, but I remember that when I lived with my sister we used to fight a lot for little things, now that we don't live together anymore, we rarely fight.

i think my answer is also yes,because you will know your partner more when you started to live together in one roof. After live in,this is the time that i can decide if i will marry him or not. If the outcome of live in is okay i will go and marry him and if not i will leave the relationship.

I think that it's a good idea for couples to live together before getting married. My husband and I did live together before we got married, and I think that it was a good idea. I think we benefited from it.

I agree with you. I think that all couples should HAVE to live together before marriage, we would have fewer divorces if that was the case. I can't tell you how many people I know, got married only to get divorced shortly after. The reason for the divorces were becuase the couple didn't know each other as good as they hoped, and once they started living together, they realized that they really were well suited to one another and they were just too differnt to live togehter. If those same people had lived together prior to getting married, they would have seen that things would not have worked out and they could have avoided the situation. Having said that, it could also have worked out the other way. If they had lived together before marriage, they would have know what they were getting into and maybe had a chance to make things work. Either way I think couples should live together and get to know one another before marriage. My husband and I have been together for 14 years, married for 7 of thoses years and we lived together before we got married. It was actually us living together that showed us that we were ready to get married and start a family together. Great discussion, keep up the good work.

I agree, couples should live together before they actually decide to get married. This will definitely give them a chance to really know how each others bad and good habits. Also, it will open a lot of eyes whether this is the right person we should commit too. Many of us rush into marriage and within a year or so their headed to the court house. I think couples should take things slow and get to know each other whether they are compatible or whether they have anything in common. Trust me, I dated my husband for two years and it never really dawn on me how lazy he is. Don't get me wrong, I love him but if I knew he was lazy I think I might have thought things twice. I'm happy but if given the chance I would have preferred to live with him before we actually decided to marry.

It is really good for a couple to live together for them to get to know each other. By that they will know if they are compatible living together as a married couple. By that also they will know if their relationships work.

I think it's better to live together first but only if you also find the courage to leave if it doesn't work out.

For me cannot living together, Many of parents not allow to do so. If already engagement maybe i agree with you but nowadays these thing become common. Like in some countries not allow living together could be arrested by police if don't have any proof of future husband.

It may be or may not be . From indian culture it is not possible , there are some limits .