Oversensitive Jealous Girlfriend

Being Jealous - I am a very jealous person. Even though I don't have concrete reasons, I always get jealous with anyone. I hope I can change this attitude of mine since this signifies that I do not have much trust to my girlfriend. And a relationship is bound to fail without trust.
Philippines
January 15, 2012 1:32am CST
That's me. My girlfriend and I does not fight much, but when we do, it's always because of me. ALWAYS because of ME. Though I am just a tiny speck of dust in this humongous universe of our, I have such enormous ego that sometimes sucks up my capability to think rationally and provokes me to do things impulsively that I, of course, would regret in the end. Can any of you tell me why I am like this? Why do I let my emotions take over me and cloud my decisions? Seriously. I genuinely love my girlfriend but from time to time, I unintentionally do things that could hurt her feelings. There are times that I feel like I'm demanding too much from her while I give so little in return. She is always the one who has to exert more effort in our relationship and I have to commend her for that. When she do these things for me I don't even know if I truly deserve to be loved by this awesome woman. I honestly don't know what she found in me. I am as average person as you can get: average looks, average talents, average intelligence. What can I say? I'm the queen of mediocrity. And yet she's still here. For one year and six months she never stopped loving me. Despite of all the things I have or have not done for her, despite of my temper, despite of my being jealous and selfish without concrete reasons and my other imperfections, she stayed. Thank you Moi (that's what we call each other, an acrostic for My Only Inspiration). for every thing you have done for me and for our relationship. Believe me, I have been trying to improve myself for you, for us. I don't know for how long you can still put up with me but I hope it'll be long enough for you to see how much you really meant to me. I love you so much.
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8 responses
• India
15 Jan 12
I think it is not good , that having a very sensitive girlfriend . I will be very risky .
• Philippines
15 Jan 12
Oh, I was actually talking about myself. I am the "oversensitive girlfriend". Lol. So why is it risky? :D
@bubuth (1815)
• Philippines
16 Jan 12
Being jealous is natural in every person. It just show that she really love you. Don't under estimate your self, no one is perfect in this world and i think that is the best thing that you have that's why she love you. Like me,i love my husband even he is not perfect and every time that he do something wrong like he can't pronounce that right word or he cannot cook a dish very well,i love him more and more every time that i see the imperfection that he have,i looks so cute to my eye.
@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
15 Jan 12
Being jealous is a natural reaction, but then we have to stop and think if our partner actually deserves are anger and then we have to step back and take a deep breath and not say things we don't really mean or that may be irrational. Next time you get jealous just step back for a moment and think and remember your girlfriend loves you, have some faith in your love for her and her love for you, and have trust in her. Let her know you have trust in her and that you believe in her and your relationship and never take her for granted. That is something none of us want is to be taken for granted.
@zaahro (748)
• Indonesia
16 Jan 12
Aww so sweet, I had a boyfriend like you. But he could never change, and I did not ask him to change. We tried to keep fighting for our relationship. But at last he left me because he was shy, he felt I was too good for him. I told him that it was not a problem but he let me go to get someone better. I don't know why some boys do that and why some girls stay like that, it is love and ego that drive us in such relationship. You have to change for her, for you relationship. Show her that she worths what she has been doing :). Happy mylotting.
15 Jan 12
oh man girls are extreme sensitive that why we need to take care of their fellings
15 Jan 12
You need to stop beating yourself up over this. Your girlfriend's just being herself, and you're just being yourself. There's no problem with that. If it's because of you, like you say, look at her. She might be subconsciously provoking you. You clearly love her, so try to make it work.
@kaylachan (71519)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
15 Jan 12
Since I don't know you, I can't honestly tell you what's wrong with you. However, if you're man enough to understand and know your own flaws, you can't be all that bad. All I can say, is since you've got a handle on what's apparently wrong, you have the ability to change things for the better. There is an old saying that says, the first step to solving a problem is admitting there is one. Seeing as how you've admitted something wrong, that's a good sign in the right direction. Maybe it's time you took a step back and took a look at what you want to fix. Think of ways of resolving your issues and find ways to solve your problems. Everyone has to start with the first step after all. Make a point to change, and eventually you will. But, you have to work at it of course. It's one thing to admit change, it's another to accutally accomplish it. Changing takes work, you obviously know that. And, as such, that's the best and only advise I can give.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
15 Jan 12
You are the only one who knows why you are pushing her over the edge each time.. is there a part of you that is still trying out how much she really loves you? How far you can go? You could let her read this but if it helps in the end? My ex did this with me for over 8 years then I left. Now it is about 6 years later, now he says the same like you do. But it's too late. I am not interested anymore and started a new life. A way better life, my life. I wish you a lot of luck.