Mom wants my money!!!!
By tamirs
@tamirs (1807)
Philippines
January 15, 2012 6:46am CST
January 20 is my mom's birthday.
Every year,me and my husband, spends money for our parents birthdays,not only for the gifts but also for the food.This year my mom talked to me and ask me if she can just have the money.
She don't like a grand birthday celebration this year.She told me Carbonara will do just fine.She needed money to fund her mini grocery 
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Well,why not?
So tomorrow we will go to the city to buy grocery to fill her store.though it is just a small amount,she say it will help her a lot.
Isn't that wonderful?Do you think its just okay to just give her money to fill her store rather than have a party?
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Well,why not?
So tomorrow we will go to the city to buy grocery to fill her store.though it is just a small amount,she say it will help her a lot.
Isn't that wonderful?Do you think its just okay to just give her money to fill her store rather than have a party?10 people like this
42 responses
@CRIVAS (1815)
• Canada
15 Jan 12
Absolutely. I think that a birthday gift should be something that a person really wants or needs, and since your mother asked you to do this for her, I think it is great that you and your husband are doing it. I don't like big parties, I am turning 30 this year and everyone kept asking me what I want. I have told everyone that the only thing that I want is a nice quiet dinner with my family. I don't want a lot of friends over, I don't want a big deal made, I just want to spend my birthday with the people that I love. I think that doing this for your mom will make her very happy and you should be very proud to know that you are the one making her feel that way. Good job. Happy mylotting.
@kukueye (1759)
• Malaysia
15 Jan 12
I think is ok and better to give her money to fill up her mini grocery , better to give her the means to support herself then waste it on a party that is over and nothing to be gain, better for a profitable mini grocery which will a gift that last for long time and best benefits to her.Hopely the mini grocery will be profitable business venture for her.Money that grows money is better than money wasted.
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@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
16 Jan 12
I think you do the right thing, my friend. Because your mother purpose is not for a short time happiness for her but a long time happiness where she spend time manage her mini-grocery....
Party is not bad but if we think enough on these days. We must be practical to spend money in the right way...
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@smurfysmurf (651)
• Philippines
17 Jan 12
Hi Aerous,
Yeah, I agree with you. We really need to be practical especially these days that everything is so high...people are really wanting things to improve their living. Spending it in the right way is a must...and as much as possible, if we are aiming something, then we must save a lot. But we must also think about money for emergency uses...and never to touch it.
It do depends on the person and in my case, I would also prefer that than a celebration and food preparation. ^^
Have a wonderful day!
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@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
17 Jan 12
HI sis!
That is totally wonderful and great idea!! Much more better than throw a party. I am sure she does think that a party is not necessary for her anymore. If you could afford to do both then why not??? Giving money as her gift yet still have a small party for her. It will certainly help her a lot!!(^^)
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So no money for mom then??
The one discussion you made about the carbonara, you made that for your mom's birthday??You had the party already??(^^)
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I think i can't do both 
.A dinner with the whole family and other close relatives will be nice ,i think,with her favorite carbonara on the table.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
15 Jan 12
If that what she wants then give her some money for her birthday. I don't by my parents birthday gifts well at there Gw they pretty much have what ever they want. So a no nice dinner out or a day with the grandkids and they are happy.
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@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
15 Jan 12
A car always seems to make my mom happy.
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@thewonderboy (7501)
• India
16 Jan 12
I think you can do the thing with your grand mothers wish 
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"Mom"
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Is that a nice plan??@thewonderboy (7501)
• India
17 Jan 12
Then how is she ?
Good ?
What is you plan ?1 person likes this
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
15 Jan 12
Hi Tamirs,
If you are happy with doing that and if it is what she wants then I don't see anything wrong with it at all. After all, the whole point in celebrating her birthday is to make her happy on her special day. I am one that can do without the party and big celebration also. It's her birthday so I say, cater to her.
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@Sebastion1234 (293)
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15 Jan 12
Yeah just bless them..what can you do not good to fight with old peole
@MaryLynn321 (2680)
• United States
15 Jan 12
I think that helping your Mom fill her grocery store would be great. This is what she would prefer for her birthday and in the long run it will help her out. You can make a batch of Carbonara for her birthday and she will be quite happy with that.
There is nothing wrong with a gift of money.
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@MaryLynn321 (2680)
• United States
16 Jan 12
Sounds good. I think your Mom is really looking forward to having some more Carbonara
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
18 Jan 12
Happy early birthday to your mother, my mother shares the same birthday with your mother.
With that said, I think that your mother asking for the money instead of what you would ordinarily do for her is actually a bit rude. The reason that I say that this is the case is because of the fact that birthdays, at least in our family, is about spending time together and not having the typical celebration would really take away from our family time.
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@tamirs (1807)
• Philippines
18 Jan 12
Hi dear,Happy birthday to your mom too
I can see your point with these and i appreciate your opinion so much.You are right the get together is another time for family.But i guess she is so bored with our looks 
,just kidding.We live in a same house and my brother is always here in our house 18/7 along with his family.So i think we will not miss anything.And might i add,we will still have dinner together with the whole family to celebrate her birthday,just that,not the way we used to do.
I can see your point with these and i appreciate your opinion so much.You are right the get together is another time for family.But i guess she is so bored with our looks ,just kidding.We live in a same house and my brother is always here in our house 18/7 along with his family.So i think we will not miss anything.And might i add,we will still have dinner together with the whole family to celebrate her birthday,just that,not the way we used to do.
@triplejazzm51 (1373)
• Philippines
15 Jan 12
Well, i think that is a wise decision, a simple get together will do if that is your mother's wish but the minigrocery would be a better gift. She can have something to be busy with and she can make it sustainable. Who knows next year her minigrocery is not just a mini but a bigger grocery already.
@triplejazzm51 (1373)
• Philippines
16 Jan 12
Yes! who knows then you well be blessed too all the more.
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@Lhenni (1242)
• Philippines
16 Jan 12
How sweet of you to your mother Tams! A spoiled mother huh *LOL!
My mother's just like yours, instead of having a pot-luck get-together celebration in her home with all her children she always insisted a lump sum *LOL... but we siblings still opted to have some because it'll be our time to just be there all in her house and still... she get lump sum she's insisting hahahaha.. she even make her price... what a spoiled mother huh! Glad it's just within our limit *LOL
That's what we can give to our mother saying thank you for all the good years she's been taking care with us!
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@Lhenni (1242)
• Philippines
16 Jan 12
I'm settled away with my parents but I remember when hubby and I just starting our family, I leave my months old daughter to them in Makati then, hubby and me do our work in Cavite. I just get my daughter in my day-offs but sometimes I opted to go there straight from work late at night and tomorrow, from there early in the morning, I will go to work again. Kuratcha (no rest *LOL)!... Hubby was in regular shift while I'm in 12 hour workshift. Until we decided to have a yaya for my daughter when she's almost 2 years old. Know how to say she been pinched hahaha. My mother will do a surprised visit in my place while we're at work to see how my daughter was taken cared of though were away. Until that I have 3 children, I decided to be a stay-home mom now.
It's at peace to know your child was taken cared of a loving relatives, right?! I even asked my parents to live with us here but they resist *sigh! Anyway, they visit me here often.
You're lucky Tam to be near with your parents! God bless!
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@tamirs (1807)
• Philippines
16 Jan 12
Truly lhen,how spoiled our parents are,but of course they spoiled us rotten first
.Just giving them what is due for them,they have loved us all their lives and took really good care of us.And honestly until now,not only they take care of me,but my whole family as well,most specially my daughter
.Just giving them what is due for them,they have loved us all their lives and took really good care of us.And honestly until now,not only they take care of me,but my whole family as well,most specially my daughter
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
16 Jan 12
It's your mom's birthday, so whatever is it that can make her happy , is what you should give to her. At least, she is vocal in what she wants, not whining when everything for the birthday celebration is ready.
Yes, the carbonara would just be great partnered with a cake and drinks, for the gathering of the family during the birthday. Meanwhile, those groceries for her store, can indeed make her so happy.
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@smurfysmurf (651)
• Philippines
16 Jan 12
Hi Tamirs,
You should definitely grant your mother's request. It's her day anyway...and whatever she likes should definitely be granted. A big celebration isn't really the most choice of people nowadays...most people are being practical and instead of having that grand food preparation..they will use it in other ways.
I remember a senior colleague of mine told me that her child don't want to have a debut on her 18th birthday, she would rather use the money to go to Paris which is her dream place. She was just 10 so her mom is preparing for it and also she is also saving...^^
Have a nice day.
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@smurfysmurf (651)
• Philippines
17 Jan 12
And that would be a long way to go...and a big preparation of course. But it still depend on kids, others really like a big celebration if it's their birthday. It's good to have a celebration...but I think it's more best to travel most especially in Paris...^^
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
17 Jan 12
Yes dear, that is a very, very good idea the best gift you could ever give to your Mom. Instead of spending all the money in food/party in one day it is better to spend it in building a small grocery for her. She will not only earn from that grocery but she will also have something to be busy about. It will keep her alert and energetic actually.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
16 Jan 12
hello tamirs,
That's great my dear
The best gift ever you can give to her.
And yes, some olds do not like throwing a party anymore.
A simple family get together is enough and I agree with that...
The best gift ever you can give to her.
And yes, some olds do not like throwing a party anymore.
A simple family get together is enough and I agree with that...
@queen_ra45 (84)
• United States
16 Jan 12
I think it's a wonderful idea. If you were going to spend the money on one night for dinner anyway you might as well give her something she really needs that will benefit her longer term. You are an awesome daughter to give a gift that she will surely appreciate much more.
@sabado_dc (1001)
• Philippines
16 Jan 12
I salute you and your husband for having a good deeds with your parents. God will surely bestow all the blessings that you both couples deserved.
To keep her fund revolving won't be a big deal for you as I can feel it from what you have written. I feel happy that your mom apprised you with her intention. What she had asked from you was a firsthand evidence that mothers knows best. She doesn't want a grand birthday celebration in exchange with the welfare that lies in her grocery which may not sustain without the prime items. Even how small or big amount of supplies you'll be giving to her store, I know that it will mean so much to her. Your mom is a special lady and she really desrves more than a celebration. If you can do a carbonara, aside from the above, that would be an added gift and would bring a lot of fun in the family.
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@tamirs (1807)
• Philippines
17 Jan 12
Very special lady she is..Can't imagine a life without her and my whole family.She loves my husband so much,that everybody will think i am the daughter in law .She got mad at me when i threw hubby outside our room when i was pregnant...
Surely i will cook carbonara on her birthday as well.That is her favorite
.She got mad at me when i threw hubby outside our room when i was pregnant...
Surely i will cook carbonara on her birthday as well.That is her favorite