How to know if he/she is right person?

Philippines
January 15, 2012 9:51am CST
I have dated some guys , and i had some boyfriends before. And at this moment I did starting to go on some date again. but I think in my age now, it would be perfect or a right time to settle down. But the problem is,,how will I know if he is the right one person for me? What are some characteristics of a guy that he wants a family or want to settle down as well?
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13 responses
• India
15 Jan 12
I think it is not possible to decide at a first time , fir this you have to take some time , you have to spend some time with that person and then you will be able to accept or reject that person .
• Philippines
16 Jan 12
ohh thanks for the wonderful adive kadamadash..
• Philippines
16 Jan 12
advice i mean
@angelako (280)
• Italy
16 Jan 12
Hi jack,As my experienced as an expert hehehe,no i'm not, just joking you.Well as my experience you will know if a guy are ready to settle down when he will start to let you know that he wants to start a family,he wants to have a baby,told you about his plan for having a family,something like that,but the most obvious way to know is when he will ask you to marry him.For me as already been trough on this stage the most important thing to remember if a man is ready to settle down is whn he is already capable of bringing up a family.He must have a stable job,its not only ready physically ,emotional but the most important thing is he is ready financially.One of the reason on failure of marriage life is financial proble.And when you are into a family life already its not just about love but the responsiblity on your shoulder to carry on.Hope this help jackie, ate marivic u here
• Philippines
17 Jan 12
hi te..thanks for the response. Yes indeed i agree with you, it's not really about love but of course the capabilities of raising own family. I had observed that he is financially stable now, but every time i do open the topic about kids, he really will change the subject.but anyways, we've been dating just recently, only time will tell then...eehehee
@lovedude (4447)
• India
16 Jan 12
it's not easy to guess any person just in one meeting or by spending few hours.. first of all relation should be by heart not by crush.. so you have to check it first that if he is loving you truly from bottom of your heart or it's just outer attraction by him.. and also check how much care does he do for you when you really need him.. create some fake situations when he has to choose your care v/s other important things.. check what he choose.. you can get 50% idea from that. and also from his behavior towards you and other, some talks, some share makes you more clear if he/she is right person or not..
• Philippines
17 Jan 12
hmmmm thanks,,this makes me think of some ideas then...hehehe making some fake situations, and observe which is which is he really will choose?.nice one , i will start thinking of some situations then now.
• United States
15 Jan 12
first do not be in rush to settle down. people need to explore things together and see if the interested are the same . likes that you like. see things as you see. not a fake person. If you enjoy things together then you will be happy and enjoy being around each other. you want to make sure of a person before jumping into relationships. being happy with self and each other. you will know for it will make you both feel and want to see each other. when the time is right you both will know and think of things together . discuss things and agree without arguement. the time will come . if in doubt ask God for guideness for What He puts together last..what man does does not.. then you are really sure...
• Philippines
17 Jan 12
Oh thanks much for the wonderful response. I agree with your opinion indeed, i will try to be more keen observer now. And yes indeed..Only God know best.
16 Jan 12
It is a right question.it is not perfectly possible but can find from his/her talks. i saw this from someone.from theirs word. sometimes they will make a mistakes in their conversation. but it will not be a typing mistake or anything it generates from their own mind. conversation takes carefully then we an find it. anybody cant 100% lie or perfectly acts like another one.
@karin27 (141)
• South Africa
15 Jan 12
Is this a he or she? sorry just going according the title?
• Philippines
16 Jan 12
Hi Karin27...sorry it's he..for I'm she..eheeheh..I was not able to realized my question..sorry..:)
@sharone74 (4837)
• United States
16 Jan 12
Some charachteristics of a guy who wants a family and wants to settle down?Simple he tells you he wants a family and that he wants to settle down. It would also be nice if he declared that it is you that he wants to do those things with. He has to love and respect you, and you must be able to do the same of it is not likely to last. A good sign is when he proposes marriage, in a serious meaningful way. Until both his feelings and his intentions are out on the table everything is conjecture. Is he? Could he be? Does he want what I want etcetera.
@anne25penn (3305)
• Philippines
16 Jan 12
I used to believe that there is no such thing as the wrong or right person when it comes to relationships. But now that I am settled down, I can probably say that that person that you are with is the right one when the goals that you have in life are the same and pointing in the same direction. Like with my hubby, we both have this goal to be financially free so that we don't have to work anymore. We also agree on setting money aside for our retirement. It's not just how thrilled you are when you see each other, or how many times you say "I love you". It's when you are able to truly able to say to yourself that that person is one that you want to spend your whole lifetime with.
@jordq7 (576)
• Philippines
16 Jan 12
Hi there nfrenciz!!! I can say that there is no certain clue to know weather that person is the right one.But for me a person will be the right partner for you if he doesn't leave you during hard times and doesn't bend to life's challenges instead he seek inspirations from his partner and stand strong into every obstacle he faces.That person must be dependable and mature enough to handle your attitude and will be willing to accept you for who and what you are.Well that's the right man for me.
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
16 Jan 12
You will never know from a guy if he already wants to settle down already, unless you have come to that level where you both share what are your plans in life. As to determining whether he is the right guy for you already, you will know it when you can't stand being away from him a day or two and you in sync with what you both like and dislikes. Or you can love him despite some shortcoming. In addition, you prefer being with him most of the time , than your friends.
@jricky1 (6800)
• China
16 Jan 12
Well,this would be interesting and you would probably know that whether the guy is your Mr.Right at the moment.He loves you and really treats you as his family.You could observe it from every little moments.Anyway,god bless and wish you good luck finding the perfect guy for you.Have a nice day.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
15 Jan 12
You will know if you are willing to take the chance and you feel it! There is no right time for that or age. You have to decide to go for it and make it work. I decided to get married lately. I never wanted more children since I already have 5. Now it (suddenly) seems my husband wants children. I don't think he will die if he would never have his own but like he said: they are welcome (whatever that means. But if it will mean I have to take care of them since we are not able to live together in the same country, so somehow easy to say for him.) I don't know if it will come that far since it will mean I have to give up and in an lot and do it all alone (again). I don't think all men want children but do think if there is love it's a natural way most of the time there will be some (if possible). To settle down is a hard one. In your mind it's always different as it is in reality. You just have to go for it and see how it works.
@jeslin (147)
15 Jan 12
Well, you should know whether or not your heart beats really fast around him, and there is just that feeling there that you can't avoid. And about a family and stuff, be sensitive and ask the right questions in an indirect way to get a answer. See how he reacts around children and kids too. Then make your decision. Also, be clear whether is he the kind of guy who likes to flirt around, or a stable decisive man. =) good luck in finding the right one! =)