My Neighbor's wife.. Is it really happen? I guess so..
@Mikaela_taz25 (1842)
Philippines
January 16, 2012 6:48am CST
Having a relationship with your bestfriend's wife/husband is a really bad idea and really a big mistake.
I watched the movie my neighbor's wife last December and as i watching that movie i was thinking that is it really possible you can have a relationship with the wife of your best friends who treat you not just a friend but also a brother, that you both knew since childhood and though its possible for others but never thought that it will ever happen to the someone i knew. Wondering it is really love for the both of them that is why they having a relationship or its just a vengeance because she found out that her husband was cheating on her.
And that guy was the only person who she can talk to during the time that they marital are having a problem. A shoulder to cry on when she needed it, but how it turn out the way it should not be, that is we really don't know, and its a clue less.
Now, that is out and a big news in a town, really sad that it turn out really bad. Worried about their children and the family involves in it. And the friendship that they build for a longest time.
Do you guys having thought with this kind of relationship?
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13 responses
@tatzkie23 (770)
• Philippines
16 Jan 12
Things like that really happen in reality. I don't know who's fault is that, but i think they're both wrong. Really wrong, Actually the husband is also wrong. But, it's their choice. As for me, i never thought about that, especially i love my husband dearly, so even though we fight, i could never do that to him. But i also can't blame the wife, if She found out that her husband is also cheating.
@Mikaela_taz25 (1842)
• Philippines
18 Jan 12
Thanks tatzkie, yes that's their choice and its really bad choice and wrong decision to make, and Sid is right even though the husband cheat her, she should not also take a revenge and took that situation into something more bad situation, but then again, we really don't know their feelings if its really love or just an emotion that burst with the wife because of her husband cheats her.
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@tatzkie23 (770)
• Philippines
19 Jan 12
Yes, you are both right. I agree with you. I don't know about them. But, I think some people have mind like that. Some people, when hurt tend to have revenge. I know it's wrong, but i think, this is their only way to cope up. I'm not sure, but that's what i think.
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@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
17 Jan 12
There is a possibility my friend if the people in such stage did not have the discipline of controlling their desire. But if they consider something about that matter they will avoid it to happen and stay on their stature in life and being committed to their own relationship...
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@Mikaela_taz25 (1842)
• Philippines
19 Jan 12
yes, if we let that desire manipulate us, everything will happen. And your right, We must really avoid and don't let it happen to come in our minds.
Thanks happy mylotting..
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@Princelierocks (817)
• India
17 Jan 12
Well iam unmarried and have not come across such things before, but i would like to contribute my thoughts towards the topic. We all have heard about extra martial affairs and all of us are very well aware of the consequences of this deadly sin. If i assume myself in this place i would never think about such relationship. We know that cheating might end up losing our near and dear ones too. But from the flipside if my wife cheats what should i do? In such case i would just get a divorce and find someone who is really loyal and loves me a lot. That brings to the point towards the part of the movie which you have seen. I partly agree with this kind of relationship and partly not.
@Mikaela_taz25 (1842)
• Philippines
19 Jan 12
Hi princelierocks, thanks for your thoughts, actually, when i saw that movie never thought will happen to someone i know, a family friend of mine, but i guess when in reality and with different people, its exist at all. And yes if someone do this there are a lot of consequences to face, in this kind of situation there is a lot to lose for, for a husband, he lost his wife and best friend, and for a wife she lost her family, and for a friend he lost his brother, but i guess with this kind of relationship that we know, we really should learn for their mistake. or yet take an action to not happen with us. For others being faithful is really hard to do, but if we really settle for someone we love, we should set and let our heart and mind to the only one we choose.
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@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
16 Jan 12
Hello Mikaela_taz We are only human beings and such cases really happens. I think i have shared my own experience regarding this story, seemed every one forgot about that lolz
.It's human nature that we tend to loose our faithfulness to some one and then ends up with the other. I think this is as real as it gets if it's compare to the real world. we can't be the judge knowing that it can happen to us too
.It's human nature that we tend to loose our faithfulness to some one and then ends up with the other. I think this is as real as it gets if it's compare to the real world. we can't be the judge knowing that it can happen to us too1 person likes this
@Mikaela_taz25 (1842)
• Philippines
18 Jan 12
Hi LK, I know i don't have the right to judge them and iam not judging them, we really worried and its just really can't believe that really happen to the family that i know, to think that the wife choose her husband friend over her husband and let the marriage be broken. Though i know that the husband was the first to be blame for the unfaithfulness he did to her wife, but knowing the wife took another wrong doing, maybe the marriage really fall and tend to be broken.
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@alberello (4752)
• Italy
17 Jan 12
In Italian we say "keep the horns" in the sense of being betrayed. Although I have never been involved in any love relationship, but I think this severely hurts the feelings of a loved one.
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@Mikaela_taz25 (1842)
• Philippines
18 Jan 12
Yes it really is, i think its really painful for the both of side, including their children.
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@arjunm (439)
• India
17 Jan 12
In modern days all things may be possible. movie is the part of human life.so, if this matter can be held in the movie that its not wondering about our practical life to held that. just take it easy. regulate yourself and be frank with friends wife.
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@Mikaela_taz25 (1842)
• Philippines
18 Jan 12
Yes, these are really happen in real life. She doesn't hear any advice that we give, maybe because she is blind over the new love she found or tired of what her husband being unfaithful.
Thanks for the response..
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@Mikaela_taz25 (1842)
• Philippines
17 Jan 12
Maybe that is what happen to them, she doesn't feel that she is not being take care by her husband, and she needs someone who can show her the love and the caring that she needs and someone to talk to and the guy is always there for her to comfort.
But the bad thing is their carried away and fall in their situation, and that is gives them in a bad situation.
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
16 Jan 12
Ya, it's not really that unusual for something like that to happen. I see it quite a bit. I just refuse to get involved. I recently had a guy friend confide in me that he was having an affair with a friend of mine. Both are married. Honestly...I really wished he hadn't told me. I guess he needed to talk so I listened but it's really not any of my business. I have enough going on in my own life that I just can't spend time or energy worrying more about their kids and marriages more than they do. The way I see it is that for every minute I spend worrying someone elses situations, that is a minute that is taken from my time with my own family. It had best be worth it. Analyzing someone who cheats and their marriage and what it'll do to the kids...that would be their problem and not mine. It's not that I don't care. If they ask me for advice, I'll tell them what I really think but otherwise...not my business.
@Mikaela_taz25 (1842)
• Philippines
18 Jan 12
Hi Sid, though at first i really don't wanna get involve and know the details in that situation, but still we were worry about their marriage life and their kids their are really close with my family, we see them how their family grow and how love begins with both of them, and also to the man involve with the wife, but still we don't have the right to blame or judge them for what their decision be made. And its true and your right until they did not ask for our advice we really don't do anything about it. What you doing is correct you put the wall and mind your own business. I guess we should also..
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@telmesh (1793)
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17 Jan 12
This type of relationship should not be given a second thought the other man's grass always looks greener, it rarely is, in fact it just looks greener. The reason for this is that you don't see the problems because your not close enough, when you do get close enough there are more problems than if you had kept away in the first place.
@Mikaela_taz25 (1842)
• Philippines
19 Jan 12
Hi, Yes this should never put in our thoughts so we can never get in that kind of situation, avoidance is really a must to do.
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@bubuth (1815)
• Philippines
16 Jan 12
i think it really happened in real life because every time that i watch news about couple that having argument. Their often controversial is about the 3rd party and sometimes i heard that the 3rd party is the daughter of the mother in her first husband. It was so unbelievable story but it really happened in real life that's why i think having relationship with your bestfriend's wife/husband is also possible.
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@Mikaela_taz25 (1842)
• Philippines
18 Jan 12
yes there is possibility, i just can think that really happen with someone i knew, i saw them how became really close, their like brothers, and their also like my older brothers. Thats is why i really feel sad the outcome in their friendship.
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@Mikaela_taz25 (1842)
• Philippines
17 Jan 12
Yes, that's what i thought also that we never should put that thought in our heads. But maybe for some not and not for the one i knew. Maybe its for a lust or a companionship to both of them. The husband and a guy are being friends since childhood, so never thought it will happen to them. We just hope that it will all clear and compromise for the two friends, and for the wife and her lover they should end that kind of relationship.
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@angelako (280)
• Italy
16 Jan 12
Its really possible to have relationship with them if you allow it.When you have a friend or neighbor or husband of your friend,you can be a friend also with him but you must not go beyond the limit.Sticking up too close with him will lead sometimes in a bad situation.You might fall for each other or might attemt to do something out of temptation.so you have to avoid them,its not good to see such situation.
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@Mikaela_taz25 (1842)
• Philippines
17 Jan 12
Your right, But we must not allow to happen especially when some one already own her/him, and for this kind of relationship will eventually end up in a bad situation, your conscience will bother you because you know that you did was not a right thing to do. And also your not just ruin your marital relationship but also the friendship you build up for a long time.
Thanks for the response..
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@Mikaela_taz25 (1842)
• Philippines
17 Jan 12
Hi craydz, thanks for the response.
If you let that kind of relationship happen, that is the trouble you will encounter, so better not to attempt in that kind of situation..
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