when we become the old

I don't know why this has become the practice in most countries. But here in my country, the Philippines, I am proud to say that we care for our aging parents in the comforts of our own homes until the day they die. Elderly homes are unheard of, and I cannot say that it is non-existent, those that do operate are for those who are abandoned. I hope and pray that this culture of ours doesn't change. In spite of technology and the changing world, I can see little of our youth who are not close to their grandparents and to them it is normal to have them stay in their homes. Maybe in western countries the reason why elderly homes are so prevalent is because the young people no longer have the time or the patience to care for aging parents.

I have 4 children all grown up and doing fine but I always tell them when I Am old I would like to go to a nursing home! they don't agree with me...but I do prefer it that way! you see I Am very independent and I won't put up with any son in law no way!...I know is good whether possible to look after our parents at home but some times people need special care that can't be provided at home...so really in a way it would be cruel to deprive the elderly of the care they need!

Usually that happens to most developed countries. The people are so busy with their careers and jobs , that they don't have time to take care of their old parents. In addition, having a nanny care for them is so expensive. I am happy that here in the Philippines, most of us take care of our parents. Some of us would let them live with our family or our family would live in their house. That way, we could always watch over them.

i hope i can stay with my parents forever .but as a matter of fact ,that won't come true.because i work in another city rather than my hometown ,and ,before long ,i will marry with my fiance at the city . therefore i couldn't stay with my parents all the time .my mother hope me back home and choose another guy to marry so that she can always see me or in turn .but i think i can't lose my fiance,so my parents have to agree with me .i know this would hurt them,but i had no choice .i must work hard to buy a big house in order to live with them forever .no matter how busy i am ,i will look after my parents myself when they become old

I don't know why do people do that too. Sometimes they are just too busy and think that by putting their parents in those kind of places, it would be better as they can take care of their parents, but they just don't realize what are they doing. I personally would never do that to my mum as i have seen how my parents took care of my grandmother when she was old and stuff. What old people need is love and care from their own children. Spend a lil time with them every day is not a problem at all. For those ppl who rather spend their time on useless stuff instead of their parents, i hope they get what they deserve when they grow older.

It's a case to case basis. Some folks prefer their parents to be in a nursing homes because of a busy schedule rather than in a home were no one is around. And some prefer to be at home because they cant afford even if they want too. As for me I'll do whats necessary and whats best for my parents. I'll just make it up to theme by visiting them or taking care of them by myself.

I can't imagine that, even I'm not married yet. Yeah, we getting older every minute and time never back again. About your question, I really care about my parent, maybe it because I'm single and I live with my mom. Yeah, many son or daughter never care about their parent if the parent getting old and useless. But, I'm scare to karma if it happen to me.

i cannot imagine sending my mom to home for the aged or something like that, its going to break me. maybe its difficult to take care of our parents once they grow old but its something i tell myself to be prepared for. just imagining the sacrifices my mom had to do for us, i in return wanted to take care of her when that time comes.

Hi thajudheen... Yes, it happens to old people with a rich children and their children are always busy. But when their children have free time they prefer to have travels or vacation than taking care their parents, it is not fair . This is so sad, I remember with this words : parents affection is last but children affection is only in a short time. I think it is true. It is not a good things to do, we have to take care of our parents.

You become the old only when you think that you are old, inability etc. so don't think that you are old. You can do anything.

i belive somehow that the children that send their old parents away are the result of their parents.the way you grow and educate your child will affect your long time relation.i know old people that are accusing their children now that they treat them bad ,but they did the same with their parents when they were young.a kid that sees how his parents treat badly their grandparents will do the same when they grow up. another mistake is to give your kid to much without asking nothing in change,like best grades in school,some work to do.the ones that grow like thid begin to see their parents only like a person that provides money,and in the end when they don't have what to give anymore,cause they are old,the last solution is to send them away and take all they have.this horrible persons that send away the old parents are in the end the result of education that has been given to them.