How can you get over from your past relationship?

first thing you are very guy.because it is very difficult to have girlfriend like yours.in my views she loves you a lot.and she is very passionate about your love that is why she is waiting for you.she thinks that in your breakup there was her fault.she thinks that just because of her's own fault you are now with other girl.in my opinion you should go to the girl and properly explain him about your current status.that now it is not possible that you again with her.and you are very happy with your current relationship.if you will tells him gently ,she will sure understand that now it is over. and just because of this she should find another guy.

5 years is a long time for a relationship to flourish into a level that you would want to marry each other. Besides, you told her before that she would be the woman you want to marry. So, that's why she's still pining that if ever your current relationship will end again, you can still go back to her and finally marry her. And i can understand your current girlfriend from feeling so jealous, because she knows that there is a possibility that your feelings for her will come back. It will be best that you talk to her with finality to leave you on your own relationship now. Tell her even if it will hurt her, that you won't be coming back to her anymore. That will not give her any more false hope on you.

Well its not easy to mend a broken heart. what you can do is to understand your partner. Remember she may not like it too to be in that situation. But you have to be firm that she's already out of your life. Though you will not be rude you have to show her your point in that situation you are in, that way she won't hope for something in the future. Only time can heal a broken heart, don't worry sooner or later she will get rid of you in her thoughts and will only laugh at her craziness.

Going by Indian traditions once you get married you must forget all about your ex-girl friend and not entertain any relationship with her. Your wife/girl friend is right in having jealousy and making it tougher for you. Say No No to your EX and say YES YES to your present girl friend. No dilemmma.

Well she still loves you and wants you back in her life, but since you are married now and also happy with your family I think you must keep your loyalty towards your wife and family now. Ensure your wife that you will not leave her and your daughter. If possible try to make your ex-girlfriend understand that you cannot come back to her, but if she is not ready to understand that it is better to keep distance from her.

So dear Sethalex we have a problem here...no 2 problems: 1st your ex does not want to understand that it is over. Big problem! 2nd your wife or actual girlfriend is jealous and this is a BIIIIIG problem! Now i am not going to tell you to end the story with your ex definitively because I still have contacts with my ex in a clean realtionship without cheating on my wife I keep good solid friendship with them. You have to make her understand that the love thing is without hope because you are not in love with her like she is with you. You care for her but not as a lover, and for a while you have to leave her alone. She has to be alone to realize in her head that situation is really impossible for her this takes time. Tell your actual girlfriend not to be jealous because it will ruin the relationship the good one! take care.

I think she realize that her past relationship to others is not good as it is when are both in relationship? She felt that you are much worth than any body else that she committed in the past... I think you don't need to get her back because she is not worth enough to love. Just stick in your current relationship not your ex...

Wow she really still cares a lot about you. The reason for this is obvious that she has strong feelings for you. You were in a relationship together for a long time. And to be with someone for that long of a time, it would take a while to move on. Maybe it would be a good thing to talk with her about how you have moved on with your life and that it's important for her to do the same. That she will find someone else if she opens herself up to another relationship.

I don't think there is any difference between male or female. My ex husband stalked me for 14 years, my ex bf is doing exactly the same since over 6 years now. It's a never ending story only now I refuse to move out each year and start over again, and again, and again. I think it depends on the character of the person, the perspectives or whatever. I don't know how to get over it. The only way is to accept that it's over and to decide to go on with your life.

She still might have the hopes and is still thinking about you marrying him. But if you love your current girlfriend now - I think it just fair to put a closure on your past relationship with your ex-girlfriend. For girls, I think it is really hard to move on especially in both your case that you have been in a relationship for 5 years.

Hi srthalex, I do understand nothing is guranteed to last forever. But most of the time when you are in a realationship with another and you even discuss marriage and especiallu after 5 years, its not a relationship you should be abe to just kick to the curb unless the last 5 years was a lie.. It seems as tho you have moved on...but have you honestly moved on deep down in your heart. Having a child dosen't seal the deal as far as your heart..or even a real relationship with another woman... After all you were really quick as to moving on to another woman afer being with your ex for 5 years..... Speak with your ex and be very honest with her about your feelings yea or nay...Its not nice to keep your ex or the mother of your new'baby in limbo....

Yes it's true that it is common to ladies than to gents. I feel sorry about your ex. You can't blame her if she still loves you, it will really takes a lot of time before her love for you will fade away. You said that you had 5 years with her. And you said that, it's your fault. Now, i think your ex got nothing to do. It's not worth it if she's going to fight for you, if you don't love her anymore. About your current girlfriend, well i also can't blame her if she gets jealous. I hope that you'll not do anything crazy again if your girlfriend is being strict to you. I hope that you'll not always fight about your ex. Because if that happens, there will be another disaster.

In our Indian culture once you get married you have leave all your past relationship and stay with her.The present girl friend might be jealous of losing you for ever.

You can get over from you past relationship when you know on yourself that you can find better than him.And the best thing to do if find new one.Convert your attention to someone else because when you dont you just give hope that one day your x will be back on you.give and end to everything about him.and much better to keep everything away which make you remember about that person.

I don't know how your break up have happened. I don't think it happened because the gal started hating you or she stopped loving you. This can be told as she still loves you. The main reason why she is still not getting over you is because of the length of your relation i.e., five years and I can strongly believe that you definitely had a good time together during those days. You had been telling to her that you would be marrying her and this might have had a huge impact on her and she might be treating you as her husband during your relationship and this made it more difficult for her to get over your break up. The best thing to do now is have a detailed talk with your current gal friend, explain her your feelings about your ex and also take advise from her on how to tackle this situation because that makes your current gal friend trust you more and your current relation doesn't end up in troubles because of your ex. Most importantly don't do anything without telling your current gal friend because if she comes to know that you have done something later, it would lead to problems and also convince your gal friend that you have no interest in going back to your ex and also make this clear to your ex as well. Whatever you do, be honest with your current gal friend.

if u find somebody new and better than the previous erson..u will tend to forget or get over the past relationship... ;)

The reason why your ex-girlfriend is hoping for you to comeback is because she likes you so much. If I were in her shoes, I'll feel the same way too. Almost 5 years in a relationship is not a joke. Your relationship had ended but there are still a lots of good memories. If you really wanted her to get over from you, try to talk to her sincerely. Tell her the reasons why you can't be with her anymore.

It seem that your ex-girlfriend is still inlove with you. But she must understand and accept all the things that already happened and move on..I know its not easy to move on,It really takes time to forget someone that we used to love especially if we love someone so deeply for many years. I'm sure that your ex-girlfriend is really suffering now for heartaches and sadness but I'm sure time will help her to realize that everything are change now. And it will never be the same again.

your fortunate enough to have an ex girl friend like her in a reason that somebody really needs and loves you seriously but that's not a valid reason for that girl not to go on with her life without you in her side.. there's such thing as moving on ang letting go. if possible stop all the communications that u have right now, let the time heals.. maybe when the time come when both of enjoying life away from each other GOD will set your ways to cross. be bless!