treated different on my community
By areskya
@areskya (398)
Indonesia
January 18, 2012 6:42am CST
I have several friends on my community. I am a newcomer there with two of my friends too. All of us are so kind and tend to help each other if there is someone who need some help. But there is something weird now. They are rather different now. If there is a new information about our community, they don't want to share it with us (the newcomers), if there is some equipment to be have by all of the members and they have bought it for themselves, they only ask us the newcomers to look for it by ourselves.
I feel so uneasy to face it. I don't know what to do.
Help me. What will you do to face it?
Thanks for sharing.
2 responses
@Lannielui (83)
• United States
19 Jan 12
Sounds like a tough and awkward situation. Having traveled to Indonesia to visit my boyfriend, I got a sense of the culture there. It seemed to me that people shared more and were more open to one another. Being excluded must feel very confusing. I'm not from your culture, but I think good communication with wisdom might help the situation. Perhaps you can express your concerns to one of the 'older' ones to get to the root issue of the problem. Also, it is possible that perhaps with time this situation will resolve itself.
@areskya (398)
• Indonesia
21 Jan 12
Yeah, you are right Lannielui. Indonesian people tend to be so close to each other, share almost anything together fair, and so friendly. I think you have get what is my feeling now, it is not easy to be treated like this,,,but as you said I'm trying to face it wisely. I'm trying to know what is their real reason to do so cos I don't want to have misunderstanding that could make my community broken
@Lannielui (83)
• United States
21 Jan 12
Well in my experience when people act oddly it is because they have either been offended somehow, or have listened to rumors and gossip. It is good that you are using wisdom as it is a delicate and difficult situation. Perhaps when you are closer to other members they will feel more free to talk about what the problem is, or change their behavior. Have you talked to anyone yet?
@areskya (398)
• Indonesia
22 Jan 12
Thanks. You're right, it is not easy to face. I have some close friends but I haven't talked to them about it, I just wait for the right time to talk it while keep listening what is going on there.
There is always a reason for everything happen, so I have to be more patient in facing it
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
26 Jan 12
Things like that, it often happens. You have to communicate well. So, you get the information you need. You also need to convey to them, what you feel. If such things continue to happen, it will cause discomfort, and eventually there will be quarrels and hatred. In a community, there must be unity.
