what will you do if your grandfather wanted to have a wife again?

@asliah (11137)
Philippines
January 18, 2012 10:32am CST
greeting to all,when my grandmother died,my grandfather wanted to have wife again because he wanted to have a partner in life and my aunties and uncles son and daughter of my grandfather against of it,but still my grandfather insisted,and now my aunties and uncles never send him financial support because of his new wife,what if your grandfather will marry other old woman,what could be your reaction and what will you do?will you still support your father or you will just ignore him?why?
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@donharis (305)
• Pakistan
18 Jan 12
Well Its a Good thinking, as ur faimly dont want to support thier Father, they are just making a big issue of thier father remarriage.. Its his choice, and he is on the right side, i mean he is old he need a life partner in this old age.. Well if my GrandFather sked for some thing like that i am sure that my would have also been reacted in the same way.. its Natural... Just like when we want to marry our BF/GF our Parents dont agree in the same way it mostly happens Viceversa
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• Jamaica
19 Jan 12
Well said Stowyk! It is just silly and wrong to want to control other people's decision that affects them. Wrong or right, your grandfather has the right to choose whatever makes him happy. As it relates to your other family members, they should really assess themselves. If they truly love him, they will honor the passing of the his wife in their own way and also honor his choice to move on with his life by choosing a mate. Life is for the living and grandma is no longer around to help grandpa keep whatever is left of his sanity due to her passing. We are social beings that cling to love as the most powerful of all social interactions. They are wicked and thoughtless to withhold support from your grandpa.
@dharanil (319)
• India
18 Jan 12
Asliah, If our family have the same issue we don't allow (though my grandfather will not ask). I saw your profile you are now 24th year, so your grandfather may be in seventies or eighties.
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@dharanil (319)
• India
18 Jan 12
Sorry not "our family but MY family"
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@ShepherdSpy (8544)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
18 Jan 12
You don't say how old Your Grandfather is,but if He'd like to remarry,that would be completely his business..He's apparently young enough to still want female company in his life.. At this time,our Government is preparing to raise the age of retirement as people are living longer..
@Galena (9110)
18 Jan 12
I don't see whay I should have any say in the matter whatsoever. why should any one be able to tell anyone else who they can marry (except where incest or paedophilia are involved) it's no one elses business, and why should he remain alone for the rest of his life?
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@yahnee (1243)
• Philippines
19 Jan 12
Your grandfather is looking for a companion in his late years. Why should the relatives deny him the happiness that he needs? They cannot provide the happiness and satisfaction that he will derive from a relationship. It is sad being alone. Sometimes family is not enough and they should understand that. If I were in your shoes, I would be supportive of your grandfather and will still continue with whatever financial support that should be his in his old age. Age does not matter in a relationship and not only the young have an exclusive right to look for their own partners.
18 Jan 12
there is nothing you can do you just have to accept his request and respect it.because we need to obey our old people.
@allamgirl (2140)
• Philippines
24 Jan 12
If my grandpa would marry again, it would be okay with me. It could be lonely being alone and I wouldn't want that for him. However, I would make sure that the woman would be a good woman and not someone who would just want him for money or whatever. If she is a woman whom I know would love my grandpa then I would be okay with it.
@Muelitz (1592)
• Canada
18 Jan 12
Hi there, if I had a grand father that wanted to remarry, I would support him. It is not easy to be alone and I totally sympathize with your grandfather. Cheers!
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
20 Jan 12
I don't have a grandfather anymore, but if he was still alive and wanted to get married again I would definately support his decision. I love my family members, their happiness is my first priority and I would never prevent them from making a decision that can give them a better or a happier life. If they don't feel like living alone the rest of their lives I think it is fine to find a new partner. Some of my friends lost their father a while ago and their mother found a new boyfriend. The children are very much against it and they don't want their mother to be with another man, but I don't think it is right to make that kind of discussions about other people. Their mother is a very outgoing person who loves to talk and loves to have company, and it would not be right for her to spend the rest of her life alone.
• Philippines
22 Jan 12
If he is my grandfather, i will allow him to get married. You see, they are still human being with physical, psychological and emotional needs. Most people who's partners die suffer from depression, they easily turns weak and then their life is shortened due to depression. I have known lots of persons like this. Do you think your parents can do what your grandfather's wife can do to him? Can you take care of him till he die? Can your parents or you can spend time with him and talk about things he like to discuss about? Think about that, there is nothing abnormal with it. Besides, it might lengthen his life more.
• Philippines
5 Feb 12
I will support him. He deserve to be happy again. And besides, he is grown up so he know what he will be doing.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
20 Jan 12
I think it is up to the person if he/she wants a partner again. Why shouldn't your grandfather have an other wife? Who am I or are we to judge about other people their lives? Each person is responsible for his own life and life-style. The fact you are older as others, have children or even grand children doesn't mean you have to be alone for the rest of your life. I also wonder what you mean by: if your grandfather will marry other old woman. Do you mean you want him to marry a 20 year old woman???
• United States
20 Jan 12
Your grandfather is a grown man and should be able to what he wants if it makes him happy. I don't even understand why it's anybodies business. Your family is being selfish and it sounds like they are hating that he is trying to move on with a new companion.
@zeedo666 (150)
• Poland
27 Oct 12
that´s what I hate in people. In theory a family should should support its member but it seems that all they care is money and legacy.
@lkbooi (16070)
• Malaysia
20 Jan 12
Hi asliah, there is no age limit for love. Any marriageable adult has the right to get married when he or she has found his or her true love. I'm really happy [em]happy[/em ]if my grandfather were to find his another half after my granny's decease for quit a long period. I would feel easy and pleasant as his life would be totally different after having a new family that full of love, warmth and joy. And he is no longer as lonely as before. Those days he had been so lonely even if we accompanied him whenever we were free. His past life since the decease of my granny was so lonely and monotonously with only tv to accompany him all the time Have a nice day and happy posting
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
19 Jan 12
Hi asliah, I remarried at age 68 and my three sons all supported my decision. My grandchildren were all too young to have an opinion. My own grandfather also remarried when he was 70, and I've never heard that any of his children or grandchildren had a problem with it. No one should have to live alone because his or her family are opposed to them marrying again. The children and grandchildren may be in the same situation someday, then they will understand. Blessings.
@klw5000 (213)
• United States
19 Jan 12
I can relate to this situation. When my grandmother passed away, my grandfather had began visiting and spending time with one of my grandmother's sisters. My mom, along with her brothers, sisters and sister in laws, all became furious. They wouldn't go visit him and then when he did get married to her, it was a mess. They couldn't stand the fact that he was with her. For me now, I wouldn't have a problem if it was my grandfather or my father. We are all human and we need companionship. It's sad but sometimes people are selfish and don't look at the whole picture.
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
19 Jan 12
I think there is no big deal of our grandfather want to marry again because I feel that they need some attention that does not gives by his children. It is okay for me if my grandfather marry again unless the lady is not 16 or 18 years old. But if the lady is around 40's and something that is good enough because it maybe helpful for him when not able to prepare for his dinner or anything
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
19 Jan 12
I guess he has all the right to remarry. We cannot provide all the happiness that our loved ones are looking for. Yes, we can give them money, material things, care and attention- but not true happiness that they are seeking for.
@velvet53 (22526)
• Palisade, Colorado
19 Jan 12
I would say go for it. He deserves his happiness. I f the family couldn't accept it I would just tell them that it is their problem not his. If your family loved their grandfather they would still be there for him no matter what.