After we`re back together....how to make him commit? (please HELP!)

I guess it is question of pride and security for your boyfriend. I believe that he wants to be that kind of guy that can be depended upon and not to be the one who would depend on others. Don't get it the wrong way that he wants to improve his business first before marrying you, but I think he just wants to feel more secure about himself before having a family of his own. I think that the best way is to spend more time together first. Try to support his endeavors and his interest. I think that as you move in more to comfortable spot near his current objectives he would see you as a more of a partner in what he is going through right now rather than someone who is making him choose on what to do. I am not saying that you should be submissive but a little bit of understanding and a little bit of support goes a long way in a healthy relationship. Best of luck to you both.

maybe because both of you are so mature and forgot how to make a love like a seventeen people for teenager, they are easily saying to their couple, how are you honey.. and of course their couple replied too, iam fine honey so i means, both of you forgot how to say the first how to say the first that both of you need each other

You can't "make" him want to commit to a marriage. That has to be something within him. You might be able to help that along, but I doubt it. Often, the more you talk about things like that, the more they back off. It could be the job aspect as he's said, but it could also be that he is afraid to commit long term or that he isn't ready to "give up" his life for married life. Whichever it is, if you try to change his mind, he could very well become stubborn about it. If it were me, I'd learn to love him better, care about him honestly and allow him to be who he is. If he loves you, he will eventually be willing to commit to marriage.

you have to make him want to commit to you. It is good that you both got back together but for you to take things faster because of the age(you did mention your age) does not mean it should go in that direction. Remember that you got back together and he is trying to secure his finances. let him do that for now, but also tell him that you both need to also talk about plans of settling down - and of course not to hurry and get married again. maybe you should just start talking to him more and make him want to marry you and start a family. do not put pressure on him because that may only cause him to back down on you.

First of all, you can't force someone to do something they don't want to already do. He could be scared, and you have the right to ask him why, but don't push the issue. Let him work out his personal issues, and make an effort to understand where he's coming from. Based on what I've read, it sounds like he's scared of going that far. There could be many reasons, and no, I don't have all of the answers either. You should be direct, and honest and open between you two. Talk about how you feel, and make sure he understands what you're feeling. Also try to understand him. If you want him to be open and honest with you, you need to be willing to be open and honest with him. Be supportive, and keep the lines open. Let him come to you and assure him you'll be willing to listen to him. Men don't always admit it, but they like that secure feeling that the woman is going to be there for them emotionally as physically and everything else in-between. It can be hard to detect, espically if that person is hiding a whole of lot feelings. But, doesn't mean it's not there. Now I don't know you , so I can only make my best guess based on what I've read. Though its up to you to figure out what's really keeping you from connecting emotionally. Maybe, now not trying to be rude or anything, you need to take a step back and see where you stand emotionally. Not just your feelings for this man, but feelings tward yourself. Atre there deamons you've hidden, perhaps from yourself? Is there something you're looking for that you're hoping he can give you? If you can answer those things, then you're well on your way to understanding yourself. If you don't understand yourself, how can you expect anyone else to?

Good thing that you're back together. If you both realized that you really love each other then work for it. You can still do the things you both have been doing. And if you can don't get to jealous from his work. I think that he's really working hard for you to have a good future with him. As the first comment said, Support him, be he's partner. I agree to that. Try to support everything he does, and be happy if he achieved something. About marrying, well, if he thinks that he's not yet ready, then try to wait. I don't want to think that he's just making excuses. But he also have a point, He need to focus on his work to earn and have a great future with you. I know that your relationship will last. It will work. Just be more understanding and more loving.

hi jasmeena just talk to him like you talked to us and tell him'you want more you want to ger married and help him with his business.'communication is always the key to any problem in a relation ship. You might suggest that now is the time while you are both still young if you want children as going past 35 is treading in dangerous waters bearing children because of danger of birth defects.