If you can't fulfill it...don't promise it...

For me, I try my best to fulfill a promise once I make them. I try to make promises I can immediately do than promise things that are iffy. Making weird/hard iffy promises and such is far riskier than things you can just give afterwards. Such as a game I bought for my friends. I try my best to promise things that give immediate results. Not that I think friendship is bought, they were games we could play together after all. Is a good rule of thumb not to promise weird things. Isn't good. But I'm not the kind of person to hold something against a person if they fail their promises. I'm far harder on my own failures than I'd ever be to others.

We'll if I am in your place I would feel bad also. If it is one time only it's fine but if it's done 3 times we'll he doesn't have a word of honor. I would not believe him anymore and will not expect something from him again. If I am the person who promise something and I can't comply with it I would say sorry and tell him the reason why I fail to do so and I will make up. But I will make it sure I will give him what I have promise soon.

I hate when people promise things and dont come through with it. That would make me mad too. I have had this happen to me on numerous occasions and its really unfair. I dont do that to people even if I have good intentions, if I dont know for sure I can do something then I dont.

hi:) I also hate promises that are broken especially if they offered that promise without me asking them, so many people are like that they always promise but don't really have intention to do it... well you're right better if they won't say it so no one will get disappointed, but maybe some people are naturally have sweet lying tongue and for them promises are meant to be broken.

I would feel upset at first. But before any relationship would taint, you must establish first why he/she wasn't able to fulfill that. There must be reasons on all things happening. If that person continues to do that without honoring his words, then that would be a different story. He is not true to his words.

Definitely. i totally agree that. if anyone may couldn't keep his promise then shouldn't have any promise to them. because it is a fact of double cross.

Dear Jadoixa! I can understand your situation and I think normally anybody would get irritated if one encounter with such persons! Now at the age of 50+ I have encountered many such people who talk a lot and do nothing in spite of promising! I think these type of people are not at all serious about the feelings of other people! They are very casual in every aspects of their lives! Today, with the experience what I gather I think I am in a position to identify such people and I keep a distance from such people to avoid mental/emotional assault by their deeds. I feel these persons have following traits: 1. They are sweet tongued. They will speak so sweetly and convincingly about anything and they will promise us as if they are going to accomplish the required job within no time! 2. They have a large friends circle, but no true friends in real sense. 3. They have very casual approach towards he life. 4. They have no room for emotions in their life, 5. They always pretend as if they are happy lot, jovial and life is meant for enjoyment for them. 6. They always talk big and try to impress others by taking big names in the Society as if they are their close pals. 7. They have lot of patience and seldom get angry even if they are hurt ! This makes them thick skinned. There can be many other qualities, which can give hint about such people, but it is the basic intuition of mine which I have got after these many years of experience, that tells me about such persons and I try to keep myself away from them! Basically I am a responsible man and I understand what a responsibility is! So I can never ever think of doing some thing like this in my life! Thanks dear friend, it was a nice discussion and I liked participating in it!

Hi jadoixa, I can understand what you feel. It is very annoying once you put your trust to someone, believing everything that he or she says, and in the end, it will not be materialized. It happened to me many times and I was very very dissappointed. Because I know what it feels expect without thinking that it might not happen, I do all my best to keep whatever promise I say. Once I am not sure if I can do it, I keep it to be honest so I won't get hurt that person in the future.

I really agree with you on this. People shouldn't promise or offer to do something if they can't do it. It's okay with me if they had difficulty in doing something they said they would do but eventually failed. What isn't okay with me are those people who promise things knowing very well that they won't be able to keep it.

I don't expect too much when someone make a promise. I am tired and sick of expecting promises. Yes, we feel so bad when someone make a promise and nothing is fulfilled. It's not because we expect a lot- but,the hope is there. So, once a promise is broken- it's really hard to trust again.

Yes, it feels bad when you are promised of something , by a person but won't fulfill it. You feel as if you can never believe in that person anymore. So, for myself i don't ever promise. I just would give something without any announcement of it the previous day. That way, i won't break a promise and trust.

It is really bad if a person who promised you something didn't fulfill it. My always boyfriend say I always make my promises broken. As the one who makes promises, as much as possible, I make it sure that I do make my promises stick. Although sometimes we can't avoid certain circumstances which will make promises be at stake. When I say I promise, it is true. If it is delayed, I make sure I make it. I don't want somebody to feel bad at me. I am a person who has word of honor.

I find it hard to deal with empty promises as well. My dad always made them and after that many people did. In the past years I learned that most people don't keep their promises although they easily make them. It was always a very heavy burden for met to keep the promises I made. I still keep them no matter how poor or sick I am. No matter if I have to push my kids aside. But... I learned not to make so much promises anymore. Why? Because I also found out most people don't care about it at all. If you make a promise and you won't keep it there is no reason for others to keep the promises they made you. Although this might be the most weird thing: those who break promises easiliy can be very angry if you do the same to them! I don't like to invest in people anymore who don't invest in me. So no promises anymore and who knows I will do what my daughter suggested me at the start of this year: try to break every promise you made this year! Would be a good practise for me.

As they say promises are made to be broken. I'm sorry about what happened to you. I know it's very hurtful. I've been in your situation before, He always promised me things, but she always failed to do. That's really saddened me. And really hurt me. That's why, sometimes i don't believe in promises anymore. It's better to do it than to promise it.

Unfortunately, people do this type of thing all the time. I just wish they didn't make any promises and just did it or gave whatever to you and surprised you. Once a promise is made, verbally, unfortunately, it isn't legally binding. However, promises written on paper, are. For years my ex husband would promise things and then say he didn't. I started telling him not to make promises he wasn't willing to put in writing because I no longer accepted them. I don't want the expectations that go with promises so, if they won't put it in writing, don't make me the promise. Right, wrong or indifferent doesn't matter how I feel, it won't make the promise happen any different so I would rather spare myself the feelings and just not do them.

I can understand your feelings as it would be very disappointing when someone promises us something and not fulfill it. I was also in your situation sometime ago and I was very disappointed. So from that time onwards whenever someone promises me something I simply laugh and say to myself that the promise will not be fulfilled. This always helped me not to get disappointed if the promise is not fulfilled. On the other hand if the person fulfills the promise I would feel very happy as I was expecting that it would not happen all the time. That's why people always say "Never Promise when you are Happy"

Hi there jadoixa!! I am actually the type of person who easily get disappointed whenever I don't get what I want or someone broke his promise to me.Well it's not that I am very childish I just don't want people to have this habit of making someone believe that they will do something for you or give you something. I am not really a materialistic person and most of the time I will only ask someone for something I know they can give.But there were really times when they just don't want to give and even if it's like that they still promise and tell you a lie.I think breaking promises were also like lying to someone.It's better not to promise at all coz if your promise is broken you can hurt someone without you even knowing.

Hello, Yeah, this is really annoying especially if you already expect it. It also happened to me and i was really happy about it but when the time come what he promise is already gOne. I dont open it to him i let him realize it. I hate making promise when they never did. I will feel really disappointed to that person and i wont trust all what he say anymore. That is why when someone give promise to me. I never exPect too much.

I know how that feels. It's quite frustrating when you're actually expecting a lot since the person is so confident in saying that he can do or fulfill something. I would also feel bad if someone didn't actually made as what he promised. Actually sometimes it's not even considered as a promise, but something that a person would surely do for you. Like you I also think that - if you feel or are not sure that you are not gonna make it or you not gonna fulfill something better not say it first. Try to work whatever things you want to give or you want to offer to someone before saying it. Once the person is sure then only he should reveal what it is. I don't usually have such habit of giving false hopes and promises to someone. If I know I can't help or make such thing, I would simply say it no matter how it might hurt the person.