Taking a break from the relationship...
By chiyochan
@chiyosan (30184)
Philippines
January 19, 2012 3:19am CST
When do you think it is okay to take a break in a relationship? Especially for the non-married couples... i have this dilemna or question in mind why people would want to be given space, and time to think things over when they know or say that they still love their partners... I thought if you love the person you are with, even if you have your own inner battles.. is it not better to be fighting for the love together as a couple and not to sort out things on your own - especially if the person has committed a mistake...
Have you ever been in a situation when you still love a person but you know you just made a mistake and would somehow want to reassess yourself and still want the other person to wait for you because you will eventually go back to him or her.. just that there are things you need to accomplish for yourself?
Is there such a thing that we all need to get to know and to sort of "soul-search" first before we can fully commit ourselves to people we "love"?
Any thoughts, insights or suggestions or experiences on this please?
5 responses
@mce0321 (88)
• Philippines
20 Jan 12
taking a break from a relationship is the best thing to do when you feel things are not working out for you. and most often when you fall out of love, there is someone better out there to make you happy. do not cling on to the relationship if you feel your heart is not on it.
I was once in a relationship. it lasted for 3 years, but only one year in reality is the happy part. i knew it will not work out because he is married and with kids. i tired to keep up with the situation. we lived in a fantasy. and i knew somewhere it has got to stop. he will never be mine. and true enough, he had another affair with another woman even before we ended everything. that was reality check for me to go and live a life. so i walked away from it all. now i am happily married to the man whom i know truly loves me. and life is good to love and be loved again in the real sense of loving.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
13 Jan 13
hi mce! =) thanks for your response. i havent had a relationship that we took a break that is not permanent so i could not really think what this could turn out into. all i know is it can be good - to make both realize how much they love each other... or it could permanently seal the deal that they aren't for each other.
thank you for trusting us with this experience of yours in your life. that is true, it ca never work out, he has to straighten out his thoughts and decision, he can't have both you and the wife, right?
im glad you have found tthe courage to get out of such a situation you do deserve someone who will give you the life you deserve and the love that is not shared with any one else.
@flowerfest08 (1677)
•
19 Jan 12
hi:)
yes I think every relationship even how much you love each other needs a break, especially when you are together every day...try to spend sometimes with your friend or your family and tell him to meet his friend as well and have a guy bonding, or go to some place without him and do some thinking. tell him that you want to do it alone, or if you don't like to hurt his feeling, just tell him that it's a girls getaway.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
13 Jan 13
I guess sometimes there has to be a break so each of the couple can realize their true self worth and worht of the other to their lives. im hoping though it wakes up the couple into realizing they are for each other and not otherwise during the break. see you around the site! sorry the response was about a year late. hehe
@dheckerz (473)
• Philippines
19 Jan 12
Yes. In a relationship you need to look at all sides of it. You always have to consider your paradigm, goals, habits, and everything. Because if you commit with someone who has the same exact opposite beliefs, practices that you have, this can lead to a bigger problem.
@craziestqueenever (1819)
• Philippines
19 Jan 12
I'm not in a relationship right now, but then I do understand with what you mean. Sometimes when you are super close with your boyfriend the tendency is that you forgot yourself. You had given all of your love to your boyfriend. That's why sometimes we need to distance ourselves with our boyfriend. Yes, you maybe be in a relationship right now, but make sure that the both of you has its own space. To be alone is helpful when you are questioning yourself.
@vt689586 (584)
• India
19 Jan 12
taking break from relationship is not good idea if you are in committed relationship.because if you loves one very much then how can you take a break!even i does not take break, because i love her very much.i share all things from her ,she understand me and if we are in trouble ,rather making separate decision , we sit together and find solution of the problem.
i does not advise any one to take break from the relationship because how would you know when to come back.may be its too late when you will come back.there is lots of risk involve in it.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
22 Jan 12
i agree that people in a relationship should work on it, but if like in many cases, the couple should be able to find themselves again.. they actually need their alone time sometimes, right... =) thank you for your response, and yes it is true too that it may be too late... but if that happens, then again they might not be meant for each other if they were not able to make it as a couple through trial.
