Abusive Father

If I was told that by anyone I would have to report it to the authorities. I would suggest you do the same thing. If she feels she can't then someone has to. As for her mom no clue why a mom would be mad at a child for telling but regardless the child needs to be safe. To me this is something I could not walk away from. She needs out of the situation of an abusive father and by telling you she is crying out for your help.

A lot of moms don't want to beloved there his and and father of there child would do that thing. Some parents blame anything and everything that the other parent does to there child on the child. If she felt it was okay to tell her mom she would. Also she could have been threat that if she told someone would get hurt. You as her friend should go with her to the police or rape counlser and get away from her dad and him in jail. But she has to want to an she has the press the chargers. Ibkbow how hard it is to be sexually abused by a family member. There I lots of people out there that will understand an help her if she wants. She took a nice bug step in trusting you now you to help and support her.

gee that is a hard one, I guess you can only be there for her and try and talk her into telling someone as this can not go on, if he does this sort of thing to his daughter he may be dangerous to others so not doing anything is not good and if you do anything on your own bat you could lose a friend, talk her into telling someone....

Many people who are in any kind of abusive situation somehow get it in their heads that whatever has happened/is happening to them is all their fault. You need to push that thought of your friends head immediatly! She can not remain in such a situation. She does need to tell her mother, but even if her mother doesn't believe her, there are plenty of other things she can do: Is there anyway she can stay with you? Can you guys get the police involved? Your friend can't just do nothing. But if that is what she intends to due because of her fear, then you need to step up. Report what you saw and what your friend told you. It's all for her well being. Her father should be locked up!

You might not believe it, but it is very common for the victim of abuse to feel like they are the ones doing something bad by telling on the abuser. If you are a good friend, which I am sure you are, or you would not be asking us for help, you need to tell someone. Something has to be done to stop this behavior and if she is too scared to tell her mother, she needs to tell someone else. She needs to stop letting her father do this to her and stand up for herself. I too had a friend in the same situation and after talking to me, she finally did something about it. Her father is in prison and she and her mom are living with family until they can get back on their feet. Your friend needs to do something before it is too late. I am so very sorry that your friend is in this position. Parents are supposed to protect their children from harm, not cause it. I hope he gets what he deserves.

I worked for years with women who were abused for years by their dads. Their mothers seldom believed them, same with the rest of the society. It seems to be something of women. We all know this happens but at the same time if someone is abused or raped, we women blame the woman. It's the same when a man is cheating, we don't blame our husband but we blame that other woman! It beats me how come we are so less loyal to our own kind. But I give your friend less change her mother will believe her or anyone in her family will believe her. I can only advice her to threaten her father with his life or to leave! Otherwise this won't stop.

Her mother probably knows this is going on. She is probably living a he.ll of her own with this man. This mother is not right in the head. She needs help too. The right thing to do is to tell the authorities. It will probably cause a rift in the family but he needs to be taken down. Does she have an older sister? If so she probably has a story to tell too. If I were her friend i would get her to tell the authorities.

Fear and shame, are usual concerns in this situations, unfortunately, this plays in favour of the abusive ones, and real guilty ones. I would advise to talk to her mother privately first, and explain the whole situation, of course, I don´t know, how s her relation with her mother, but, I think that this is the first logical step, probably, she won´t believe her at first, but, she must to put her on her side, then, both of them should confront the man, I will not call him father, this word is too big for him. And, this is something that should not remain in the family context, and she must place an acussation to the authorities. If she is old enough, I even think that she must leave the house, as soon as possible.

There is no question as to what to do. Someone must be told ASAP. That is the mindset of someone that is being abused. They think that it is their fault and that others are going to be mad at them and blame them. It has to stop. There is no excuse for that man to be treating his daughter in that manner and mom needs to know so that she can protect her. It obviously won't be easy for the family to deal with...but there are rights and wrongs in this world and that man is just plain wrong.

How old is you friend? Her age is important to know what she can do. And there must be laws against that in your country. The question is how these laws work. The mother might get mad at her if she knows about it but is too much afraid of her husband as to protect her child.

For me, the best that she can do is to go to the DSWD, and report it. That way, DSWD will do the proper things to do. They will also give the necessary protection to her, so she couldn't be harmed anymore. May i know, what is her age now?

Oh my God that ashame to her father for doing that kind of bad thing, why you both talk her mother about this case, or if the mother didnt lestin tell the authorities or the NBI im sure they could make any investigations on it...please tell when the things still not worst. Good luck for helping to your friend.

you should just take her to police station and make police report i think the mother is aware of this she just does not make this issue very big

you must be invited and accompanied him to talk to his mother. Maybe she would want if accompanied. If her mother could not provide a good solution, you can help him to find another place to stay keep her safe. Do not be too quick to report to the police, because maybe the problem will be more complicated, since it concerns his mother also.

emdjay you have an obligation to tell an adult about your friem d, find childrens protective services or go to her teacher or even her mom as this is criminal and there is help for young people who have been raped by a family member. this cannot be let go if nothing else tell your mom and ask her to report this to children's protective services as they will act to protect the child

She should first of all, tell it to her mother, if her mother won't understand and scowl her, then she should report it to the authority and testify against her animal father. That is how your friend should do. That is totally monstrous, and she shouldn't keep her mouth shut about that. That just wrong, and she should do something to punish her abusive father like that.

i dont understand what done by father with your friend.

In my own opinion, I think she should open up to her mum so as to free her mind. She should get out of her fears and face the reality before she heads for destruction. Lets pause a bit and ask if that is her biological father considering the magnitude of the incest.