stop this nonsense...

Why is that nonsense? If you are yourself the person you're trying to get a gf knows exactly who you are and that will be her insight of seeing who she will be with. If you don't be yourself, who are you supposed to be? I don't get it.

We split into two camps: those who do not trust them and those who pretend to have. From half the world against each other, we throw exhortations, trying to convince us that we will not succeed until after we learn to be in control of ourselves and our qualities. For self-confidence - or, rather, lack thereof - has become a weapon we use against each other. And maybe that is why, while we always say we should feel and live like we have the best in everything and in all, I like more and more timid people who have doubts, hesitant before taking steps meant, who fear that weep sometimes. No those are the most human and best of us?

No, it won't get a girlfriend, but it's a good way to start. All the machinations that people do trying to attract others normally end badly. If you don't start with being true to who you are, then what's the point? Relationships are based on compatibility, if someone is being false, than the relationship is false. If you want to get a girlfriend, be yourself and put yourself out there. You have to be willing to talk to people, girls especially, really get to know them. You have to put yourself in situations where the girls are. So often, girls and guys don't think about what the person they are looking for is into. While being yourself doesn't solve the problem, it makes the latter steps a lot easier.

I think it's up to the guy on what strategy to be taken in getting a lady or having a gf on their own. This is not about the suggestion of others because if a guy want the lady. He must do everything to get her...

Take an interest in her. People interested in finding someone are sometimes all rapped up with their problem so much they miss seeing the obvious.

I think that being yourself has also something to do to get a gf. But, as you said, that doesn't solve anything. What if, the real person is bad, would he act like himself? I don't know, but i think, if somebody wants a girlfriend, then try to be nice to her, know what she likes and dislike, be gentle with her, be sweet with her, respect her. Those are some things you can do.

No it doesn't solve everything. It's also not the answer of how to get one (mostly I read how to tell someone you like/love that person). But fact is only if you are yourself people will be intrested in the real you. for the rest you need courage (even if you have a lack of self esteem). The only way to find out if someon likes you or like to date with you is simply asking it. Some people might not care if you let your best friend do the job or you send an anomyous message but in the end you have to go over yourself.