Making changes in our vocabulary.

dear Pose123 have thought about our use of language quite a bit being a victim to emotional abuse from both parents. I dont have children as I married much too late and can only hope I would have made things better. The vocabulary mainly my mother, a perfectionist of the worst kind, used towards me has not only wounded my self esteem but crushed it altogether. I am nearing 50 now and only now as my mother is no more I break free from all these exaggerating, unjust and damaging messages which were hurled at me way beyónd my childhood.

hi Pose123! i agree with you. actually anything that is negative is not nice to hear or said especially when addressed to a child. you see, i grew up in a family that is full of love and my parents especially my mother always give us positive words and affirmations while growing up. however, they of course are not in control of the outside world. i have always been fighting negative and sometimes cruel words that were lashed at me outside my home. i guess i have been bullied by other people when i was young. so many ugly words have bruised my young heart and when i tell my mother and father about it, my parents have always lifted me up. i am blessed for the kind of parents i have and hopefully people will realize that creating a beautiful world can start with a positive word. take care and blessings to you! lovelots..faith210

I do believe this, in fact my entire life was subject to the fact that my Mom said I hated her from birth, she said I always waited until she was dressed for work before I throw up on her when I was a baby. Of course when I grew up I knew that it was her own fault, all babies spit up and if she had taken the time to put a cloth between me as a small baby and her work outfit there would have been no problem. But somehow knowing this never took away the sting of the first statement. Again it comes down to " do unto others as you would have them do unto you."

Hi Pose: That's right. People and culture changes but we still use the same words. Stop using phrases with these kind of negative message could be the answer to stop giving this wrong message. Cultural process can take a lot of time to make a result but they can work we just need to make an effort to change thej way people see the world and express about it. ALVARO

Yes, words have power & some more than others, often depending who it is that's saying them. I guess you've seen a lot in your time. The worst ones are specific & direct & often coming from those who are closest to you. Those that keep repeating that you'll one day grow up to be a murderer or are convinced that you will end up in jail are just a couple of many examples. But you are right, we can choose here & now to end the perpetration of this sort of rediculous, unhelpful nonsense by watching our thoughts, lest they become our words, which become our actions, then our habits, until they become our character which shapes our destiny... & by that point in time, we're pretty much finished!