What do you do when people don't listen to you?

Well I'm going to say my piece. If they are going to choose not to listen to me, that rather shows how much they value what I am trying to tell it. If it is something important that they really need to know, then it is going to be there problem when they need to know it and they are going to choose not to listen to me. So much a pity. Then again, there are just going to be a lot of people who are going to really not listen for even the briefest moment for any reason whatsoever. There are just going to be many times where people don't have the proper listening skills. Therefore there is just no use trying to rather twist their arm to say the very least. It is going to be hard to deal with these people as they do not listen.

Well, I just let it go. People have their own opinions and therefore no always going to listen to something that I think is a good idea. We are all different, and whilst we may be very enthusiastic about something, others may think that it is a bad idea.. We are all different, and maybe it's hard sometimes, but it always best to let people make up their own minds.. I never give advice as a therapist and counsellor, but I always provide the questions that my clients would answer for themselves. Then it is their decision, not mine, whether I agree with it or not.. _Derek

It's all in the gestures, if they are really interested the gestures will show. And when they don't listen I just stop talking. The funny thing is this, what I do is when they don't listen even it is a good advice, I stop talking and they would say 'continue', I would say no so that they would just talk and when they talk, I show gestures of not giving a damn thing about their problem and they would ask me "Are you even listening?" then I always say "Yah, are you? Because I already gave you an advise on that and it seems that you are not even doing it, do you even remember my advise?" That shuts them up and they would listen. Well, that's what I do, but I don't know if it is good or bad... But at least I am listening unlike them..

For my family members, I will offer my advices in a conversational way whether they have asked for it or not. I feel it is my duty to let them know anything that I think they should know. Whether they will listen to my advices it is entirely up to them if they are adults. For others, I will only tell them my opinion if I am asked or if I know them well. But I will not be bothered if they will take my words. When people don't listen to my advices, it is okay as I feel I have done my duty. For my kids, I will try at length to explain but if I fail to convince them, I will let them know that I will always be there if they need me.

If it was like 2 or three years before, I would have got all angry and start cursing them lol..But after some time i stop and think about what they are trying to put forward;does it mean something that i shouldn't miss or is it something that I already told... Most of the times,discussions like these ends up in arguments...some people are like that ..They don't listen and only finds what you said as true if they later face the consequence of it... Later I do come back to mock them and tell "Oh i told you so"....I kind of enjoy saying that and love to see the look on peoples face when they hear it...

What i do if people don't listen to me is that, i'll stop talking. It's not worth of my time, if they don't listen to me. Maybe their brain is already closed. And i don't want arguments, because i'm pretty sure i'll be the one who will lose, I always give up. That's why if they don't ask me for any advice or opinion i would not say anything. One thing i do to make them listen, is that, i make them analyzed their own problems. LOL.

This is very annoying, and you can usually tell with their body language if they are truly listening to you or not! Some people have selective hearing in that they only listen to what they want to hear and they will switch off if they don't want to listen, so if you don't have eye contact you know they are only half listening or not listening at all. The best thing to do to make sure they have been listening is to challenge them or ask them a question about what you have been talking about, then you will know if they have listened or not by giving you the right answer!

I don't get upset. I try to sit down and be objective and give examples. If they don't listen they will have to suffer. I cannot tell anyone else what to do, as I sure don't have all the answers myself.

When someone doesn't listen to me then that is their prerogative. If they ask me for advice and i give it then they don't listen then thats their decision. I cant make someone listen to me.

I stop bothering to speak to them. It's quite insulting not to pay attention when someone is speaking to you, unless of course you are interrupting something they are doing. I have a (so called) friend who, when I'm in the middle of speaking to him and pause for some feed back or an answer to a question, will begin a totally new conversation. He will also sit where I cannot see him properly. It's so annoying and frustrating. I have lost a lot of respect for this person and I think he is not such a good friend. Also when I speak to him, he takes no notice of what I'm saying. I thought at first it was something to do with his learning disabilities but I now realise he has just developed some really bad habits.

hello squallming! Maybe if someone doesn't listen to me I'll be quiet. You can't force anyone to listen to you. If they don't feel what do you want to say is better to stay quite. I was asking many ears a very good friend to explain me something very important and he tried. I never understood. A few days ago I've met another person, I asked same question and in just 5 minutes I understood very well. The strange things is that the last man told me same things. Now I am sure that we communicate between us in many many wasy, not only by words and voice. It depends very much about feelings, emotions, stress on words, so on. This is one of the reasons whay I think we must re-start to read with voice, to use stress on words. So, if there is difficult to make someone to listen to you is better to be quiet or to change the way to communicate, or put another person to explain. See you soon! Cata

hello squallming, actually when i have a story i loved to share to my freinds, so when they were talking i give an action to give more fucos or attention to me so all details of my story they know.

If a person has a reputation for being 'preachy' the person who you talk to will already be guarded and unwilling to listen. It will be like speaking to a brick wall, because the individual will not hear anything you have to say. So, a solution is instead of trying to get the person to listen, get the person to talk. They talk and you listen. Ask questions to draw the person out to express themselves and create a dialog. When both people are sharing and communicating, the one who wasnt listening will actually be drawn into listening whether they realize it or not. This has worked wonders for me.

You are so right. It irritates me a lot when people ask for opinion and then just ignore it. I always try to analyze a situation before giving an opinion. Both the sides of an issue should be analyzed for any issue, but people will not like it if you say that something they did was wrong. Yet, i try to be as diplomatic as possible and tell them the "bad things" also. Sometimes I feel like saying "Told you so" when some one ignores my opinion and end up in a difficulty, yet I try not to. But if a person ignores my opinion few times, I stop being so involved in the situation and just give an offhand answer. May be just a "you are so right" or "poor you". This not only satisfies the person but also saves me a lot of irritation later on.

If they asked for an advice but then they refused to listen I will surely get mad, if they don;t asked it but I volunteer to give my two cents and they don't listen to it, I won't get mad but it does not matter. I will keep say it to them. They want to listen and follow it or not it's up to them. I just do my part. The rest just let them decide it.(^^)

Over the years, I've tried to help my children by relating my experinces with similar situations, but they never listen. I guess they have to experience it on their own. So, now I don't do it anymore. You can't make anyone listen.

I think it really depends on who that person is and whether the decision that he or she makes will affect me or not. I don't really like it when people don't listen to me after they ask me for my advise. However, we have to acknowledge that each person have their own thinking and have their own thought. They are free to decide and free to do whatever they want. it is not fair for us to force them to listen to what we want them to do. We might think this is the correct way to go. However, they might feel another way. Therefore, as much as we try to advise or persuade the person on teh way that we think is the correct method, we should still respect their wishes.

If the topic is religion and they don't listen, I find consolation on this: "Because I have called, and ye refused; I have stretched out my hand, and no man regarded; but ye have set at naught all My counsel and would none of my reproof: I will also laugh at your calamity: I will mock when your fear cometh." --- Proverbs 1:24-26 There will come a time when those who refuse to listen will experience the wrath of Him who is calling and rebuking them by His Words through the Scriptures. For other topics, I let it be. After all, I don't have the monopoly of knowledge.

the matter is that do not relax and not to cease, i such situation, u try to put more effort and the habit to persuade them.

dont't expect people to listen to you if you don't listen to people first