What suggestions do you have for this hopeless girl?
By aquacan
@aquacan (216)
China
January 19, 2012 8:07pm CST
My roommate tutored a girl months ago. Just a few days ago, she received a call from this girl's parents. They told my roommate that their teenage daughter is undergoing the hardest time in her life. My roomate went to see her days ago but she could barely recognize this girl!! Suffering from inappropriate dieting, her weight has gone down by 20kg!!! What's worse is that she kept hurting herself. There are horrible scars everywhere over her arms. I just feel so shocked. What it is that makes this teenage girl keep hurting herself? My roommate talked to her all night but it seemed it didn't make any big help. We are both afraid that she is going to be in great danger if proper measure isn't take right away. What suggestions do you have for this girl, my dear mylotters?
9 responses
@cttolledo (5454)
• Legaspi, Philippines
21 Jan 12
maybe that girl is depressed?... but for sure she needs help.. i think you should try to convince her to see a doctor, a psycho doctor, coz i think she needs a person (expert person )who can talk to and later assessed what she needed. But take note guys, i am not telling that she is insane, as far as i know according to my cousin, psychologist is not only for insane people but also those person who is suffering depression or emotional problem who needs an expert to talk to .
@aquacan (216)
• China
21 Jan 12
Yeah, she really needs a psychologist. It's not a shame to see a psychologist. Everyone has some period of depression. And right now she is not in a good condition. To be honest, I don't think talking to a friend or her parents will solve the problem because it's so serious. She needs someone professional to help her.
@siri26 (331)
• India
20 Jan 12
As you said she is teenager. This is the age usually people do all this because of immaturity and feel lonely. At this point of time they need lot of love and we need to make them think that they have somebody who really do care for them, love them and living for them. May be because of some problem she is doing this to her. But here parents are the key to make her understand and to understand her. Now it's time to be with her whom she really loves.
@aquacan (216)
• China
21 Jan 12
Indeed. You are right that her parents is the key to this problem. They take the worng way to express love to their daughter. They think offering a high living standard is love. So they work hard and barely have time to spend time with their daughter. A girl at this age reallys needs love and attention. She needs her parents to talk to her and know about her feelings. Her parents should let her know that she always has them to rely on no matter what happens.
@igatiful_badass (1222)
• Philippines
20 Jan 12
sorry to here that story. I know i have my own problem but this one needs more concerns. but i could suggest she needs love and attention. Lift her up always with thoughts and inspirations. And who ever did that to her should ask for a sorry.
@aquacan (216)
• China
21 Jan 12
She really needs love and attention, which she couldn't get from her parents. One on hand, her parents work hard to offer her a good life. On the other, they are too strict with her grades. I know good grades means that the girl could go to a good university in the future but they didin't care about their daughter's feeling. This girl has been greatly hurt by her parents.
@Ankitdhama (103)
• India
20 Jan 12
That girl is already suffring from a diseas. I don't know the name of that diseas but I have heared about this. Mostly the teen age girls are found suffering from it. They think that they are fat and start dieting and become very sick. They continues the dieting and there become the deficience of nutrients.
I think that her parent's must make sure that she visit a doctor.
@aquacan (216)
• China
21 Jan 12
Yeah, I believe she's suffering from the disease. My room mate told me that this girl would suddenly eat a lot and then she's going to throw up what she has eaten. Girl at this age care too much about their appearance and weight. Also she needs love and attention. Maybe she hurt herself to cause her parents' attention...
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
20 Jan 12
Probably that's depression. I guess someone must talk to her to know what her problem was or any reason why she hurts herself. Her parents must try to bring her to a psychologist too to get the help that she needed. She might be having troubles.
@nfrenciz (99)
• Philippines
20 Jan 12
You will not going to hurt yourself for no reason at all, she has maybe a big problem now, that she can't bear or something. The parents must talk to her and help her out. She's maybe depress on something, love life perhaps, that's a very sensitive case indeed, for she came to the point of hurting herself. We'll just pray for her then. Hope she will be better soon.
@cowboyofhell (3063)
• Philippines
20 Jan 12
As a preliminary measure I think giving her a dog or cat will sooth her emotional pain. I also think giving a paper and pen will let her pour out her ills and thus leave her feeling lighter at the end. Studying is stressful and giving her free choice on when to pause studying will make her feel less abused.
@aquacan (216)
• China
21 Jan 12
Good day friend. Thanks a lot for the suggestions. This girl really needs a good listener so that she could tell all her worried and sad memories. Her parents are too busy with their work so they neglect their girl. That's why my room mate would go to visit her again. Maybe a pet would keep her good company and she wouldn't feel so lonely when she's alone at home. Really hope she could be more out-going and get out of her dark life.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
20 Jan 12
Im not a doctor or anything but it sounds like she needs attention from someone. Shes craving love and attention. I dont know who she wants it from but thats what I think it is.
She needs a reason to stop hurting herself. Someone she cares about needs to tell her how much its hurting them to see her doing that. (Not her parents). I say that because if shes not getting along with them well or they are too strict it could make things worse.
So, maybe a boy shes friends with or someone she looks up to could tell her that they would be so upset if something happened to her.
She really needs love and attention. I used to do this too and thats what I was looking for and needed...
@ibytes (81)
• Philippines
20 Jan 12
i think the girl is wormed out of her self. some reason maybe, her parents never gave any attention at all. broke up with her boyfriend or so. being bullied at school. parents council is needed here even. she needs moral and spiritual support. thus saying she hurts her self. do advice her parents to get all sharp or sharp pointed things at her room. try bringing her to a psychologist it will help.
@aquacan (216)
• China
21 Jan 12
Indeed, her parents barely pay attention to her! They are so busy with their work that they neglect their daughter. They think love means giving their daughter a high living standard. They would try to fulfill the girl's damands as much as they can. But on the other hand, they are too strict with her grades. The girl loves piano and wants to be a pianist. But they just want her to be no.1 in her subjects. If the parents didn't make a change, their daughter would be in great danger!
