In love it is not the looks, it is the attitude..
By airasheila
@airasheila (5454)
Philippines
January 20, 2012 2:32am CST
Hello Fellow Mylotters,
I really cannot explain why people tend to fall into their opposite. Well, I mean the looks. As there are some couples who are meant but not that compatible in terms of their physical appearance. Like the one I have seen yesterday, the guy is quite fat and he almost occupied two seater seats. Aside from that, he is not that good looking although he has a dimple when he smiles. While his wife is so slim and pretty. And because of that, almost all passengers riding in that vehicle cannot resist to take a look on them.
And when I go down from that vehicle, I just thinked of that, perhaps the guy has the perseverance to win the heart of the girl. Maybe in return, the girl have had noticed that the guy truly loves her so much. So they ended up marrying each other.
Thus, in love it is not the looks, it is the attitude that really matters.
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19 responses
@Sebastion1234 (293)
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20 Jan 12
i think the women is after is cash he probably waiting for him to die fast.in this world no thin girls want to marry fat guy i don't believe this is true love at all
@alicia812 (646)
• Australia
20 Jan 12
Sebastion1234, what made you think that the woman
is only after cash? Even accusing that she might
'probably' waiting for him to die fast? And what's
wrong with marrying a fat guy? It is easy to pass
judgment to people you don't even know. Love can be
true and real between people who are strangely
different from each other whether physical appearance,
culture, beliefs or status in life.
@alottodo (3056)
• Australia
22 Jan 12
It is a funny thing how people are really...I remember when my son was a teenager and all his friends would make comments about big girls and all were looking forward to this slim dream that would sweep them off their feet! but guess what! they all married well endowed females! and they all have children and are happily married including my son.
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
21 Jan 12
I know it makes people look like 'why is she with him?' or 'why is he with her?'. I ask why should it matter. Society is so stuck on looks and if you aren't what they want you to be you don't deserve to be loved. It really upsets me that people are so judgmental. Whose business is it if she lives him? What difference does it make if he is fat? Fat is an adjective like tall and skinny. I'm fat. So I don't deserve to be loved because of it? I guess so, this discussion just reminds me that fat people are just as deserving if love as a thin person. The attitude should be good no matter what your size is or how you look. Too bad it doesn't work out for fat people who want to find love but are scared because they know they will be judged.
@myzhian (584)
• Philippines
22 Jan 12
Yes. Love is really magical and mysterious! Most people are firstly attracted on the outer physical appearance of an individual, but love works with the inner well-being and spiritual personality of a person! Some couples are basically odd on their outer look, but love fills the emptiness and imperfections of each other! You may not be a perfect person, and entitled to make a lot of mistakes, nor no good looking, but you're lucky enough to be love by the person who will stay with you after knowing who you really are!
@thresholdofreality (119)
• Philippines
21 Jan 12
Looks are what attract a person to another person. There's no sense in denying that. But then again, if you put it into perspective, the sole presence of attraction is not enough to build a long-lasting relationship. That's where attitude comes in. I mean, come on, why would I want to have a boyfriend who's an arrogant jerk? So what if he's extremely handsome? Looks play a part, true, but they never tell the whole story. In the end, I just want somebody to love me for who I am. That should be enough.
@CRIVAS (1815)
• Canada
20 Jan 12
I think that you are right. While it might be looks that first catch our attention in a relationship, it is the attitude and friendship toward one another, that keeps them together. I am the opposite of my husband but we have been married for 7 years and together for 14. Although we do share some interests we are opposites. I am loud, he is quiet, I am emotional, he is calm. However we just seem to balance eachother so well that it doesn't seem to matter that we are different. In fact his being different is what attracted me to him. I can honestly say that differences are the spice of life. Great discussion, happy mylotting.
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
20 Jan 12
love is blind for those who loves truly from the heart. the heart clearly sees, comprehends, realizes and most of all FEELS what could make us really genuinely to be happy and appreciate. The eyes can see only to cause physical attraction, but the heart sees the beauty within to cause natural attraction.
@cearn25 (3456)
• Philippines
20 Jan 12
At first when we see a new person and we don't know him/her yet, we judge actually what we see in him physically. That is very true. When it comes to love, the same thing happens. Of course we don't want to be paired by to just anybody else. We have so many qualifications and these qualifications should fit to the person we wish we have to be. Whatever be the looks of your love one, will it be good or bad, it doesn't matter when it comes to love. That is not the criteria that true love seeks. It is in the inner looks which can tell.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
20 Jan 12
Yes I agree with you. I have a classmate who is very pretty who ended up with a fat and not so good looking guy too. But we don't actually think about the looks. It doesn't matter at all. It's true love and perseverance that always wins the girls heart. 'Though it is always physical that most people sees and considers first.. when people becomes mature we will later realized that looks is just secondary - what we all need to is genuine love and trustworthy partner.
@sumatix (257)
• United Arab Emirates
20 Jan 12
Each person has his/ her own definition of love. even there is a difference in the definition of love among the girls and the boys.While the boys will be more inclined towards ohysical attributes the girls aremore inclined towards the emotional,feelings side..so i cannot say that its allways not the looks and allways it is the attitude person to person it differs.for some its just the looks while for some one its the emotions, attitude and feelings.
@angelako (280)
• Italy
20 Jan 12
You cannot really tell,when you fall inlove its not about the look already.when you only based about the look its not love but only an admiration.but when you say about love,it doesnt look anything you just feel it.you will love the total personality of the person.even the bad attitude sometimes you cannot see.Only the good things of the person you love you will think about.Mostly too we fall inlove because of persons attitude that we like.
@nfrenciz (99)
• Philippines
20 Jan 12
Yes Indeed, I agree with that, that's really what we call "true Love" .the outward appearance does not really matters but what matters most is the heart. we really can't the deny the fact as human being it's really our instinct to look at the outward appearance although some are not but mostly really it's a big deal.
@madugulagopi (1093)
• India
20 Jan 12
What you said is absolutely correct. Looks would attract people that's all and attitude and love are the main things that make any relationship work. You cannot live with a person just by looking at him if his attitude is not good. So it is looks that starts a relation and love and affection that sustains the relation.
@cowboyofhell (3063)
• Philippines
20 Jan 12
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LhV6QQBmpRg
I truly enjoyed watching this video 
. I am shocked at first but they seem to be happy having one another. This is a prime example that love is not based on looks alone.
. I am shocked at first but they seem to be happy having one another. This is a prime example that love is not based on looks alone.
@marcmm (1804)
• Malaysia
20 Jan 12
I guess it just normal when we look at the physical attribute first. Usually most people will only approached somebody once they attract to the person and it is always because of the physical attributes first. Then we slowly get to known that person.
And as most of the people will change physically, I think it is normal to see a lot of couple just not match physically. But because they really love each other, they just put the change in their partner physical attribute aside. It is always easier to look for more attractive person than our partner, but it is not easy to find someone who will truly care about us.
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
20 Jan 12
Or it could be maybe, when they got married the guy was still slim. But due to hormonal imbalance or due to the delicious cooking of her wife, he got fat. 
So, since love is already into her wife, she still loves him despite that.
So, since love is already into her wife, she still loves him despite that. 
@vt689586 (584)
• India
20 Jan 12
hi, you are absolutely right ,and there are many couples out there ,who physical not compatible.but due to that there are in healthy relationship and they didn't even think about their partners physical appearance. this is sign of true love.if you are in true love and you know that your partner loves you soooo much then why you with the physique of your partner.
i personally feel that to be in a relationship just go with your partners thought ,how he/she thinks.because physique is not the same at all time.but your views are always same.
