my kids ask for a birthday party,how to say no?

Hi ifa! You could safely tell your kids that it is beyond you to organise a party and you can not do so. They could arrange a party outside, if feasible and practical. They may not like your idea but they needed to be told reality.

I think kids can easily understand as long as you explain them seriously that you don't wanna waste money but try to compromise with them too. Take them to restaurant and go to amusement parks or any kid's attraction and tell them that instead of having a party that will be your birthday treat for them.

I have been where money is tight but I have managed to give my child a party. It doesn't have to be expensive you can make a cake easily just search on the internet of things you have in the house. You can play games that you can use materials at home to do it with. Again search the web it is all there. This is about your child and maybe he sees others getting a party and doesn't want to be the only one that doesn't have one. Parties are easy and can be done without spending a lot of money. I would really encourage you to search the web find cheap things to make and enjoy the memories you are giving your child.

Me too,my friend I like party because I feel complicated to assist visitors and most of all expenses... Talk to your kid to have a small party that only family will attend to avoid more preparation

hi ifa My little brain tells me that the party for the kids birthdays should be a welcome thing. Wait. I have a small plan. Tell the kids that this year the party is only within the family and no guests. Then, prepare anything that the family can enjoy as a whole, play some family games involving kids and also gift them a cake or a bar of chocos. This year, let them feel that they are special and the family entertainments can be exciting for the kids too. No need to go out or have a great menu. Keep things simple but just make the day(s) special... that way the issues of cleaning, cooking and also expenses will remain less and all in the family will have a great time together.

Hi ifa, I am not really good in saying no, most especially if it's my kids. Well, I don't have my own children as of the moment...and maybe in the future I would really be like that. I like to prepare something for my kids birthday. If I only have a small budget, then I would choose a small party (children's) instead of having that grand one. But in your case, I think your kids will understand if you will explain to them on your situation. They are just kids, so I think they will really understand you. Happy Mylotting. ^^

You could say that having a party would clash with the lovely day out that you have planed. It wouldn't have to be an expensive day out. If it is warm weather it could be playing on the beach, a picnic in the woods or a trip into town in order to buy a present. If you do have to have a party I suggest you keep it with just five kids then it could be quite cheap. Good luck. My kids are born in April, May and June so I know the pattern each year.

There are several ways of preparing a birthday party and not all of them are expensive. You can invite just 2 or 3 friends. You can buy some sweets and paper and make your own piñata (I always did it). You can buy a cake mix, cover it with beaten egg whites and put the least expensive candles. The party can be 2 hours long and part of your house can be out of bounds. But all children love a birthday party. The piñata can be even made with old wraping paper and old carboard.

you can bring them some pisang goreng in their birthday and you add with a tea, and you, your husband eat together with your kids.. i think they can understand if their parents always teach them about how to life humble and not waste the money

I know how you feel it's the same for all party unless the host is a rich person and can hire someone else to clean up the mess, yes is a troublesome thing. If i were in your shoes I would tell my kid that he can have his party buy only with his family. He will still have his cake, presents and game minus a bunch of kids that he himself might not know and be honest, let them know that money is an issue too. They might not understand it now but they will eventually in the future.

Hi! Believe me I can understand where you are as I too, have been in much the same predictament. This is where you can be creative and not spend a lot. Is there an indoor facility where your kids can run around and doesn't cost much? Do they like doing arts and crafts? See about a class nearby. Look in the local magazines and see what is going on near you, pick out what you know you can manage, and let them choose. This way you are still in control but they have a choice so everyone wins. Be well!

This might be I save money on the side for my daugters birthday. Parents always think you need to spend tones of money if you kid wants a party you should do a pot lot or a pizza parry those are cheap and easy housing need a lot of kids but a few kids. If money is extremely tight just tell your kid and the trusty and take then to the park but the present better be pretty good kids hate hearing no birthday party.

You a point, having a party is sometimes a mess, you'll need a lot of preparations, and the same time, it's not really practical to have it you really don't have enough money right? well, if you want to say no, then explain to your little one that you don't have enough money, and if they don't understand that, maybe you can say that you'll just go out with the kids, or have dinner outside. You can go to park, or have a picnic. What do you think?

I understand your point of view, however try to understand also your kids point of view and for them at that age a birthday party is even more important than the presents you can buy. I would do this way: invite max 6 kids they choose who the party will last max 1h and a half make at home a chocolate cake easy to prepare and cheap + candles by cokes take pics time from 16:00 to max 18:00 the guests will bring presents to them, thay will play and will remember that dau thanks to you and the photos, you did not spend much money and to clean up for 6 on paper and plastic cups is easy and fast! This way everybody will be happy and ask them to help you to clean up give them tasks for cleaning.

tell that if they have a party that will be their gifts taht is what we did when our kids were smaller. there are lots of ways of having a cheap kids party. it just takes imagination. after all, they are only young once.

Well in my opinion, you can just be honest about it. Just say that it is a waste of money and that money can be used for other more important things. If your kids are well mannered enough, they will understand it without any repercussions(tantrums).

Hey Ifa, If cleaning up all the mess and preparing stuff backs you off then its not a good excuse to come up with your kids.After all we have only one Birthday in a year to celebrate,why compromise on that day too? Great day and do convey my greetings to the one who celebrated his B'day.

Well i agree with you, you must stick to your budget, so you better buy some cute present for your kid, explain the situation clearly.. Nice discussion friend

Not sure how many kids you have but I had 5. 2 were born in December. then my husbands birthday was around thanksgiving, plus christmas. So what I did was actually make cupcakes or cookies and when it was my kids birthdays I would come in with cupcakes or cookies and they got to share their birthday with a group of kids for a bit at school. If their birthday was in the middle of the week we would go out to eat on the weekend to celebrate their birthday (everyone got a meal that way) If they wanted a kid over I would also have a sleepover for a set amount of children and would have their cake then. But with my 2 of my kids birthdays in Dec they even got tired of all the presents in the same month and so they got the idea to have their birthday in the middle of the year when school was out and I would do like a swim party and the kids stayed on the deck and had grilled hotdogs, chips and lemonade. A few times we got a pinata and we had a mexican theme (I made tacos for the kids) but they all got little prizes out of breaking the pinata. These are some cheap inexpensive ideas and I always used paper plates and cups no mess no waste just throw in the trash. Hope I gave you a few ideas that are a cheaper idea. have a wonderful day

That could be your hardest part of raising a kid.. you can explain maybe by setting an example. i dont know if that is effective but there is no harm in trying....