Left out of the loop

Just a thought to add if it is ok. I've found the same kind of thing but more to do with certain topics being thrown around all the time. If I can make a comparison here about mylot and real life because we both share this thing. Here we can pick and choose our subjects. If I had to talk say about the same thing all the time (say economics) I would go coo coo. This same topic thing happens to me in the company of some of my friends. It is the same topic all the time. It is like brainwashing or something so I feel for you. On another note about relationships specially the romantic kind, I've kept those my secret.

yes i feel so, if you dont want to go into a relationship, please dont go if your mind is not totally wanting that guy, you dont go into a relationship because your friends are talking about it or because your friends are into it, they wont be the one to run your relationship for you with the guy, are they?...its your decision my dear, may be the real guy that will sweep you off your feet is on the way, and you would have gone for the wrong guy, nobdy can tell, but i will advice you my dear to believe in yourself and do what you believe is right and your instinct told you that this is what you really want, please one more thing....just take your time to choose the perfect man for you.

I'm sorry you feel that way. You were like my bestfriend once. She was the last in the group to have a relationship. Before that, she was the one we ran to when we had troubles with our lovelife because we could count on her to be objective and we could run to her for comfort. The good thing about it was that she already had a lot to learn from us so that when she got into a relationship she knew what she wanted, she knew what to avoid. Although her relationship ended as briefly as it came, we knew she was above the situation and chose to do the right thing. Her bf did have some issues and she wasn't the type to hang around even when the relationship was not working anymore. Take this time to learn from your friends' experiences because you can use it as a tool when it's your turn.

good day thresholdofreality, with reference to your topic discussion, it is not really that hard to get out from that type of discussion but, the matter is, your circle of friends are the ones involved in the discussion loop. wherein they are the contributors of the topic being discussed with. as a result, it becomes difficult to excuse your self not to contribute any. and what you feel is somehow a kind of out of place. that you feel being an out of place in the middle of something that you cannot supply any idea at all since you have never been in that situation before. perhaps, try to avoid being with them everyday or set a schedule wherein you will just mingle with them occasionally. hence in this way, you will know yourself better why are you not yet into a relationship, perhaps, you want to do other things aside from being into a relationship. or maybe you want to do something which is really your passion. well, you can divide your schedule and set as to when you will meet your circle of friends. after all, it is all about you and your life's future. have a nice day to you.

i don't know, i am girl so i am not like you same with feeling.. I think you have love,feeling with your friend and you just can't help it to talk relationship. maybe you just feeling nervous or so about talking that.

To tell you the truth, I'm really annoyed if some of friends always talk about their relationships. They talk about it a lot, and i'm tired of listening. Even though i have a boyfriend that time, i don't usually talk about us with my friends. They even tell me that they made love or something. I'm a good listener, But talking too much about it is so annoying. As for you, you can just ignore them, or pretend you're listening. or maybe you can get something from their experiences.

Well being left out in the loop sometimes is hard, and can happen for many people in many situations as they get older. Trying to find people that they can hang around with and will share the same likes and interests gets harder. People get married, have kids, go off to college, get Good careers, etc. and unless you happen to be walking the same path they are it is hard. Maybe you just need to express your feelings a little and find more common interests instead.

I used to be in your position. I was past 30 when I had a boyfriend. So all those years before that I was, most of the time, the single one in the group. Sometimes I would feel so bad. I would question if I deserved being in a relationship. But over time I just learned to love myself enough and believe that even if I don't get married at all, I would still be happy. Maybe that's what fate was waiting for because that's when my guy came to my life. =) You know what, my friends liked to talk to me about their relationship problems because they say that I gave great advice. Maybe because I could look at their problems with objective eyes because I was not jaded or influenced by emotions. That's what they say. =) So, cheer up girl! Enjoy being single. Don't look at what you don't have. Instead look at what you are blessed with. =)