People who ask a lot of money and over spend them

The mentality of many people today is just spend and spend until there is noting left that's why many people straggle financially. They cant control the emotion that comes when they see a lot of money they just want to spend and not thinking what is the consequence of it.

Well I gusse me and my husband would be those people but we don't ask for that much. As you see we have almost 4 of us to support on one income. Rent is very expensive where we live well any where in the US. Babies aren't cheap especially when there is going to be two. But we only ask for what we need some times money for certain bill since my husband gets paid in the off week and $600 goes quick for food, diapers, gas, medical bills and regular bills. My parents where in the same boat years ago. We save very little money but I'm hoping that taxs will help get us on track this year where we don't need money help. Some times we can go 3 weeks with out money till rent. My daughter is able to save more money then us but that is because it's her money I don't touch ever.

yeah, there are people who are like this. they ask for some money from their relatives or family members to spend on their own needs. it is a different thing if they think of others when they buy things. well, you may be right that they are trying to get affection from the one that gives the money. yes, they need to work and earn their own money. it can not go on like that.

Well, it's sometimes a joy to the parents if their children are grown ups and would be given some money by them every now and then. But if the parents will rely on them solely for their needs and continuously even until when the children have their own families when they themselves have some other means, is a bit overboard. The children too should not let them be abusive in matters such as money, specially when they already have their own families if it means that it will make them financially drained. Learn how to tell them lovingly that you too have a family of your own already and its time for them to utilize their own pensions. But if they really have nothing to depend on, then maybe if it wouldn't be too much then you can share some with them .

Good subject. It's hard to make clear to people they should be able to take care of theirself. My grandfather already wanted his 2 (only children) daughters to study so they could take care of theirself. In my country it's normal now you take care of yourself. Which doesn't mean you can bump into the wrong man who makes you pay for everything and leave you behind with sky high debts (happend to me). No I am just re-married. My husband lives in a country where most people don't see the need to work. If one person is working the rest of the family comes over to eat there. They don't feel ashamed about that, don't feel the need to work, to make plans for the future. They all live by the moment (not even the day). So a western man/woman in the family is an easy way of laying your hands on money and to get all the things you want. If you refuse they get angry. They also find it normal to steal from other family members, to cheat, lie and if necessary beg. Promises will always be broken and 1 story changes about a million times. Since in their eyes people from western countries are always rich (even if you have social help/security). So it's important to make clear at the very first start you have nothing and you are not able to pay. And if you are not willing to pay you have to say NO too. You can't say: perhaps or I will think about it or maybe later. This all means: YES to them. To my opinion it's way better for the self esteem (dignity) to have an income of yourself. My father in law is old but he is working in his garden (fruit, vegetables, bees etc) and he is proud of it. I explained that even without a job you have at least food on the table. Which is important. I have to admit that I give as less as possbible and not always to the same people. I don't want them to depend on me because I can't promise I can do it next time again. It might sound hard but I can hardly pay for my own bills and besides of me I have still 3 kids to take care of and the costs here and for them are sky high. I think the only way to make it clear is to stay firm and say: NO

It's ok to ask money if you're really going to spend it with something better right? but if not, it's worth it. I know this happens to family. Sometimes, we depend on someone who has money, and we became lazy because we know that we have someone to get money from. If this abuse is going too far, this should be stopped.

I tend to overspend sometimes and I occasionally have to call my parents and ask them for gas money or something like that. I hate to ask them for money because my dad is on disability and my mom recently was laid off, so I really hate to call them. And usually when I have to, it's because I overspent on something and then something else came up and then I end up not having gas or food. It's hard and I'm really trying to work on that. I'm going to have to work hard because I won't be working full time anymore and I will only have income from school and from what I can earn online. Hopefully I will do alright. But some of us don't have the discipline needed when it comes to money.