Would You Lie To Your Parents To Be With Your Girlfriend/Boyfriend?
@notmuchofablogger (189)
Philippines
January 21, 2012 3:17am CST
A 4-hour bus ride and our hectic schedules separates me from my girlfriend. In a month, we only get to see each other at least twice. And when we are together, we always have to worry about the time since I have a 6pm curfew. For 1 year and six months we are always like this: meet somewhere, enjoy our time together, then go home before 6pm wishing we could prevent the hands of time from ticking so we can be together longer. Trust me, as time goes by, it gets harder and harder to say goodbye to her.
Our class will be having a recollection on Jan 30-31 (that would be overnight) and I'm thinking of lying to my mom about attending it, though the truth is I would be going to my girlfriend's house and spend the night with her. That would be awesome, I guess. One WHOLE day with my girlfriend, no time constraints, no Mom to worry about.
If you are in my situation, would you lie to your mom? As of now, I still cannot make up my mind. I badly want to be with my girlfriend for a whole day but my conscience is kind of getting in my way.
Please tell me your opinions on this matter, specially for those who are already moms. I would like to know what would you feel if your daughter would lie to you just to be with her lover?
Thank you in advance awesome people. :)
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4 responses
@Luciano63 (157)
• France
21 Jan 12
Hi, you are 25 years old so not a teenager...why would you like to lye to your mom at this age? I would tell her simply the truth because I think that at your age it is normal you have a girlfriend and that you would like to spend more time with her. I do not know from which country you are...maybe there are cultural or traditional barriers, but still do not lye! Imagine you lye and spend the night with your girlfriend and suddenly something happens that will automaticly reveal the truth...you will be in deep problems!
@notmuchofablogger (189)
• Philippines
21 Jan 12
I'm actually nineteen. Lol. I was just being lazy when I was signing up for Mylot so I just picked whatever year for my birthday. :)
That's also one reason that keeps me from pursuing my plan. My girlfriend and I would definitely be in big trouble if my mother finds out. Maybe because of that she would not let us see each other for a while.
But the thing is, if I tell her the truth, if I tell her that I'll be spending the night with my girlfriend, she would not let me.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
22 Jan 12
I don't usually lie to my mom. If there is anything I can't tell her I just wouldn't tell but lying is something I just can't do with her. I think that your mom has the right to know about what or where you're going so as she won't be worried if anything happens to you. You can introduce your girl to her so you can be free on going out with her any time and any day. Don't skip the recollection as I know most universities requires every student to attend it.
@LovingLife139 (1504)
• United States
21 Jan 12
Wow, I like being part of an "awesome people" before I even decide to respond to the discussion... 
There's one piece of information I think we, as a collective group of awesome people, need to continue giving you advice. I'm not quite certain if your mother is aware of this relationship at all, and if so, how does she feel about it? I think my advice to you would be vastly different depending on if your mother knew and was against the relationship, or if she didn't know and you weren't giving her a chance to know.
If your mother doesn't know about this girl or your relationship with her, tell her. Be honest. Lying is one of the weakest things a person can do, because sometimes honesty is challenging, yet it paves a smoother future. If your mother does know and doesn't like the girl, have you heard her out on it? Do you know why she doesn't like her, and does she have a point? Or, finally, if this is a normal teenage relationship where your mother knows and she's just setting boundaries that you don't like, look past that and realize that while you are a minor under mom's roof, you follow her rules.
I was sixteen when I met my husband. At the time, my dad had an issue with it because I was a minor at sixteen, and Tim was twenty-one. Thankfully, my dad met him over dinner and realized he was a good guy with loving intentions, but if he still had been against the relationship simply over age, I have to be honest: I would have snuck. I didn't believe in love at first sight until it happened to me, and I knew that this man was the one I would marry. Nothing could have kept me from him, and if my father would have tried simply because of an age difference, that would have been an ignorant decision and I would have done everything possible to see the man. However, I've always had an instinctual gut feeling that's never served me wrong, the same feeling that told me I needed to date this man regardless. Many people don't have that, and their judgements get skewed over love. Many times there are valid reasons why parents try to keep their kids away from potential dates, so if this is the case with you, hear your mom out before casting her opinion to the side.
There's one piece of information I think we, as a collective group of awesome people, need to continue giving you advice. I'm not quite certain if your mother is aware of this relationship at all, and if so, how does she feel about it? I think my advice to you would be vastly different depending on if your mother knew and was against the relationship, or if she didn't know and you weren't giving her a chance to know.
If your mother doesn't know about this girl or your relationship with her, tell her. Be honest. Lying is one of the weakest things a person can do, because sometimes honesty is challenging, yet it paves a smoother future. If your mother does know and doesn't like the girl, have you heard her out on it? Do you know why she doesn't like her, and does she have a point? Or, finally, if this is a normal teenage relationship where your mother knows and she's just setting boundaries that you don't like, look past that and realize that while you are a minor under mom's roof, you follow her rules.
I was sixteen when I met my husband. At the time, my dad had an issue with it because I was a minor at sixteen, and Tim was twenty-one. Thankfully, my dad met him over dinner and realized he was a good guy with loving intentions, but if he still had been against the relationship simply over age, I have to be honest: I would have snuck. I didn't believe in love at first sight until it happened to me, and I knew that this man was the one I would marry. Nothing could have kept me from him, and if my father would have tried simply because of an age difference, that would have been an ignorant decision and I would have done everything possible to see the man. However, I've always had an instinctual gut feeling that's never served me wrong, the same feeling that told me I needed to date this man regardless. Many people don't have that, and their judgements get skewed over love. Many times there are valid reasons why parents try to keep their kids away from potential dates, so if this is the case with you, hear your mom out before casting her opinion to the side.
@cairalyssa (1402)
• Malaysia
21 Jan 12
I wanna be awesome too!! :p
Why would you lie to your mom about it? Is she not ok the fact that you are having someone special in your life? im sure she would understand as she has also went thru her young age..
Im a mother so i rather be a friend to my kid instead than not knowing what they are doing behind my back..
