I am not happy anymore..

I really felt sad for the present status of you and your boyfriend. After all the time that you've been together, you come to realize you are not happy anymore being with him. If you think your relationship is not working anymore, then it is best to end it up. You, yourself already made a decision. I think it is wise. Though before you take that kind of action, you should talk with your boyfriend about that matter so he will be made aware of it. I wish you good luck in your love life. I know it will be a hard process for you.

I think that you have already answered your own question. You have told us that he does not appreciate you, and in fact takes you for granted. You have also mentioned that you no longer love your boyfriend. Now here is what I am thinking: If you are having trouble now and you know that you don't love him, what do you think is going to happen if you stay with him? The answer is pretty clear, it is only going to get worse. If you are not happy with the relationship, you should end it. Being in a relationship is supposed to be about a couple loving, caring and showing respect to one another. I don't think that I see either of those things. I think that you need to sit back, and think about wether or not you are willing to continue in this relationship the way that it is. No one can make that choice for you, you are the one that is going to have to live with this guy. Having said that, I KNOW that if the guy I was seeing was treating me like garbage, I would leave him. He is not the only guy out there and I KNOW that there are guys out there that would love to have a girl to spoil and treat like a queen. It doesn't seem like this is the guy for you. I hope you find someone better suited to your needs, good luck and happy mylotting.

Sorry to read that you are sad right now. We all experience this from time to time. And it makes us a tinnie tiny bit less when we are able to reach out to someone. Because there is always someone that understands this. It sounds like a good time to examine your relationship and what it means to you. Where you would like to see it go, how important the other person really is to you. There are always things that will bring problems and issues and they way that both people react will work on the relationship. Wether that be something good or bad. To many bad, or negative areas will make you want to stop doing this. Its no fun to be in a bad relationship. But there are some things that just annoy you but you can still be happy. Ask yourself some of these things and really be honest either way. I know I can get into a rather sad state just in general. But I am still totally in love. There are just little rough patches. But your heart will tell you if this one is more than a patch.

i think you must ask your deeply heart ...always and always ask..are you still happy with this situation, are you still happy with him??are you comfortable with him?? and if the answer said No, you must think twice about your relationship and ask again your heart, is it not bad for you if you said thats end our relationship?? and if the answer said you are okay even you are not with him anymore, maybe you begin to said to him, that you are not suitable for him

If I began courting a girl a year or so ago, I already lost her this year. But then, many women do not wish that the man prolong the agony so I think getting into relationships would be a sure thing and should never be delayed. Still, it depends on the maturity of the guy or the strength by the girl to stay standing amid the storm. You are weak girl, a guy will never set his sights to you. Just saying..

Hi jdex. I'm sad that you are unhappy but i'm glad too that you are on to your road to knowing what your next move will be. Solution to a problem comes when you recognize that a problem exist. For one you expressed that you have no one to talk too. I get the feeling that you have closed your door to communication. Don't please. Talk to him and tell him what you feel... you might realize he is not conscious that you feel he is taking you for granted. One year is too short to know your man fully. During the conversation, find out for yourself if it helps to be honest with him or if it helps you ease your burden to confess that you are "thinking" of leaving him. Oh by the way, search yourself for other reasons why you think you want to leave him. I am certain, you had more than just one reason for loving him. So there must be more reasons to leave him. Dear always remember "haste makes waste"...... God bless.

If the relationship is that new and you already feel that way you should probably think long and hard about leaving now. Once you have been in 5-10 years or more it is much more difficult to leave. By that time you make plenty of excuses why you should just hang on and deal with the problems. However, if the problems are never dealth with the relationship will always be the same.

If you don't love him , he doesn't make you happy or you are not happy, then it is time to go. You should Want to be with him. Want to spend time with him doing anything or nothing! But if you feel used by him and you are not happy , what ever relationship you had is over. I'm sorry.

Yes I think you should leave. Take it from someone who stayed in a marriage for about two YEARS longer than I should have. If you are feeling like this now, it is highly unlikely that you will change your opinion later on, although it is not totally impossible. I just feel that it is better to get out of the relationship now instead of looking back later on regretting the time you wasted and wishing you had listened to your feelings now instead of later. It is said that your first impression or answer to a question is usually the correct one, and my first reaction when I read your discussion was to tell you that you should leave. If he is taking you for granted now, it is unlikely that he will change…

you didnt say how he is taking advantage of you? frankly if you dont love someone, why would you stay with them? isnt that a waste of your life? cant you just talk to him about how you feel? maybe he feels the same. you could just be friends and move on to someone you love.

You have to do soemthing, at present time you are living a lie and that is not good for either of you. First make very sure that you don't want to continue a love relationship. Second think of how you can change the relationship with the least pain to him. Third do it and make sure it is very clear that it is over. Who knows maybe you will be able to be friends some time in the future. Blessings

good day jdex_143, honestly when i have ready your topic, it is like a whirlwind that blows back to me. that what you are feeling now is almost the same as i have felt few days ago. that few days ago, i am thinking to leave my boyfriend and ask for some space in our relationship. but, i have not done that during that time because i was in the middle of the situation. and being at the height of it, i have learn not to do any move or decision as this will not do any help. so i have decided to think the next day. thus, it made me think of a better way. i have not ask for some space neither i did not leave my boyfriend, instead, i have talked to him heart to heart and we able to resolved the issue. so now, we are okay. hope you can also resolved your issue with your boyfriend. cheers.

Good choice stating it here as there are many people here whom you can consult. Based on how your relationship has been, it would all be different stories. I would like to first say that if you have given him your virginity, then it would be far more difficult to leave him and I hope that you have not done it with him yet. I myself am someone who detest taking the easy way out which is seperation but if things are really not according to how they should be then why sacrifice your happiness for someone who does not seem to care about it? Before deciding something like that, try to take one last leap. Talk it over with him first and express how you feel about your relationship with him. Him knowing how you feel would allow him to realize how the relationship is going in your perception. Next, you should try setting up something that you used to do together or something you usually do with him during the first few months of your relationship so as to let both of you feel what you have been missing that had a part in both of you loving each other. Remember that in a relationship, it takes both parties to act. It never should be the guy doing everything like giving gifts, giving support, setting up dates, etc. I hope I have helped you and if you need more, just feel free to message me. I have alot of female friends who come talk to me. It is up to you to make the final decision though. We are just here to give you the support you need.

I believe that if you were pressed to even post this in here, then you should let go of the relationship and don't even think of having him as a friend coz who needs people who take advantage of you. Better to nip off this relationship in the bud. That's my advice but do what you have to do. All the best.

Ofcourse you should. Life is too short to stay with someone you aren't happy with. Be tactful and honest. I would pick a good time and just talk to him. You should let him go or you will be very unhappy. Talk to him! If you can't it isn't much of a relationship anyway.

I think it is the right time for you to leave your boyfriend because your not yet marriage. As you said your not happy anymore with your boyfriend, so better to get off while still not marriage. Because when you get marriage that's a hard part due to some circumstances like filing a divorce any legal matter make people life worse... Consider the words of God that he hates divorce and when you get marriage you forever be bind into the laws of God. Since your still free from that words better leave...and find the better person with you. A person that really loves you and makes happy as you want

If you are not happy in your relationship, and don't love him anymore you should just end it. Maybe wait a week or so and if you still feel the same way, let him go. It is unfair to both of you to stay in a relationship that isn't going anywhere. You both could find someone you are happier with. If you aren't happy then, chances are your not making him happy either.

Hi jdex: I think that's really sad but at the same time you should not take a final decision so fat. Maybe you are just going through a bad moment right now. After all you have been together for months there maybe a chance. try to talk to him and work together to save your relationship. ALVARO

Hi Jdex. Is there anything happen to your relationship? Did he do anything that make you feel that way?? I am sure there is reasons for it. I am not sure if I missed your discussions. Sorry if I did miss your discussion about things happened between you two. But you are the one who know well whether you should stay or leave him. For me if no one make mistake there will be no flame between two people but if there is any and you can't take it then you might consider to take the end as your decision. Take car yourself, friend.

I am sorry to hear that you are having relationship trouble. We all go through things like this. Now you said that you don't feel like you love him anymore, if thats true then you should let him go. Because if you stay with him you would become more miserable. But if you're not sure, then have a talk with him. Make him listen to you and your feelings. It might be that both of you have grown apart and then it would be easier to split up. Don't hold on to something that is not there.