Jealousy
By Laur1220
@Laur1220 (4)
United States
January 23, 2012 12:32am CST
My sister, who is only a year younger than I, is married, has a great job, and is expecting a baby girl in June. While I am very happy for her, I find that I am a bit jealous as I am single, work at a job I do not like, etc. Has anyone else ever felt jealous of a sibling? Do you feel as guilty as I do about it?
3 responses
@bluangel628 (383)
• Philippines
24 Jan 12
I think it's not jealousy but may I say envy. I felt that same way towards my best friend. Reason being, back in college, I used to be the one who has everything she has right now. It's like the wheels had turned and I'm currently at the pit. We both have good husbands but it seems she and her family looks happier than mine. I felt guilty over this because I know it's not right to get envy or jealous over the success of your friend or happiness of your friend. Being an eldest daughter over a brood of three kids, I don't know how is it to envy or jealous. That's why I feel guilty because I know it's not right. But anyway, it's human to be jealous. Thinking on the bright side, it allows me to exert more effort than being contented. Push my self to limits I know I can reach.
@Laur1220 (4)
• United States
24 Jan 12
That is a very good point- I should also try to use these feelings of jealousy or envy to better myself, as a benchmark for what I too can achieve. When we were young, I think my sister may have been a little jealous of me because I always had great grades, won awards, etc. and was able to to earn my parent's pride. Now it seems to be the other way around-she has the husband, the baby on the way, the good job and I feel like I am stadning still. Time to get moving I guess!
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
23 Jan 12
Jealousy come to all of us from time to time. It is the worse kind of feelings that can retard our growth as the mind is occupied by envy and good thoughts are left behind. When we fill ourselves with positive emotions like courage and confidence, faith, they will help us to solve the dilemma of the moment.
@Laur1220 (4)
• United States
23 Jan 12
Your point is valid and understood, however the past has shown me that if I become hopeful or confident about something, I am always disappointed in some way by the outcome. This can be frustrating as a common occurance. I look at my sister and think 'When is it my turn to just be happy?'.
@countrygirl12989 (54)
• United States
24 Jan 12
Yes. I have felt that way with my little sister as well. She has everything paid for by our parents; college, rent, all bills, gas, everything. Shes 20 and I'm 22. I have been totally on my own since I've been 18. I pay my own rent, and for everything involved for living. I'm not in school because my parents can't help me and I don't get enough help from the government. She has life made for her and I struggle just to get through every day.
