Do you have a favorite child just like my friend?

Hello there @Lhenni! I believe that children are gifts from God and they are precious. I have two daughters who have a different personality. One is a silent more serious one and the other is the bubbly, talkative one but I love them both equally. I think these difference in their personality makes them more interesting and fun. I don't play favorite because both of them are my favorite. I always believe that they are unique in their own way and they make me and my husband happy and grateful just by looking at them. So, I hope that your friend will realize that playing favorite is not a smart thing to do. Doing so will only create some resentment especially if the other siblings will be aware that their mother or parent is obviously playing favorite. They will then compete with each other because they want the same attention that are not given to them and thus lead to sibling rivalry and compromises their relationship as brother or sister.

I only have one child right now. I plan to have more, but we'll see when/if that happens. I don't think you have to give your kids everything the same - one might prefer sports while another might like music - but they should all be equally loved. If I loved one of my children more than another (because you can't control your emotions) I would certainly never say it out loud. And I would make sure that each child got equal opportunity at whatever they were interested in. This doesn't mean every child would get something at the same time though. My sister when we were growing up was more interested in art, so my parents got her art supplies. When they bought her art supplies and paid for classes, they didn't buy things for the rest of us at the same time because we didn't need those things. At other times, I wanted to take an extra class and it didn't mean my siblings got one too, because each child only got things as they needed them. It was very fair though. My parents didn't have a favourite, they just wanted us each to be able to do things.

Hello Lhenni, I have two kids (twins)and i love my daughter more than my son but when it comes to their needs i treat my both kids equal its nothing that i do more for my daughter and less for my son and those who do it in my opinion they do it wrong they should treat all their kids equally.

wow thats mean to not treat your children equal. she should love all of them and treat them all the same. but i have one daughter i love her so much and i know if i have my next child i would treat them equal. but i have seen this before my aunt haves 4 baby daddys she gave up all of them to there fathers she only kept her first child because she loved her the most.

Hi Lhenni! I have no kids yet, coz im still single. hehe! But I am the eldest in the family,so i understand this kind of situation. I dont think i experience the same with regards to my mom. I can feel that my mom has no favorites. She treats and loves us equally. But my dad, I can feel that his favorite is the youngest, his only son. Like, okay he's your only child, but what about us? the schooling, the material things we are given equally, but the attention, the care and the love, my dad loves the youngest more than he loves us (if he still does). I didnt get much attention from my dad as much as our youngest brother is getting right now. But its okay, I still have my mom. Anyway, your friend must understand her belief, i dont think its worth it, shes relying from a sort of predictions or hearsays, she has other kids with her, so she shouldnt be stupid enough to neglect her other kids because of a mere hope for her luck.