Are you able to love someone the same way as you loved before?

I'm currently engaged to a new partner now and I'm trying to fall in love, but I was burned horribly by my last lover. We had worked together, then when my husband left me, he made his move. It was seven years of being lied too, and when I had finally had enough, we broke up. Then I met my new partner and while I love him very much, I'm not IN love yet. It'll take me a while to fall in love but I'm fine with that.

With me by the time my guy met me I had my mended heart. It had been a long hard journey but I was completely over my ex. So it was easy to love my guy with all my heart. So yes it is possible . I'm living proof. But like I said I did the work of mending my broken heart first.

i won't love the same way. I will be more careful and understanding to keep our relationship working and avoid the same mistakes in the past which ruined my past relationship. If possible, i will choose a man thats better than my ex and will not compare him with the past. I will move on from my past and learn from it.

You cannot fully love another unless you have forgiven yourself. If one has learn to forget about his or her past relationship it only means that he or she has forgiven himself or herself, relationship that did not last means there's something bad happen, like lack of time, lack of affection, and lost of intimate interest onto each other, once in a relationship it is our duty and responsibility to keep that fire inside our heart, so once we are unable to keep that we somehow feel guilty and often think and dream that we could bring back the hands of time, or we are longing for that second chance to fill what we unable to give. Because of these factor we are unable to give our full heart into our next relationship.

This is a tough question for me as I am going through something these days. There was a guy who patiently waits for me no matter how many times I told him I am not interested as I have a BF. When he learned that me and BF is on the rocks, he again reminded me that he's just there and waiting for me. The problem is sometimes I don't know if I am capable to love another when I have already loved someone for so many years. Maybe time will be the best healer, and in the right time our heart will actually make us feel that we are alright, healed, and ready to love again.

honestly speaking the answer is NEVER.because first love is very special for everyone.and if it is not working then after sometime then nobody can forget this and there is always place in your heart and in your mind about your first love. and if i am talking about myself then i can not love anyone in my whole like my first love.because i love her so much and if she ditch met(I am sure she does not do this) then i will never in condition to love any girl in future. and if i will try this then it is like cheating.

I am always able to love again I'm just more selective, but definitely not pretending forgiving is hard, but I can leave him in the past and love someone new without much problem as long as this new person has nothing to do with my ex, e.g. not friends etc which means he won't remind me of the past one thing though: I love because I love. not because the other person loves me first. just as I can't make anyone love me, no matter how much I love them

From experience point of view.. The first person I loved is still the person I love even though that I had gone by 2 relationships. It is difficult for me for some reasons to forget. We have been good friends for like 8 years, but it is still there the lingering feeling that I wish stuff.. But is not bad to give yourself a chance to love someone else, you might not know right?

Through your life you constantly change, and adapt, and learn. As a teenager/young person when we first fall in love there is so much mentally, and hormonally going on, changes within or brain. At this time we feel extremes. I thin that each time you love, you love differently, and you express yourself differently as suits you at that time of life. As you get older and more rounder in character, it can be a more realistic, rational, and enduring love. You do not any partner the same, but you can love as completely and wonderfully as before. If you have an aching hole from the past, this needs to be resolved , new love does not 'fix' old pain. The pain must be worked through, if you feel that you are pretending to love, you are not with the right person, or in the right place mentally to take on a new relationship.

As guess love is active , today i love u less maybe tomorrow i love your more and such , once heart is hurt , sometime the scar pain is still there even after long time , it is hard to forget or forgive, so in new relationship will be effected also , because the trauma of being wrong again betrayed again hurt again is still there and become more protective and less trusting and such in the new relationship.

Hi princelierocks, Hope your mylotting day is great, In my opinion you can never feel the same for a different person, you can love less or more but not in the same manner people are different and they come in different points of your life so for me. No you can't love two people in the same way.

I have been through some relationships before already and I have to say, I have never loved anybody this way before. I am currently in a relationship. I've been in bad relationships, thinking that HE would be the one but I was wrong. I found someone better. Am I able to love my new partner the same way? NO. Because this time, I am giving more. Yes, meeting the past partners would be awkward in a way but keeping in mind that you have someone new and someone better would bring your heart at ease. Goodluck on love! :)

i do love someone as i used to love them before minus the excitements i agree.. But even a scare of losing her sends a shiver down my body.. And i hope and i know am going to be with her for the rest of my life.. To answer your question new partner?? i cant just even imagine all those things again with some one else.. For me, Love happen only once, rest is just life!!

I believe that you always love the people you have fell in love with, however you love them in a different way. You love them like you like family and close friends, not "in love" love anymore. From personal experience, I have fell into a deeper kind of love with the next person to come along. You learn from your past relationships and this allows you to grow. Each relationship will be different and when you totally get over your previous "in loves" you will fall into a deeper "love" with your new significant other.

I do think the past plays a part in how we love in the future. But I don't think it dictates how we love. I think we are able to love in the same manner maybe a little more when we realize and appreciate that we can love someone without being hurt. I think despite my past hurt and bad relationships, I love my boyfriend more because I know he would cause me pain on purpose or cheat on me. I remember my past, but it is not ruling my life or my relationship.

i believe there will always be a spot in my heart for all the men i loved before. we may move on but we cannot forget unless we're having an amnesia. i can say that my love though gets deeper as i get into newer relationship. the past helps me to get mature in handling relationships. when i love, i give my best but if it doesn't work, let it go. if i think of them being there at the same time and i would choose, it's always the current one that i pick. i may not love him in the same way as i loved before but i'm sure that i'm loving him more than i loved before.

According to my self no...and why? because every love is different and every individual is unique! I have fall in love many times in my life...and every time was different...all love leave a print in our soul some deeper than others! and yes if I had the opportunity to love again I would love like I never loved any one because this person is unique on him self and is a new life...the past is left behind.

for me, i don't love someone the same way i loved before..i usually love more than i used to love someone before..because when i enter a relationship, i will make sure that i have gone through the heartaches of my past..and i'm totally healed and is read to love even more..pain is always there..but it can be choice..

I do love someone the way i used to love them before because she is still the same person.. And i hope and i know she is going to be the same person for the rest of my life.. But to answer your question... New partner?? can not even imagine letting someone else take her place and share things like i used to before.. So for me... Love happens only once,, rest is just life!!

I do love someone the way i loved before because she is still the same person.. And i hope and i know i am going to be with her for my whole life.. But to your answer your question!! New partner?? can not even imagine letting some one else to take her place and share things like i used to.. For me.. love happens only once, rest is just !!life