My Parents Are Not Allowing Me To Use Mobilephones.....:( :(
By Dassodils
@Dassodils (2010)
India
January 24, 2012 10:36am CST
Hai friends..
I am sad....I don't have a mobile phone...The reason is that my parents..They are saying that if we use mobile phones, the character will be changed..especially in the case of teenagers..All my friends have mobile phones...But I don't have one with me to use..I am really sad...We are studying so far from my home..And that's the reason that My friends are bringing phones...We are regularly go to college from home and come back to the same place...So a phone is essential to me...But they are not allowing me to use or buy a mobile...What is your opinion friends????Thank you..
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21 responses
@cearn25 (3456)
• Philippines
24 Jan 12
Your parents are right. They want only the best for you. However, cellular phones can't be really a reason why they didn't want you to bring it. It depends on how one use it. Well, your parents are just being protective. Why don't you tell them that you will not use it for bad? Everybody has mobile phones. Mobile phones are very important in order to communicate with people important to us.
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@Dassodils (2010)
• India
24 Jan 12
But no use Cearn..Not only my parents..My mom's brother is also oppose to this matter... :(
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@yaso4u (502)
• India
24 Jan 12
Hi Dassodils,
All parents are like this only ! ! By seeing or hearing about misuse of phones by students parents tend to act like this, actually its not good.
We need cell phones with us when we left the home, if something happens suddenly we need some medium to communicate with parents. Luckily for our generation technology had grown and cell phones were available, hence we need to make use of it.
In otherwise, we must phone in better manner. We can some unwanted things like avoid over usage of SMS, taking unwanted photos, usage of mobiles in class rooms etc.,
In your case, better sit with your parents and talk to them, give some basic assurance and also tell about its advantages too. Hope they will accept your argument and bought you new mobile for you !
All the best !
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@Dassodils (2010)
• India
24 Jan 12
Oh..Really nice to hear that..Surely I will feel like a dream on that time...I hope that god will help me to achieve my goal.. :) :)
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@GardenGerty (159754)
• United States
24 Jan 12
I am probably going to side with your parents. Phones are tools, and if you needed one in an emergency it would be nice to have, but it can be a real distraction. I hope you can work these things out with your parents.
@Dassodils (2010)
• India
24 Jan 12
They can give me a phone and can check when ever they want...But they 'll not allow that to me.. :(
@hoodedboi (185)
• Philippines
24 Jan 12
Well, i think you should be thankful that they care for you so much. Yes with mobile phones your character might change in ways that you wont be able to notice, and aside from that there are a lot of mobile predators right now, and maybe that's the main reason why your parents are not allowing you to use one, just for now. What you can do, is that focus on your studies first, be good.. and prove to them that you are responsible enough, so that the time would come when they would be able to trust you with a mobile phone.
@seobuzz (1120)
• India
24 Jan 12
I think a mobile phone is the gadget which you need very urgently. Going through your situation I can understand why you need mobile phone
but I am promising that I will not inform your parent about that.
I can give you a solution for your case, although temporary. As you said you are studying away from home, with some other girls and they have the mobile. So your room partner should also have mobile. In that case just use that mobile and give him that number.![](/Content/images/emotes/happy.gif)
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@Dassodils (2010)
• India
24 Jan 12
Hai Seo...
I like to get a phone to contact with all my friends and family members...Tnak you
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@killerblowXIII (123)
• Philippines
25 Jan 12
Your parents is right. Some teenager do change they behavior after using cellphones. Some of them become obsess with texting lose their time on reality. I had one friend when his phone went missing he started blaming his parents. Saying that they take his phone and hide it. But you're right telecommunication is important you will need it in case of emergency. So maybe talk to your parents and work things out. Like saying you will only use it in case of emergency.
You need to be honest, why do you need it? Is it because your friends have it? or you want to text someone? that's not a good reason you know. Maybe you will get influence by others and you will neglect your studies. I can see in this post that you are easily get influenced by others. Please talk to your parents if you really want one. I'm sorry if i sound rude :(
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
30 Jan 12
I personally think that when you are on your own and away from home it is a good thing to have a mobile phone that you are able to use. I was seventeen when I got my first mobile phone because I was driving at that time and it was important for me to be able to get in touch with my mother or someone if there was anything that would have happened to me. I have had the same mobile number for 15 years this coming April.
As for my daughter, when she starts to take part in a lot of extracurricular activities when she is in middle school or high school, I will get her a mobile phone as well.
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
28 Jan 12
Hi Dassodils: I honestly think that your parents decision is not fair because they think that using a mobile phone will change your character which is not necessary truth. You just need to show them that you are already responsible and that having a cell phone won't make you change your priorities and also that you won't waste too much time on your cell phone.
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@gmkumar08 (396)
• India
30 Jan 12
Same problem with me too,my friend!!!In the beginning,i felt bad about it,but,now,i think i got used to that feeling,and trust me,i say it's better not to have one.All my friends have mobiles and all are addicted to it.Now,i feel it's better i don't have one coz i don't like spending all my time on that piece of thing!!!
Cheers,..
@varier (5685)
• Indonesia
30 Jan 12
Your parent aren't allowing you to use phone because a reason. And you should understand that reason. Tell me what's your parents' reason and then I can give more objective opinion.
But probably, I'll stand aside your parents..
By the way, at your age, I should be able to buy a cheap mobile phones one, by just doing lots of saving. Why don't you try it as well?
@microengineer (587)
• Indonesia
25 Jan 12
I suggest you to get simple cellphone. Only in case of emergency. In your age, I think it is normal to have cell phone. I think your parents already over.
@svjomboy (873)
• Philippines
26 Jan 12
I think your parents have an point why she gets your mobile but for me it depends how you get bad influence of mobile, coz on my part i use childrens carry mobile so we can call them what ever they can come home late. Using mobile in a right way is good.
@lijoos (346)
• India
30 Jan 12
i hate moblile phones..now i am using it because i cant avoid it as i am far away from home.but its beeter to here songs,photo,net its nice.
i hate mobile because it paved the way for my lost love.
mobile is necessary but we are misusing it.
i am not worried of giving you a mobile phone...because i know your character you will never misuse it.
every parents have fear,even i am afraid of giving a mobile to my sister.because its very is to trap teenage girls through mobile.its true..i hAVE MY EXPERIANCE..
I REALY USED THE MOBILE PHONE WHAEN I HAVE MY LOVE.NOW LESS CALLS LESS TALKING...
DONT WORRY THEY WILL GIVE YOU THE MOBILE WHEN IT THEY FEEL IT NECESSARY.
@grebsie (69)
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24 Jan 12
@Dassodils
Well, your parents are a bit old-fashioned in this day and age. However, I think to have an emergency phone in the pocket is a must in this crazy world, especially for a girl. If we look around these days, teenagers with heads down are staring into their phones and checking calls, texting, everywhere. Not only teenagers, almost everybody. It is sick.
Nowadays, you won't even get robbed in New York City for everybody around has a cell phone, ready to call police, which is good. I really 'love', when some idiot next to me is having a loud conversation on his stupid phone!
On the other hand, what you could do though, if you really want a mobile phone so bad, for an emergency purpose and/or contact with friends, I'd suggest, get yourself a cheap, second hand one, operating with a phone card you buy every month, and nobody has to know anything. There is no record that you own a phone. When at home, hide it, don't use it. Good luck.
@youless (112358)
• Guangzhou, China
24 Jan 12
In fact I agree to the children to have cellphones. I know that it can somewhat affect to their study. But everything is the same when you use it in a wrong way. At least I can contact my child by the cellphone anytime and this can make me feel released. And if he has something emergency, at least he can make a call for help. So in my opinion having the cellphone for a child is much more important. But here the children don't allow to have cellphones. Or at least they can't bring them to school. But if you are already a college student, it doesn't matter. But you have to set your cellphone as the silent mode when you have a lesson. I am a little surprised that your parents don't allow you to have a cellphone since you are not little child any more. Besides, you live far from home. I hope your parents will be much more understanding and let you have a cellphone soon. A simple cellphone doesn't cost much. And it doesn't have more features and therefore it will not have a big negative effect on your study.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
25 Jan 12
Well, since you are studying in a far place from your home, a mobile phone is needed. That way, communication between you and your parents will be facilitated.
You can explain it to them in a loving way. For sure, if they have the money, they will buy you one and one for themselves.
@Bluedoll (16774)
• Canada
24 Jan 12
I've heard of one parent not allowing her daughter to go to rock concerts. Now what is wrong with that? Young people have gotten trampled and killed at some rock concerts. Why not look at the advantages and disadvantages of mobile phones. They are very helpful in a emergency. They are harmful to your health. Discuss it with your parents?
As an educational topic, it is a good one too, mobile phones, even phones (like other forms of technology) have had good and bad effects on mankind?
@CODYMAC (1356)
• San Diego, California
25 Jan 12
Hello, Dassodils. It is really not that great to have a mobile phone because it is expensive, and it could get in the way of things in the family. I just started a business and I need one to keep it running. But teenagers have alot on their plate as it is.
You do not need any distractions when you are trying to get an education. Just do not worry and you will be old enough to make your own decissions soon. You should be focusing on your career or some field of study instead of wanting a phone to talk about what Suzy wore in class today.
Maybe I am wrong in what I said, but you know what I mean. I think that your parents have a good reason for it and you really should understand it. I see that they really care about you. Have a great day. :)
@arjunm (439)
• India
25 Jan 12
Dear friend don't be upset. i understand your situation that you have face now. but parents what should they do that's not but for good for their children. its absolutely right that a mobile has to change the image of life. life become critical after buy the mobile. i have lot of experiences in that cases. so, as a true friend i must say that keep patience to your real age for overcome your teenage your parents should realize the entire situation and also give you a cell phone.
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