I want you back baby
By alina
@swissheart (6482)
Romania
January 24, 2012 5:18pm CST
let's say you were in a relationship and you ended getting dumped for someone else. but after a few weeks you partner comes back to you telling you that he is sosrry and that he wants you back. he keeps making all kind of promises...that everyhting is going to be great between you, that he is going to change and so on...what would you do in this situation?
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9 responses
@countrygirl12989 (54)
• United States
24 Jan 12
If you decide to try again take things VERY slowly. baby steps, however from experience if something doesn't work once it won't work twice and you'll be hurt again in the long run.
@Angelee_27 (3460)
• United States
24 Jan 12
I agree that you should take these slowly... in any beginning or renewed relationship. 
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
24 Jan 12
as you said...what doesn't work the first time it won't work the second in most of the cases
I was in this sistuation. he didn't dump me for another girl but the idea is that after a week he came back to me telling me that he wants us to get back together. and stupid me I accepted...just to get dumped again a few days later..you can imagine how I felt. this is why I swore to myself that I would never repeat this experience again
@Angelee_27 (3460)
• United States
24 Jan 12
Although that does happen quite a bit, it doesn't always happen. It's up to your whether you love the person enough to give the relationship another chance and take the risk of getting hurt again.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
25 Jan 12
Speaking from my own experience, I did forgive someone I love for _nth times.
I can't remember how many times did I ever forgive him.
Until one day I woke up and found that love is not there anymore.
And...I finally made up my mind..
I ended our relationship and I never regretted doing so...
I am happy with my life now without him around.
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
25 Jan 12
it's good that you found the courage to do that. I think it made you feel much better that you left him
@CelticSoulSister (1640)
• Southend-On-Sea, England
26 Jan 12
I'd give him just one more chance, and insist that we sat down together and had a long, peaceful talk about what went wrong and why he felt the need to dump me in the first place, plus why he felt the need to come back to me. If he blew that second chance, then for me he'd have blown any future chances of getting our relationship back together.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
25 Jan 12
No thanks. I don't like to be dumped and only be good enough if that other person dumps him.
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
25 Jan 12
as you said I don't think i could accept him back in this situation. if he left me for another woman this means he considered I"m not good enough for him. and later all of a sudden he changes and decides he was wrong? I would feel like I don't respect myself enough
@bubuth (1815)
• Philippines
8 Mar 12
I think if i was in that kind of situation i will give him another chance if i really see to him that he change for the better and he will not cheat again or i see to him that he will not do the same mistake again. But if he do that again for the third time i will not give another chance. I believe in what other said like "one is enough two is too much".
@leeannahewitt21 (97)
• United States
26 Jan 12
i would just tell him i am sorry but i can't keep doing this with you all the time
@novelcai (600)
• Philippines
25 Jan 12
Hi there swissheart,
Other people say when they fall inlove they started in zero then just growing up as the days pass by depends on their relationship. Im kinda different. If I say yes i love you too means i already gave you my 100% then it also depends on the relationship on how that 100% will stay.
About your question.. yes maybe i will still accept him because i still love him BUT watch out.. dont wait until the time i say NO. because whatever he do to impress me or say any promises again or even jump in a building the answer will be still no. :)
@Angelee_27 (3460)
• United States
24 Jan 12
It depends on how much I believed that person if they were being sincere or not, and if I really loved them enough to give them another chance in hopes that it would work out between us.
